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Employer have said I have resigned - I haven't. Urgent help please!

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Titslikepicassos · 06/11/2020 18:25

I have a loooong thread in AIBU and received excellent support but things have escalated.

Long story short, I went on maternity leave this time last year. I had issues at work throughout my pregnancy, being shouted at and sidelined and told to move locations. Sorted it all out informally.

In March I asked to return to work early from Mat leave due to financial issues caused by lockdown. At this point my boss attempted to move me again, that didn't work and she then went back on the hours she had given me and it messed up my childcare.

I raised a formal grievance and put a flexible working request in at the same time. The company failed to do anything with my request and the grievance process was mismanaged and a data breach occurred in the middle of it, where my grievance letter was upload to a public file and seen by others.

The grievance was upheld in parts but they again tried to move me to a new location which doesnt work due to childcare issues.

I requested mediation with my boss in order to go back to work as I'm still not back 7 months later.

Today the regional director has said that they won't honour mediation and I have now resigned.

My union rep has disappeared and I received this at 16:00 today so couldn't get hold of ACAS.

Any advice would be very welcome!

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DentonsFringeArnottsWaistcoat · 13/07/2021 10:53

Good to hear your news OP! Unbelievably this very same you’ve resigned/no I haven’t scenario has just this weekend happened to my friend. He’s not sure what he’s going to do as yet but I’ll definitely mention the reference and the no bad mouthing clause to him if he does decide to proceed.

OhNoNoNoNoNo · 13/07/2021 11:42

That’s good news. I hope it’s all finalised soon and you can forget about it.

SchadenfreudePersonified · 13/07/2021 11:49

Excellent and VERY satisfying update.

Well done!

LannieDuck · 13/07/2021 12:49

Wow, this has been such a long journey. Did you decide to accept their revised offer?

NutellaEllaElla · 13/07/2021 13:26

Well done OP, i'm in awe that you have withstood all the stress and pressure of this. Fuck them, they can't get away with pulling this shit. You held them to account and good on you.

redastherose · 13/07/2021 13:41

Brilliant update @Titslikepicassos so pleased that you have got what you needed.

EL8888 · 13/07/2021 14:05

Great news! Keep the updates coming

CrazyCatLazy · 13/07/2021 16:01

Wow, I’ve spent all day reading this from the start. I’m so sorry you’ve had to deal with this. I really hope you get the outcome you deserve! Thank you for putting them through the mill for the rest of us women who may have had to deal with their shitty management in the future!

Titslikepicassos · 13/07/2021 18:08

Sorry I disappeared - I had a week completely free of anything related to this, because it's ALL OVER (not sure how much I can say Wink)

Anyway, thank you thank you thank you for all your support and advice. God knows what would have happened without it!

Thanks
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TheQueensCousin · 13/07/2021 22:58

Ahh bless you I'm so pleased for you 💐❤️

ginislife · 13/07/2021 23:18

So long has you got what you thought was fair and a decent reference then fuck em. You're too good for them. Hopefully you've already got a new better job and can bank your pay out. Enjoy it !

RandomMess · 14/07/2021 07:59

I'm hoping that the money is enough to making university comfortably affordable to get your qualification.

I hope it really hurts your ex manager that you are living your best life down to her!!! Also that senior management and HR have marked her card.

BIWI · 14/07/2021 12:43

Fantastic! Well done for sticking to your guns - it was obviously hugely stressful.

Did you have to sign a DNA, so you can't tell us what happened?

SquashMinusIsShit · 14/07/2021 12:50

I'm so pleased for you, and almost filled the thread it went on so long

🍾🥳🙌🏼

DdraigGoch · 14/07/2021 15:11

@SquashMinusIsShit

I'm so pleased for you, and almost filled the thread it went on so long

🍾🥳🙌🏼

Longer than that, this isn't the first thread
herewegogc · 14/07/2021 15:29

Good - I hope it hurts them 😡

Ringsender2 · 14/07/2021 15:41

Well done Tits, and like others I really hope that you got a great compensation package, a great reference, and that your former managers get in a lot of trouble. Hope you enjoy the rest of summer and mat leave.

fourquenelles · 14/07/2021 15:47

Just delurking before the thread fills up to wish you all the very best for your future and congratulations on holding your nerve. Flowers

Rowgtfc72 · 14/07/2021 16:30

Followed from the beginning.
Well done on seeing this through. I'm sure you've shown many women there's no need to lie down and roll over career wise when you've had kids.
Hope whatever you turn your hand to next is smooth sailngGrin

KnightandDay · 14/07/2021 17:27

Well done Tits, you showed how strong you are when they tried to break you and your deserve every penny!! I hope this allows you to take some time and decide what to do next - whatever it is you'll smash it!!!Flowers

CoRhona · 14/07/2021 17:58

This thread has been epic. Well done op 👏

LakieLady · 14/07/2021 18:53

Fantastic news, Tits. I'm so pleased for you, and you can start to put it all behind you now.

Well, apart from sticking pins in an effigy of the line manager that started all this, she deserves nothing less.

TheQueensCousin · 14/07/2021 23:22

Hi Tits, this thread is going to reach 1k soon so I hope you'll still be able to update us 🤞🏼❤️

MuckyMessy · 15/07/2021 14:47

Congratulations @titslikepicassos, I'm so glad you have had such a positive ending.

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