Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Protection built in.

Meet the Other Phone.
Protection built in.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Work

Chat with other users about all things related to working life on our Work forum.

Original poster

Message for Xenia

606 replies

opinionsrus · 12/11/2006 18:56

What I would like to ask is how exactly do you find so much spare time to chat on these boards about earning between £100k and £250k when you have five children of your own and also what seems must be a very demanding full time job?

I have just one child and a very part time job and this will be about the only 5 minutes I get to luxuriate on the internet?

OP posts:
Original poster
opinionsrus · 19/11/2006 19:26

Ditto.

OP posts:
Original poster
opinionsrus · 19/11/2006 19:48

Why does everyone scarper when this is brought up?

OP posts:
lulumama · 19/11/2006 19:54

i don't know who she is in RL, if she is a well known lawyer.or not!!

.. if `xenia wanted to reveal her true identity..she would post under her real name....!?

Original poster
opinionsrus · 19/11/2006 20:00

Well whoever she/he is they certainly know how to keep people entertained as this thread is consistently at the top!!!

OP posts:
Original poster
opinionsrus · 19/11/2006 20:01

All I know is that it is not Cherie Blair and it is not Vanessa Feltz....Fascinating stuff!!

OP posts:
ParanoidAndroid · 19/11/2006 20:05

Didn't Xenia say something once many moons ago about children of SAHM's not stacking the dishwasher because we (SAHM's that is) like doing it for them??? So what gives with your teenagers Xenia? Are you softening?

NotAnOtter · 19/11/2006 20:07
Hmm
WideWebWitch · 19/11/2006 20:15

Bollocks, typed a long post and lost it somehow. The gist was if Xenia was Minister for Children then maybe it would be fair to out her but given that she isn't then I don't think who she is irl is relevant at all.

you can agree or disagree with her as you like but I don't see that her real identity has anything to do with it.

expatinscotland · 19/11/2006 20:18

Workaholics, uggggh. SOooooo dull!

lulumama · 19/11/2006 20:18

absolutely agree WWW

we all post under some sort of pseudonym..some more mysterious than others

.if you knew me in RL , then you would know me on here,( i have no imagination in choosing names!!)

but i think a bit of anonymity is good for all of us on here. and outing people goes against the ethos of Mumsnet IMHO!

Judy1234 · 19/11/2006 20:26

I suppose if you see being a SAHM as your job then to do that 24/7 means you're a workaholic as much as worker who does 17 hour shifts if where as if you do both working and parenting you're not a workaholic....

I don't know that this thing is about me being known. I'm no one. I'm a working mother. No reason anyone would know or be remotely interested in me. I'm not a C list celebrity or anything.

By the way this has been very helpful this weekend when I've had some very difficult other things to deal with. Nice distraction. Big hugs to all MN posters.

I am not very happy with the minister for children. There are loads of things that could be done. I feel it's a quango that is not getting on with the job. I did write to him about something and I didn't even get a reply.

JoolsToo · 19/11/2006 20:36

quite, not being rude but I've never heard of you and why should I have? All this guessing has made you appear enigmatic when really you are just a working mother like loads of other mumsnetters.

You do go on a bit though, sorry

crumpet · 19/11/2006 20:36

Not sure I get why some are so keen to find out who she is - since when has knowing the name of a lawyer (assuming that that is what she is...) been so interesting? Not to knock you Xenia, but I don't know any lawyers who are A (or even D) list celebs, which is what would add spice to uncovering a pseudonym!

This has been an interesting thread - Xenia's approach to life/parenting may not be the same as mine, but nowhere has she said (unless I missed it) that she doesn't love her children, and I've missed whatever it was that she said that has caused such horror in her general approach to parenthood.

There are plenty of people, especially in the city, who work and have nannies. A partner at the law firm I was at had 4 kids and 2 nannies. Not a lifestyle choice I'd have made, but there you go. Lots of men work crazy hours and hardly see their kids, but that doesn't necessarily make them/their kids love each other less.

Original poster
opinionsrus · 19/11/2006 20:37

Thats fair to say then Xenia.

There is a lot of "talk" about is she or isn't she so and so and that you are very easily found on google, the majority of us are not found on google.

It creates a lot of intrigue you cannot blame people for asking!!!

OP posts:
crumpet · 19/11/2006 20:37

Crossed posts Xenia

expatinscotland · 19/11/2006 20:45

Xenia
I don't know any SAHMS, or people for that matter, who go on and on and on ad nauseum about their work as much as you.

Then again, I tend to give people like this a huge swerve b/c I find anyone who rabbits on about a single topic insufferably dull.

Original poster
opinionsrus · 19/11/2006 20:52

Out of interest - does anyone know the percentage of mums who stay at home compared to those that return to work (when child is baby/toddler). Would be interested to know.....

OP posts:
Saturn74 · 19/11/2006 20:54

Great post, Jools.

Original poster
opinionsrus · 19/11/2006 21:17

And I also think, Xenia, that your level of emotional detachment is very very strange, as I have said on the other thread.

OP posts:
Original poster
opinionsrus · 19/11/2006 21:18

Anyway thats it for me - work tomorrow!!!

OP posts:
Judy1234 · 19/11/2006 22:42

My so called emotional detachment is no different from that of the people crumpet mentions who are many. More women with under 5s work than don't so the SAHM is actually an unusual being, probably dying out, rare, unoique, strange, something those in the real world look on with curiosity, an anarchornism, weird... it's not me that's different. Most parents can't afford for one of them to give up work so it's also an illustration of affulence too I suppose. Most women in history and around the world have to work whether they like it or not, or they starve. This SAHM not working thing is bizarre, a tiny strange blip in a history which has always had and always will have mothers working very hard. I enjoy watching you all . We should preserve you in aspic for posterity, a kind of 2006 man works, woman stays home time stamped description.

Saturn74 · 19/11/2006 22:54

As a SAHM, my usual tactic for dealing with such overt attention-seeking behaviour is to simply ignore it.

Moomin · 19/11/2006 22:57

... or you could create a diversion, HC.

Hey look out of the window, Xenia, there's next door's cat on the wall....... oh, you weren't quick enough. Never mind

Saturn74 · 19/11/2006 23:00
Grin
dara · 19/11/2006 23:01

Did anyone see Xenia on the Catherine Tate show tonight?

Please create an account

To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.

Join Mumsnet Log In

This thread is closed and is no longer accepting replies. Click here to start a new thread.