Coworker snapped at the dress I'm wearing

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I’m wearing a three-quarter length thin white crepe fabric sleeved dress with black ric rac at the bottom. It’s quite sheer, but it’s lined and I’m fine wearing it. It’s boho and vintage. I have thick black tights on with it and black ankle boots. My coworker, who works next door, came in and said, “Aren’t you cold in that”? I said, “No, I’m fine”. She said, “No you’re not”.
Well, I am! I wouldn’t have worn it if I wasn’t OK in it.
The dress is a bit like this:
https://froufroufrocksboutique.com/products/ent-ecru-plus-ric-rac-midi-dress
What I’m really asking is why has what I’m wearing got anything to do with anyone?

@SpidersAreShitheads this is a fair comment and I haven't read all of the comments but if they are also judging what people wear then I guess they can fuck off 2 lol. Not all spiders are shitheads btw lol I love the little fellas so send them my way

Yeh it’s a bit melodramatic

The dress doesn’t look that great for an office unless a very casual place

I'd hope not. She's dead.

Sorry you walked into that one. I couldn't resist 😂

Sithee, we can do reet posh in Yorkshire too, tha knows.

I'm channelling your lovely Nan 👍🤣

Yes.
And I've spent time Googling Mary Quant and Courtney Love last night because of this thread.
I conclude that a Mary Quant dress could be workwear, a Courtney Love frock not.
I also Googled the dresses I used to wear to work in my early 20s and now see that they were essentially club wear 🫠

Yea ' no cleavage '. God forbid if anyone finds out women have tits!!

What a bitchy, judgmental bunch!

So prurient! All these people bodyshaming women in the name of modesty or professionalism. And imagining types and levels of exposure. Gross. Control yourselves. I'd hate to think how you'd be if you were on a jury.

I need to know important details like fabric type and neatness and weight of seams to judge if this is workwear.

They are telling you it's inappropriate.

Maybe the colleague is negging you and wants a D/S romance

She sounds like my DPs mother. She’ll say to my DP or his dad “you’re cold, put a jumper on”. They haven’t said or done anything to indicate they’re cold, but she’s decided they’re cold. Then when they say they’re fine, we get “I know you better than you know yourself, you’ll be cold, put a jumper on”. Partly because she always have to fuss over them, partly because she feels the cold herself (and partly because she’s just bloody annoying 😂).

I don't understand what your coworker is thinking, that dress looks nice! And anyways, I don't know how others might think but I've grown up to learn that you don't worry about others when you haven't worried about yourself yet. It's your choice to wear it, if your manager allows it, then your coworker should do nothing to stop you wearing the dress.

Well, there you go - sums it up pretty well. To hell what people say/think xx

A hobbit 😂🤣 ahh this really amused me @arlanymor

Really? Why start a thread inviting the opinions of other people, then?

Could it be because I've found the right opinion and I'm grateful? Jus sayin. 😉

I don't see any problem with it at all. It's really stylish and individual and if there is no dress code then perfectly acceptable. It's not a beach dress, not see-through, the neckline isn't revealing anything and I think it would look great with black tights and boots. I have more of a problem with women wearing tight leggings in the workplace, leaving nothing to the imagination.

I've caved and ordered an elaborate grown-up tunic for work.

Your being boho and folksy isn't related to the dress code for your office us it?

The question is whether your outfit appropriate really.

Not nice to snap through.

Hah, perhaps that's it? It was morning, she's just seen her teenagers off to school with the usual admonitions about taking a jacket even if you don't want to wear it, for god's sake put some tights on, and have you got your gym kit?

Turns up at work, sees Young Person In Flimsy Attire, and mother mode kicks in. I bet it's got nothing to do with jealousy of your uniquely kooky, creatively free-spirited dress sense, and everything to do with residual parenting reflex!

I mean, nobody tells another adult they're feeling cold, do they? Kids, though - we shouldn't, but we do.

I haven't read all the replies, but my answer to the original question is the co-worker should mind their own business, and frankly, I'd be asking her what it's got to do with her. Just polietly tell her to eff off.

This would be my thought too! If it is a very thin fabric and even if it is lined. Nipples could be showing through it.

It is a lovely dress, but not suitable office wear!

It’s a nice dress but not sure I’d wear it in the office nor would I wear a white summer dress with thick black tights but that’s just me.

we have no dress code in our office but someone came in the summer in denim hot pants, attracted a lot of stares and wasn’t very professional looking but there is no dress code so what could anyone say