Message for Xenia

[opinionsrus]

What I would like to ask is how exactly do you find so much spare time to chat on these boards about earning between £100k and £250k when you have five children of your own and also what seems must be a very demanding full time job?

I have just one child and a very part time job and this will be about the only 5 minutes I get to luxuriate on the internet?

Expat - Now this catering to ANY adult child in such a manner I find repugnant.

I've seen females like this as well, and find that just as off-putting.

Xenia - I'm guyilty of it to some extent. I just stacked the dishwasher as the group of 6 went out to a nighclub at midnight...but I agree in principle.

Xenia this is the kind of comment that leads me to believe that this is either

A: A complete take and this whole thing is a wind up.

B: You are just genuinely comletely bigoted.

C: You are very, very rich and famous in which case I would imagine that with all the goings on in the celebrity circuit, and living in central London, you would have better things to do.

Oh and I forgot 5 children to look after.

Either way there is something that you are not telling us.

So come on is it A, B or C ???

Should we take the don't feed the troll strategy although we know she is not a troll? Although I respect her strenght, she seems to be taking special pleasure in being annoying...

die thread! die!

If she is who some people suspect her of being - the famous one with the long blonde hair - (I won't say the name exactly as maybe she wants to remain anonymous),then I do actually quite like her and a lot of what she says figures, although some of it does seem a bit far-fetched.

There is however no proof of this and she, in person, has not admitted to any of this. I don't want to sound too cryptic here, but its not for me to pronounce her name to the greater audience.

The reason I like her is not because she is famous, but overall she is actually quite a likeable character. You don't see the "whole" picture on a chat board like this, you just see the bad.

Any comments please!!!

On the other hand I am thinking that something is just not right here. Whoever you are Xenia you keep on saying on numerous posts (I have noticed quite a large pattern) that you went to work just 2 weeks after having given birth.

You seem to have NO emotional attachment whatsoever.

2 WEEKS AFTER GIVING BIRTH:

• YOU WILL STILL BE BLEEDING
• YOU WILL NOT HAVE SLEPT YET AS NEWBORN BABIES ON THE WHOLE DO NOT SLEEP THROUGH THE NIGHT
• YOU WOULD BE MENTALLY EXHAUSTED.
• MOST MOTHERS ARE STILL CRYING AT THIS STAGE.
• YOU WOULD BE JUST GETTING INTO THE SWING OF BREASTFEEDING.
• YOUR HORMONES WOULD BE UP THE WALL.
• IF YOU HAD STITCHES THEN YOU NOT BE ABLE TO SIT STILL LET ALONE WALK FURTHER THAN YOUR FRONT DOOR.
• YOUR BODY WOULD BE PHYSICALLY EXHAUSTED AND STILL RECOVERING FROM LABOUR.
• YOU CAN HARDLY STRING A SENTENCE TOGETHER.
• THE MAJORITY OF MOTHERS HAVE SUCH A STRONG EMOTIONAL ATTACHMENT TO THEIR NEWBORN THAT TO LEAVE THEM FOR 5 MINUTES IS COMPLETE TORTURE AND YOU EVEN GIVE UP SLEEP JUST SO THAT YOU CAN WATCH THEM, LET ALONE LEAVE THEM FOR HOURS ON END AT A TIME.

Does anyone smell a rat???

Opinionsrus..

you seem determined to 'out' xenia..why?

i too find a lot of what she says absolutely at odds with my own mothering and parenting choices. I did suspect her of being a troll..but after reading further posts....i think she is simply an erudite, mature woman, who is not terribly keen on babies.

If you are not like that, then you can't force yourself to be like that. She has 5 children , so there is obviously something about children she does absolutely love...maybe once they are older. And i think i read on another thread she had a homebirth for at least one baby ..so not like she was having a c.s to fit a baby into her busy schedule.

I don;t actually think i have agreed with on e thing she has said. And some of what she has said has horrified me.

But i admire her tenacity and her obvious high intelligence. I just couldn't live my life like that..but is she and her kids are happy......so what? SHe has taken a stand, got where she wanted to in life and has combined that with having 5 kids and splitting from her husband.

Her life might be diametrically opposite to mine...and a lot of other Mnetters....but why does that make her a troll / liar or anything else. I'd be pissed if she accused me of being a troll because i am a SAHM who lives very differently to her.

I think she is pretty straightforward. And has the courage of her convictions..whether i agree with those or not.

Who cares who she is in RL?

Give her a break!

Did you go back to work two weeks after giving birth then???

and FWIW...by the time DD was 2 weeks old... i had virtually stopped bleeding, not crying, yes, tired, but c'est la vie...out and about all the time...dressed & make up on!! had stitches but had healed very well....i couldn;t have gone back to work..BUT I ALSO DIDN'T WANT TO ! Xenia did want to and found it worked for her..

x post...no !

I am a SAHM of 2 < , training to be a doula ( failed law school!!) my life is a million miles away from Xenia's ...

she isn't famous..!

there is no rat...!

lots of people know who she is...!

Well she obviously has you flying her flag then.

I DID go back to work fairly soon after giving birth but I can tell you it was nowhere near to 2 weeks.

I also think that you must have been one of the very fortunate ones as every single mother that I have ever spoken to over the years would say that it was a fairly close description.

I got into the law school ranked no. 7 in the US after my bachelor's degree - in the US the law degree is a postgrad degree.

I jacked it in to run off trekking to Nepal w/my ex H.

i'm not flying anyones flag!! i have my own opinion..

maybe i was lucky...makes up for the sh*t time i had after DS and HAD to go back to work.

i called her a troll earlier.. i retracted that and apologised..

I don;t ever post anything i wouldn't stand by in RL and i don't know Xenia...am quite able to make up my own mind.!

Zippi - if she isn't famous and lots of people already know who "she" is then i suppose that another regular on these boards.

I for one am in the dark. All I am trying to find out is if this whole thing is a wind up...

as I've said on the other thread, none of the things you describe applied to me at 2 wks opinionsrus. I didn't go back for 6 months, but that's because I chose not to. As lulumama says, Xenia was entitled to do what worked for her.

Lulu you are always apologising - chill.

I don't have blonde hair so I can't be that one although I have 3 blonde children. It looks from some postings that some people may know me from another place. I certainly exist.

2 weeks - yes easier than at home. See other thread. Daughter 2 was 2 weeks and in 3rd week half days, Week 4 full time. Next child 5 weeks including 2 weeks holiday. Twins I worked at home and really was back the next day. I can't just leave work. Ex husband had the next week off - half term so he did that week plus me obviously feeding and I tried to do less, just kept the office ticking over. Week 2 the day nanny started and she brought the gorgeous little twins to me when they needed a feed. In fact as positioning twins when breastfeeding is hard I'd usually go in the other room and do it on the sofa. It was jerry Springer I remember, my only experience of day time TV. Then I'd go back in the office. It worked well, easier than the expressing in the City but you have to work with the situation you're in and make the best of it.

Last night - perfectly normal night, teenagers no stacking dishwasher, mother stacks it. Even well off full time working mothers and fathers do a lot of domestic stuff. It'snot SAHM all chores or work no chores. Working parents do masses of child care and loads of chores particularly if there are a lot of children.

I'm sure this is not a wind up. Even I've picked up enough clues to google and I'm generally all at sea with who people are.

Well its a mystery to me.

50% of the people on here seem to "know" who she is, most speak as if they even know her personally.

The other 50% think that the whole thing is a complete fabrication.

I've no idea who she is. Her posts tend to be of the long, dense paragraph variety which I, generally, skip.

It's not hard to work out who Xenia is through Google, it really isn't, you don't have to "know" her, or be a lawyer. I think once zippi said she had done it it was too much of a challenge to resist

Key words tamum?

If she is not famous then how can it be someone that we all "know"???

I am intrigued. So much mystery.........!!!