Anyone fancy a thread for mums who work full-time?

[Oly5]

Hello, just wondered if any other mums work full-time and fancy a bit of a thread?
I adore my kids but enjoy working full-time too. I feel it's a massive taboo to say so. This thread is for people who feel like me, who are struggling to make it work, who wish they could work less. Anyone really!

DH had to leave work early today to get back to MIL and the DC as DD2 had split her head open and go to a&e. By the time I got there they were just leaving. I feel horrible that I wasn't there when she really needed me. She's fine now but I hated that MIL had to hold the fort and do the cuddling and not me. Sounds silly and I know the main thing is that dd2 is alright but ugh. Big fat ugh. Mil has been in my house all day and I haven't. She was there when dd2 bashed herself and whilst I'm sure she prob couldn't have prevented it, I reckon I could have. Who knows, it was just an accident but I wasn't there. I can only imagine the scene, I didn't see all the blood, all the tears, I couldn't comfort either of the DDs and tell them it would be ok, I couldn't get DD2 to hospital and I feel pretty useless tbh. So this is me, working full time in a job that's terrific, like amazing, but I'm not there when my children hurt themselves

Oh grillpaneddy it's shit isn't it? I spend a lot of time wondering if I could clone myself. I'd be a bad sahm but yes, those times things have gone wrong really stick with you. I hope you are feeling better after the weekend and your dd is ok.

I work in the office 8-3 four days a week at the moment but it's a business I run with my husband so I am always on call, travel often and do work the odd five day weeks. Hope that's enough, I'm on call during the weekends and holidays too if that sways it..!

I really struggle with our work life balance in lots of ways but never really know how to make it better. This winter has been brutal for illnesses too so feeling quite steamrolled by life currently.

Sorry - 3 children, 6,4 and 18 months.

Don't live near grandparents (but I couldn't bear using them for childcare anyway) we use nursery 2x a week and a nanny 2x a week. Oldest at school, middle starts school in September.

We have a cleaner once a week. Feel like my time at home that I fight for at work (as in literally to get through everything I need, obviously bosses not an issue for me, although staff can be of course) is spent doing the blinking washing, cleaning and cooking!!

I have been working full time for 4 months and I'm really struggling at the minute feeling guilty and that I'm missing out on my DD growing up, she's nearly 2. She also being tricky with behaviour towards me in particular hitting me and not wanting to be picked up by me, generally preferring daddy. He has always worked full time so it's not like she is with him more. I feel like I'm being punished by her which is probably projecting on my part.

I have thought about asking work to drop a day but I feel it's too early. We also want another baby next year so I don't want to rock the boat too much.

It's so hard

Anyone starting work on Monday? I'm starting full time on Monday. Need some moral support!!!

Really good to find this thread. I often feel like the only one who works full time. My husband and I both leave the house at 7.15am and return about 6pm, but once or twice a week it'll be between 7-9pm that we return. I think we work about 65 hours a week. I spend my whole life feeling guilty. I was 4 days for a while but got a promotion meaning I had to go to 5 days. I've asked if I can go part time and was told only 4 days, but I'd lose my leadership role / promotion, meaning id lose a quarter of my salary for 1 day less. I really like that finally, after 12 years of working hard we can afford some treats, eating out, days out etc. which is nice. we couldn't afford less than 4 days anyway. Only possibility is to ask for 4 days over 5 so I could do the school run 2 days a week.

Sympathies. God, the guilt. It's such a crappy tug of war between being a parent and having a career

Hiya how did you get on going back to work? I'm on day 2 of a new job after brig self employed for 8 years and only see my son for less than an hour during the week. The guilt is horrendous. How did you handle it? Did you get anxiety? I've got that to the point where I have to sit down or I'll fall down!

Hi I'm new. I was just after some advice.
I had some son and instead of returning to work, I returned to full time education. I graduate soon and I was recently offered an interview for a full time job at a firm in London. Am I mad to be considering moving to London from the west country? I will have no support network up there and the idea is terrifying, however the money is such an incentive. I can't be the first to be consider / do this.... how do people manage?