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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Ofcom will now investigate Talk Tv re transphobia.

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Imnobody4 · 04/12/2025 21:33

Here we go again.

From Good Law Project:

We said we’d sue over Ofcom’s decision to dismiss 22,000 complaints about transphobia on TalkTV – now the regulator has caved.

But we had monitored its output for July 2025, a month in which it carried 11 discussions on trans people. And in every discussion, its hosts and guests consistently spouted transphobic views. TalkTV’s stance mirrors the broader editorial position of its sister newspaper The Times, whose toxic and intellectually dishonest campaign against trans people we believe to be a contributor to the rise in hate crime against them.

x.com/JuliaHB1/status/1996576537894703427?t=VgmnlP9LETiwrihlgEkCqA&s=09

Among my misdeeds, apparently, is that I said this on air: "By definition, if you’ve had to get a piece of paper to say that you are a woman, you must accept then that you are man."

I'm happy to be found guilty of defending women's rights and safety, knowing the actual law, understanding basic biology and knowing what a woman is. 🤷🏻‍♀️

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HousePlantEmergency · 07/12/2025 18:38

Good grief.

No one is disputing "to be trans is to have a difference related to the brain / psyche whereby you persistently , pervasively perceives yourself to be other than your birth sex."

We know some trans people feel this way. As you said, seethlaw feels this way.
But you are are categorically wrong that this is the ONLY way. As has been pointed out to you several times. You're literally saying that other trans people that don't follow your mantra quoted above are not trans. On what grounds/authority do you have to state this?? You are not entitled to make that distinction. You're not them.

I'd have a go at popping your much repeated mantra above on trans reddit or such. Educate them on there that if they don't feel that way, they're not trans. You'll have your arse handed to you in milliseconds.

Helleofabore · 07/12/2025 18:50

FlirtsWithRhinos · 07/12/2025 13:35

Why are your boundaries worthy of respect (even when the "boundary" is smply drawing attention to the lack of evidence in what you claim, something you know to be true even if your preferred strategy is to make a flat denial and simply stop the conversation at the point where if you continued you would have to admit you know this) but the boundaries of female people who simply want recognition in law, culture, politics and society that we are the group to whom the word "woman" has always applied and the group for whose needs the rights of "women" exist, and the truth of trans women whatever that may be is something separate and unrelated to our continued existence and needs as female people, are not?

That would be a great question for you to answer to demonstrate, that unlike @Tandora on the thread where literally every point you have made has already been discussed but you inexplicably and frankly entitledly refuse to read, you truly do care about the self knowledge and reality of female people as well as trans women.

For anyone who wants to see how every single "argument" and assertion puppy has made or indeed will make on this thread has already been played out and debunked, and to understand just how Groundhog Day this new thread is, here is that link again:

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/womens_rights/5422838-what-is-trans-and-why-does-it-justify-undoing-sex-in-law-society-culture-and-history?page=1

well now. There is a surprise!

Helleofabore · 07/12/2025 19:17

HousePlantEmergency · 07/12/2025 13:36

"I'm perfectly entitled to challenge her on those aspects"

As am I, with you.

Just worth noting that no one here has refused to engage with you, even @Seethlaw themselves, despite having their knowledge patronisingly derided.

It's been only you that have declared you're not engaging with people because you don't like what they're saying.

People with conviction in their thoughts will engage with anyone, regardless of the pushback.

And by the way, an opinion on someone's posting style is not an insult. Your threshold for dealing with other people's opinions and keeping a debate going is remarkably low 😬

Don’t forget also responded with “lol” when asked to respect another’s boundaries.

The hypocrisy from the poster on this thread has been pretty clear over several aspects.

puppymaddness · 07/12/2025 19:19

murasaki · 07/12/2025 18:08

But I don't want to adhere to the gender stereotype that society expects me to. So I must be. And if I say so, I am.

Being trans is not about stereotypes. You keep repeating this.

puppymaddness · 07/12/2025 19:20

Helleofabore · 07/12/2025 19:17

Don’t forget also responded with “lol” when asked to respect another’s boundaries.

The hypocrisy from the poster on this thread has been pretty clear over several aspects.

Hi there, I've asked if you could refrain from being personal.

Thank you/

Namelessnelly · 07/12/2025 19:22

puppymaddness · 07/12/2025 19:19

Being trans is not about stereotypes. You keep repeating this.

For some people it is. As a member of the trans community l’m saying it is. Are you denying my lived experience?

RapidOnsetGenderCritic · 07/12/2025 19:23

puppymaddness · 07/12/2025 19:20

Hi there, I've asked if you could refrain from being personal.

Thank you/

Sadly for you, you cannot control other people's speech.

I do not see how stereotypes can not come into it. What else is there, other than physical reality and social expectations?

murasaki · 07/12/2025 19:24

puppymaddness · 07/12/2025 19:20

Hi there, I've asked if you could refrain from being personal.

Thank you/

Pass agg in the extreme

Namelessnelly · 07/12/2025 19:25

puppymaddness · 07/12/2025 19:20

Hi there, I've asked if you could refrain from being personal.

Thank you/

Maybe people will when you stop being obnoxious and condescending? Just a thought?

MyAmpleSheep · 07/12/2025 19:26

puppymaddness · 07/12/2025 18:07

You know perfectly well that you aren't.

I think you’re gatekeeping.

MyAmpleSheep · 07/12/2025 19:27

puppymaddness · 07/12/2025 19:19

Being trans is not about stereotypes. You keep repeating this.

then what’s with all the men in fishnets flashing their underwear on trans Reddit (until they banned it)? Open your eyes, for goodness sake.

drspouse · 07/12/2025 19:28

puppymaddness · 06/12/2025 14:28

I think that is clear in my previous post, but , sure, I will try again.

Gender identity = the cognitive understanding that "I am a woman/ girl" or "I am a man/ boy ". Almost all people acquire this understanding: usually around the age of three years old.

Edited

Why isn't that "sex identification"? Around the same age children also understand that they have two legs (if they do) and that dogs are one group of animals and cats are another. It's just a set of pieces of information about the world.
A child who insisted their cat was a dog or that they had 3 legs would soon be corrected though being 3 they might insist that Tabby was definitely a dog.

TWETMIRF · 07/12/2025 19:29

puppymaddness · 07/12/2025 17:53

it's whistling into the wind isn't it.

To be trans has nothing to do with gender stereotypes.

To be trans is to have a difference related to the brain / psyche whereby you persistently , pervasively perceives yourself (stonewall summarise this perception as "gender") to be other than your birth sex. It can be completely debilitating to deny and repress this feeling. There is no evidence it can be "cured".

This is nothing like being gender critical. Although there may be trans people who are also gender critical, such as the pp we have on this thread.

Is Pips Bunce trans? Pips switches between Pips and Phillip during the week so does that class as persistently perceiving as other than his birth sex?

puppymaddness · 07/12/2025 19:29

Namelessnelly · 07/12/2025 18:09

Ok. I’m trans and as a member of the trans community I say you’re wrong. Now what? You have to believe me when I say I'm trans, and you telling me im wrong on the definition of “trans” is you denying my lived experience and knowledge of myself as trans.

Sure. Anyone can claim be trans if they want to, just like anyone can claim to be depressed , or gay, or any number of things , but why would they?

What being trans is, is to have a cognitive/ psychic difference in the brain, such that your perceive / recognise yourself to be other than your birth sex. You can claim this to avoid prison if you like; or because you're a gender critical feminist who wants to poke fun and discredit trans people experience. It really doesn't matter. it doesn't make you factually trans any more than claiming disability to access disability benefits factually means you have a disability.

Of course we shouldn't go around everyday judging who is or isn't disabled, or gay, or autistic, or trans, based on our external perception. we just have to trust, ( which does in fact reflect the actual reality, for all sorts of obvious reasons) that for the overwhelming part, the reason people are claiming these identities is because that is who they really are.

SionnachRuadh · 07/12/2025 19:32

puppymaddness · 07/12/2025 19:20

Hi there, I've asked if you could refrain from being personal.

Thank you/

You know, I told you about trans people I know and care about, and said I didn't think the differences between their lived experiences fit into what I understand your definition to be.

Your response was to snarkily say that I was projecting my prejudices onto them. As I say, people who I know and care about.

And then you have the nerve, you have the almighty crust, to scold posters for being "personal"?

Physician, heal thyself.

FallenSloppyDead2 · 07/12/2025 19:32

puppymaddness · 07/12/2025 19:29

Sure. Anyone can claim be trans if they want to, just like anyone can claim to be depressed , or gay, or any number of things , but why would they?

What being trans is, is to have a cognitive/ psychic difference in the brain, such that your perceive / recognise yourself to be other than your birth sex. You can claim this to avoid prison if you like; or because you're a gender critical feminist who wants to poke fun and discredit trans people experience. It really doesn't matter. it doesn't make you factually trans any more than claiming disability to access disability benefits factually means you have a disability.

Of course we shouldn't go around everyday judging who is or isn't disabled, or gay, or autistic, or trans, based on our external perception. we just have to trust, ( which does in fact reflect the actual reality, for all sorts of obvious reasons) that for the overwhelming part, the reason people are claiming these identities is because that is who they really are.

Hmmm. We're not going to trust them enough to let the male ones cross our boundaries. Soz

HousePlantEmergency · 07/12/2025 19:32

But there are many trans people who don't subscribe to your narrow definition. We've discussed them on this thread quite a bit.
So are we listening to them and believing they are who they say they are, or not?

puppymaddness · 07/12/2025 19:35

drspouse · 07/12/2025 19:28

Why isn't that "sex identification"? Around the same age children also understand that they have two legs (if they do) and that dogs are one group of animals and cats are another. It's just a set of pieces of information about the world.
A child who insisted their cat was a dog or that they had 3 legs would soon be corrected though being 3 they might insist that Tabby was definitely a dog.

No cognitive learning about gender can't be equated with a child learning they have two legs.
It's much more complex and systemic than that.
Yes both are part of psychological development, but it would be the psychological equivalent of comparing , say, the endocrine system to a single lymph node.

puppymaddness · 07/12/2025 19:39

SionnachRuadh · 07/12/2025 19:32

You know, I told you about trans people I know and care about, and said I didn't think the differences between their lived experiences fit into what I understand your definition to be.

Your response was to snarkily say that I was projecting my prejudices onto them. As I say, people who I know and care about.

And then you have the nerve, you have the almighty crust, to scold posters for being "personal"?

Physician, heal thyself.

Yes I don't believe that what you described reflected the actual lived experiences of trans people you know .

What you described were simply common prejudices/ projections about trans people that do not have anything to do with the realities of being trans.

I think it's really important to challenge this.

I understand me saying that offended you, but it is not the same as calling another poster names:

Seethlaw · 07/12/2025 19:40

I'm so confused 😐 What's the point of coming onto a forum if you're not able or willing to explain the way you conceive of the most basic words used in the conversation? If all you can do is repeat, "You're wrong," or "I don't agree with you"? How does that advance anything for anyone?

I mean, I had my turn in an almost-cult, the church I grew up in. I had my turn arguing online with its detractors. But at least I did my best to engage with their arguments, to try to understand them, to try to explain to them what I thought and why I thought that way.

This circus of "Things are the way I say because I say so"... What's the point 🤔???

puppymaddness · 07/12/2025 19:40

HousePlantEmergency · 07/12/2025 19:32

But there are many trans people who don't subscribe to your narrow definition. We've discussed them on this thread quite a bit.
So are we listening to them and believing they are who they say they are, or not?

So you keep insisting: I don't agree that is true

SionnachRuadh · 07/12/2025 19:41

I know it's annoying that on FWR we tend to use words with their common meaning.

This means that, when a poster comes along and does that Aleister Crowley thing of saying "I'm using words like 'sex' and 'male' and 'female' with special esoteric meanings that you unsophisticated muggles couldn't possibly understand", and then goes on to treat us to hundreds of posts telling us we're wrong on the basis of private definitions that they refuse to explain... well, it makes conversation difficult.

But maybe that's the point.

MyAmpleSheep · 07/12/2025 19:41

puppymaddness · 07/12/2025 19:29

Sure. Anyone can claim be trans if they want to, just like anyone can claim to be depressed , or gay, or any number of things , but why would they?

What being trans is, is to have a cognitive/ psychic difference in the brain, such that your perceive / recognise yourself to be other than your birth sex. You can claim this to avoid prison if you like; or because you're a gender critical feminist who wants to poke fun and discredit trans people experience. It really doesn't matter. it doesn't make you factually trans any more than claiming disability to access disability benefits factually means you have a disability.

Of course we shouldn't go around everyday judging who is or isn't disabled, or gay, or autistic, or trans, based on our external perception. we just have to trust, ( which does in fact reflect the actual reality, for all sorts of obvious reasons) that for the overwhelming part, the reason people are claiming these identities is because that is who they really are.

Sure. Anyone can claim be trans if they want to, just like anyone can claim to be depressed , or gay, or any number of things , but why would they?

Well, (how to put this) some get a stiffie being around half-dressed women, especially if they can be half-dressed themselves, so there’s that.

Then there’s the attention and (so stunning, so brave) kind affirmations.

Then there’s, for some, the hope of avoiding female puberty and having to deal with a developing female body.

I’m sure there are other reasons too.

FallenSloppyDead2 · 07/12/2025 19:42

SionnachRuadh · 07/12/2025 19:41

I know it's annoying that on FWR we tend to use words with their common meaning.

This means that, when a poster comes along and does that Aleister Crowley thing of saying "I'm using words like 'sex' and 'male' and 'female' with special esoteric meanings that you unsophisticated muggles couldn't possibly understand", and then goes on to treat us to hundreds of posts telling us we're wrong on the basis of private definitions that they refuse to explain... well, it makes conversation difficult.

But maybe that's the point.

I'm certain it is the point

puppymaddness · 07/12/2025 19:43

Seethlaw · 07/12/2025 19:40

I'm so confused 😐 What's the point of coming onto a forum if you're not able or willing to explain the way you conceive of the most basic words used in the conversation? If all you can do is repeat, "You're wrong," or "I don't agree with you"? How does that advance anything for anyone?

I mean, I had my turn in an almost-cult, the church I grew up in. I had my turn arguing online with its detractors. But at least I did my best to engage with their arguments, to try to understand them, to try to explain to them what I thought and why I thought that way.

This circus of "Things are the way I say because I say so"... What's the point 🤔???

I'm not sure how you can say that to me when you know perfectly well I've written numerous posts explaining / discussing things. BuT at a certain point people just start repeating the same things over and over, what's the point in typing out the same?

. I still think it's important to stand up and be counted as saying no.

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