DP landed a promotion now i have to change my job

[Happyfuture]

My DP has recently been offered a huge promotion, which means he will be working in another county so his commute will be much longer.
During lockdown I had to move stores or face redundancy, the area I work in has no public transport around the hours I need to travel (rural area buses run between 1 to 2 hours apart).
I dont drive due to a disability so DP usually drops me off and picks me up before and after he has to work.
This won't be feasible now due to the change. I love my job and colleague's and I make decent money and work full time. I dont want him to turn the promotion down as it will make his career and earn him a fair whack more than atm, but I cant help feeling a little disappointed and annoyed that I have to give up a great job and wonderful people who I really enjoy working with. In the town I live, full time jobs are really hard to come by, so whatever extra he will earn if I change jobs and end up with a part time position the extra money will land us in the same financial bracket as we were before. Am I wrong for feeling like my career is worth less than his and that I should sacrifice a wonderful workplace so his career can flourish??

And she says if she gives up then with her husbands pay rise they will be on what they are on today.

She said with her going part time and her husband's new salary they would be equivalent.

It's not just about money though, is it?

@VanGoghsDog

And she says if she gives up then with her husbands pay rise they will be on what they are on today.

She said with her going part time and her husband's new salary they would be equivalent.

It's not just about money though, is it?

Exactly. She’s better off getting the taxis and staying in the job she loves.

It’s definitely not just about money. That’s why OP should keep her job.

No, not just about the money, as in the take home pay less taxi expenses.

The Pension contributions are worth a lot too, in terms of future independence.

I don't drive either but I absolutely made sure we based our living situation on being close to public transportation/city centre, so that I could independently get to wherever I needed to go. If a job was too far out of reach, I simply wouldn't apply for it. I know it's not as simple as moving house or job, but I'd say you've been quite lucky to manage getting a lift to work from your rural location for as long as you have.

@Happyfuture

You need to check out Access To Work Scheme as PP have said.
This could solve your issue.

Or you could move house.

Maybe one of your 'nearly adult' children can drive ? Could they drive you ?

Is it that you have a disability that actually bans you from driving ? Or could you drive an adapted car for example ? Or a moped ?

There are options out there, but they might take a while to organise. Would your work be open to helping you shoulder the burden of the cost of taxi's short term ?

Thank you everyone for your comments and advice. I most certainly was having a mini melt down the day I typed this so I apologise for not fully explaining. I was having a woe is me moment. Anyway, the good news is I had my mini melt down, went to bed, and woke up and pulled on my big girl panties and sorted a taxi option.

To anyone saying I've relied on him to drive me all the time, this is not true and we obviously discussed my options when they were going to make me redundant. Had I taken redundancy we would have lost 40% of our overall income which let's face it is a massive kick in the teeth to anyone regardless of covid.

His promotion was meant to mean he would stay where he worked, which by the way was a 5 minute drive from my new place of work hence him taking me in the first place.
I had little choice but to change working locations as the company was going to make me redundant during the first lockdown as they shut the site I worked before which I always sorted my own transport to and never relied on him to take me or the kids anywhere previously apart from days out and short breaks away.

Anyway.... the promotion was offered and they decided to change its location which means he now has to drive an hour and 45 minutes in the other direction from home each way every day. We had discussed the promotion but it was based on his job location staying the same as his firm had confirmed this previously, but as we all know companies have a habit of changing things. It is his only chance of going further up the ladder and I dont want him to miss this chance and would never expect him to give that chance up, but as the one who has taken a back seat career wise and done the lions share of the childcare I was feeling like yet again I would have to give something up and yes it becomes jarring when you've done it for most of your relationship. Hes a wonderful guy and he wasn't going to take the promotion due to the different location but I pushed him to do it because we all need someone in our corner to let us know they've got our backs.i didn't verbalise to him how I was feeling because I knew it would make him not accept. I was just feeling a little low as a female and was hoping people would understand why I felt frustrated with the situation. So I apologise again for not giving the full details of the situation, but thank you all (well most )for being kind and giving great suggestions.
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Glad you got sorted

We all have meltdowns from time to time, it is good to get other peoples advice to help us see possible solutions.

Pleased for you OP!

Thanks for coming back and telling us all how it went. I'm so glad you have a solution that works.

Glad you sorted out the taxi option! It did seem like the thing to do!

Glad you are sorted @Happyfuture.