Men dressing as women; what really motivates them.

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Malcolm Clark does not hold back on what really motivates men dressing as women.
https://www.spiked-online.com/2026/04/02/kristi-noems-husband-and-the-dark-secret-of-trans/

I’ve been deleted for answering a question. What was my position. I answered. And I’ve been deleted.

well, that’s disappointing.

ah well.

Hi

Thank you for getting in touch.

The reason why we deleted your post is because they were reported to us as being very graphic and descriptive, which we agreed with. It is absolutely okay to share your experiences on Mumsnet. But the detailed descriptions of violence in your post could be very upsetting for other members to read, especially if they have had similar experiences.

We hope you can understand where we're coming from.

well at least I know now.

edit o remove other user name. Which I’ll have to change now.

so it’s not ok for me to answer a question put to me because a man did to me is upsetting for other people to read.

No woman should have to justify her gender-critical opinions by detailing abuse that she has suffered at the hands of men. No woman should ever feel obliged to relate such things for others’ satisfaction.

If that was what you had written in your deleted post, I do not think it reasonable, either, that it was deleted to save other readers distress. Why is theirs more important than yours? I wish there was an alternative way of dealing with it, perhaps a sensitive content warming like you can put on images here. If you consider your traumatic experiences relevant, why should you be prevented from relating them on this board?

Could be upsetting for us to read? You had to experience it.
I'm disgusted that you were deleted.

Yes, I'm appalled at the deletion also. Yes, it was a tough read. But it is your right, surely to post it. Others could stop reading it, you can't make it not have happened to you.

It's really not appropriate to post explicit descriptions of sexual abuse.

MNHQ are absolutely right to remove such posts, in large part because we know (or should know) that some posters get off on posting such posts or from reading them. None of us know the motives here so MNHQ's approach seems entirely correct.

I think that’s particularly true in a thread that is not overtly about sexual assault.

Absolutely. A lot of them used fundraising opportunities to dress up as women. Even town and village had at least one

Men do seem to like dressing up as women. I expect there are many different motives, some unacknowledged even by the individuals concerned.

https://rarehistoricalphotos.com/british-soldiers-manning-anti-aircraft-guns-in-womens-clothes-1940/

From reddit:

My friend thinks it's ridiculous that I'm trans

I'm 17 years old and male, and I plan to go abroad and transition after I finish college. I told my friend about this idea, and he asked, “Why do you want to do this?” I replied that I really like girls. He said, “Men are supposed to like girls,” but I want to have long hair like girls, and I really like some of the clothes they wear. I've also chosen a girl's name for myself, and thinking about that name makes me very happy. Am I overreacting? Do I need stronger feelings to change my gender? At first, I wanted to be a femboy, but then I thought being trans might be better. I just wanted to ask if these thoughts are normal.
Update: The reason I haven't started transitioning yet is due to the situation in my country and the fact that my family would disapprove of my decision.

"...I thought being trans might be better." So it isn't a baked in identity as many claim. Some men dress as women because they want to, they like the hair and the clothes. Apparently.

https://www.reddit.com/r/trans/comments/1pw7bv5/my_friend_thinks_its_ridiculous_that_im_trans/

Interesting thread given the run in I had yesterday.

A quite obviously stocky middle aged man dressed in what I can only describe as a parody of a little girl. Gingham short dress, white socks with bows, bows in his cheap shitty wig, patent Mary Jane’s. In a very busy shopping mall quite obviously trying to catch people’s eyes. I cannot describe the feeling I had, rage mixed with disgust mixed with being forced to take part in his very obvious kink.

utterly utterly grim

Deleted as posted on wrong thread

Your friend is right, kid.

https://www.theguardian.com/australia-news/2026/apr/22/foster-children-placed-serial-killer-regina-arthurell-ntwnfb

Well in Australia, it appears to make it possible to foster children despite being a serial killer. And the Guardian will still use your pronouns!

And the Guardian will still use your pronouns!

I can't help but wonder, again, why they are so mealy-mouthed with their 'respect' for dirty bastard killers over vulnerable children.

But it’s not a fetish. No. Perfectly normal. Stunning and brave.

An ex-colleague came out as non binary by attending a work party in a dress that, if he’d had breasts, would have been obscene. It barely had a front.

Christ @EmpressaurusKitty 😬

It must be very shocking and unsettling to suddenly gain such an insight into a male colleague's psyche 🤯🤢

I was only grateful he wasn’t a colleague I had to have anything to do with.

Imagine instead of a work colleague it was a close relative who 'transitioned', and caused you to remember creepy incidents from your childhood. Grim.

Heartbreakingly grim. The children of transitioners website contains personal accounts that are not only upsetting but they are a clear warning to society that we need to take safeguarding seriously for children in this situation.

Are these women lesbians like Kathleen Stock? If so Kristi Noem would reject them. Do these women think that they could marry another woman? Kristi Noem and people like her would reject the idea.

Kathleen Stock didn't wake up one morning and think "You know what, I think I'll wear jeans today instead of a dress, it will be more comfortable". With her it's a complete package.

Kristi Noem wouldn't want to share a changing room or rest room with a lesbian. Women's spaces aren't just about avoiding violence they are also about being somewhere where nobody is going to have a sexual attraction to you.

That's not what I believe. That's what social conservatives in America believe.

@JennyShaw ‘Kathleen Stock didn't wake up one morning and think "You know what, I think I'll wear jeans today instead of a dress, it will be more comfortable". With her it's a complete package.’

Many women wear jeans mostly. So what.

No. Women’s single sex spaces are where men are excluded. Human males. Men who carry out the vast, vast majority of violent and sexual offences (and almost exclusively the violent and sex crimes against women) full stop. If someone thinks that women are entitled to safety, dignity and privacy then they’d be correct on that issue.

That’d be good, wouldn’t it? Or maybe others think it more important that we give priority to some lad who gets all a tingly at making women uncomfortable at best, or wants an easy opportunity to commit violent or sex crimes against women and girls. I hope most fair minded people don’t think that letting some lad do exactly what he wants to, trumps the human rights of women and girls.