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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Trans people frightened to leave homes, says MP

300 replies

PrawnofthePatriarchy · 29/09/2025 09:26

"Trans people are frightened to go out or use public toilets after the Supreme Court ruling which defined a woman in terms of biological sex, a Labour MP has said."

"Rachel Taylor, who is a member of the women and equality select committee, described the interim guidance put forward by the equality and human rights commission after the ruling as “dangerous” and “incorrect”."

www.thetimes.com/uk/politics/article/labour-party-conference-2025-live-keir-starmer-latest-news-v7zvhgqhg

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Merrymouse · 29/09/2025 14:01

Timeforabitofpeace · 29/09/2025 13:31

I think that the debate has become hateful. I’ve said previously that some of the comments on here are beyond unnecessary. Immature, some of them. I always get a pile on for saying it, but it’s true. Nobody has heeded the judges warnings about not letting it get here. It’s not necessary. Not all trans people are fighting to use women toilets or doing awful things. I’m sure many aren’t. Keep them out of women’s spaces, fine, I agree. But then let it go and leave people alone.

How do you let it go when this MP on the Women and Equality Select Committee seems to misunderstand the role of the Supreme Court and the EHRC?

Apparently she expects the EHRC to issue guidance that contravenes the law - what should we do - ignore her?

ilod · 29/09/2025 14:03

Transister · 29/09/2025 13:58

I suppose my comment about my brother is pretty mean but I'm sure it's not all trans people. He is fairly newly trans and in an observing and angry stage. He really should be encouraging men to make him feel more comfortable not talking to teenagers about sanitary protection. (That was a twist I never saw when attending a family funeral)

can I ask, as this also happened in our family…did it come out of the blue? Is he autistic, has mental health issues?
How do the family respond to him? I can’t use pronouns as my relative has been known to me as he for over twenty years. They conveniently have a unisex name. Their whole entire identity is tied up in trans and they don’t leave the house or have a job.

SionnachRuadh · 29/09/2025 14:04

Imnobody4 · 29/09/2025 13:27

LGBT+ Labour lists this MP as part of the “Chris Smith List”; a list of LGBT+ candidates in receipt of funding from LGBT+ Labour in support of their campaigns.

Last year Pink News were bigging her up as one of the record tally of LGBTQ+ MPs, which I decode as meaning she's lesbian, but not one of those bad lesbians who disagree with Pink News.

Members of the alphabet community are ridiculously overrepresented in the Parliamentary Labour Party, some say up to 25%. I stress that I don't have a problem at all with gay or lesbian MPs - I don't even have a problem with them being somewhat overrepresented. But if they're massively overrepresented and also sifted for ideological conformism, then we've got a sense of why Bridget Phillipson is having problems asserting that women exist.

DialSquare · 29/09/2025 14:13

Mistyglade · 29/09/2025 13:42

I live in Lambeth which apparently has the highest number of trans people in the country. I can confirm I see a number of men in women’s clothes most days whilst I’m on the bus or
walking the streets. Never have I seen said people look concerned nor anyone else concerned with them. Nobody gives a shit, we tend to keep out of other people’s business because it’s none of ours.

I live in an area that has a high percentage of men of all persuasions. I see them walk down the street and on public transport all the time. I still don’t want to see any of them in female single sex spaces.

I wish people would stop pretending it’s about being trans when everyone knows it’s about being men.

And if you are seeing trans people all the time, they can’t be that frightened to go out.

MarieDeGournay · 29/09/2025 14:15

BunfightBetty · 29/09/2025 13:47

I don't disagree with you not disagreeing with me
Smile @MarieDeGournay You're always so reasonable, thoughtful and kind on every thread I see you post on. Just about as opposite to 'hateful' as you could get.

I totally agree with you about the more pushback the better.

We can forgive you the 'iceflow' moment 😉, though drinks are always welcome 🤪

That is so lovely thank you BunfightBetty and it's very good of you to post such affirming things. That's the way I'd like to be perceived, so it's nice to know I'm doing fairly OK at itGrin

Mistyglade · 29/09/2025 14:16

DialSquare · 29/09/2025 14:13

I live in an area that has a high percentage of men of all persuasions. I see them walk down the street and on public transport all the time. I still don’t want to see any of them in female single sex spaces.

I wish people would stop pretending it’s about being trans when everyone knows it’s about being men.

And if you are seeing trans people all the time, they can’t be that frightened to go out.

Edited

I’m talking about them leaving their homes as per the thread title. I’ve seen men in women’s loos at Somerset house and can confirm i caused what could be politely described as a scene.

susiedaisy1912 · 29/09/2025 14:17

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 29/09/2025 09:34

What a lot of drama over nothing.

Now they know how women who don't feel safe using toilets alongside men feel.

This

DialSquare · 29/09/2025 14:18

Mistyglade · 29/09/2025 14:16

I’m talking about them leaving their homes as per the thread title. I’ve seen men in women’s loos at Somerset house and can confirm i caused what could be politely described as a scene.

I see. Apologies for the misunderstanding.

Mistyglade · 29/09/2025 14:18

Greyskybluesky · 29/09/2025 13:46

No one gives a shit about someone walking down the street.

But that Molly whats-his-name waving his camera about in the ladies lavs, yes I do have a strong opinion on that.

I’m talking about them leaving their homes as per the thread title. I’ve seen men in women’s loos at Somerset house and can confirm i caused what could be politely described as a scene.

Greyskybluesky · 29/09/2025 14:20

Mistyglade · 29/09/2025 14:18

I’m talking about them leaving their homes as per the thread title. I’ve seen men in women’s loos at Somerset house and can confirm i caused what could be politely described as a scene.

Ah ok, I get you.

Wish I'd seen the scene!

Mistyglade · 29/09/2025 14:20

DialSquare · 29/09/2025 14:18

I see. Apologies for the misunderstanding.

no probs.

Mistyglade · 29/09/2025 14:22

Greyskybluesky · 29/09/2025 14:20

Ah ok, I get you.

Wish I'd seen the scene!

I suspect you’d have approved I hope you’d have joined in with me!

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 29/09/2025 14:29

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 29/09/2025 12:11

I'm sure your friend's partner will get used to it.

There will probably be a lot more unisex facilities in the coming years, which should help.

I'm not a fan of unisex facilities either. There needs to be a third & fourth space for trans people to use, even if that means making the men's and women's loos a bit smaller to accommodate the extra necessary space.

According to TRAs I've read elsewhere on t'internet this is not viable because people will just constantly wait around outside them to beat them up, but as the PPs friends experience shows that's unlikely to be the case.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 29/09/2025 14:34

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 29/09/2025 14:29

I'm not a fan of unisex facilities either. There needs to be a third & fourth space for trans people to use, even if that means making the men's and women's loos a bit smaller to accommodate the extra necessary space.

According to TRAs I've read elsewhere on t'internet this is not viable because people will just constantly wait around outside them to beat them up, but as the PPs friends experience shows that's unlikely to be the case.

All the reported incidents that are alleged to have occurred since the Supreme Court judgment have been in women's toilets.

Surely that would suggest that they should use men's toilets for their own safety.

CatAsstrophe · 29/09/2025 14:38

Echobelly · 29/09/2025 12:09

My friend's fiancee is a trans woman and she's certainly scared about loos. She has decided she's sufficiently worried about getting attacked or otherwise punished for using women's loos where there's not a neutral alternative that she'll use the men's. Thus far has to put up with 'I think you're in the wrong toilets love' (she is a small, slight woman who you can't 'always tell' is trans) from men and thank God nothing worse yet, but she's already very introverted and socially anxious and this is not helping.

He's not a small, slight woman. He's a small, slight man. Irrespective of adverse comments, body size or clothing, using male toilets is the correct thing to do.

Re: Rachel Taylor, I don't believe her.

Transister · 29/09/2025 14:39

ilod · 29/09/2025 14:03

can I ask, as this also happened in our family…did it come out of the blue? Is he autistic, has mental health issues?
How do the family respond to him? I can’t use pronouns as my relative has been known to me as he for over twenty years. They conveniently have a unisex name. Their whole entire identity is tied up in trans and they don’t leave the house or have a job.

Let's go and talk on another thread
https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/womens_rights/5419068-middle-aged-brothers-suddenly-finding-a-trans-identity

Greyskybluesky · 29/09/2025 14:39

Mistyglade · 29/09/2025 14:22

I suspect you’d have approved I hope you’d have joined in with me!

For sure!

In fact, I was very vocal when I encountered a man in the women's toilets at a train station, he was masturbating and then tried to sexually assault me.

Not all men are like that. But some are. So let's keep them all out of women's single-sex spaces, however they are dressed. Decent men understand this.

moto748e · 29/09/2025 14:43

Sad thing is, when I saw the thread title, I just knew it would be a woman MP. And it is.

Timeforabitofpeace · 29/09/2025 14:47

@MerrymouseIm talking about posts I’ve seen over the months which are really unpleasant and unnecessary. Not necessarily yours.

Mistyglade · 29/09/2025 14:51

Greyskybluesky · 29/09/2025 14:39

For sure!

In fact, I was very vocal when I encountered a man in the women's toilets at a train station, he was masturbating and then tried to sexually assault me.

Not all men are like that. But some are. So let's keep them all out of women's single-sex spaces, however they are dressed. Decent men understand this.

I’m so sorry you had to go through that, I’d have been terrified. Sometimes I take a look back at the situation and remain staggered we’re having to defend our rights to women’s only loo’s. It’s completely and utterly fucking mental.

BorneBackCeaselesslyIntoThePas · 29/09/2025 14:59

(Male toilets) “According to (autistic) DS the social rules around toiletting/urinals are a minefield. I’d like to see that covered.

eh? You don’t make eye contact. You don’t talk (unless alcohol is involved) You don’t take a urinal next to another person, unless there is no other option. You certainly don’t comment on what anyone is wearing

sounds straightforward

Greyskybluesky · 29/09/2025 14:59

Mistyglade · 29/09/2025 14:51

I’m so sorry you had to go through that, I’d have been terrified. Sometimes I take a look back at the situation and remain staggered we’re having to defend our rights to women’s only loo’s. It’s completely and utterly fucking mental.

Thanks. Nah, my instinct was to be furious not terrified. He was quite literally a pathetic little wanker.

I've no problem kicking up a loud fuss in public. But would my granny have felt able to do that? Or my little niece? Or countless other women and girls who would have frozen in fear? And why should they have to, in a space that is designated for them?

You are right, it's completely and utterly fucking mental that we've reached this point.

Bonden · 29/09/2025 15:13

I saw two today out and about so that’s tosh for a start

crossant · 29/09/2025 15:17

BorneBackCeaselesslyIntoThePas · 29/09/2025 14:59

(Male toilets) “According to (autistic) DS the social rules around toiletting/urinals are a minefield. I’d like to see that covered.

eh? You don’t make eye contact. You don’t talk (unless alcohol is involved) You don’t take a urinal next to another person, unless there is no other option. You certainly don’t comment on what anyone is wearing

sounds straightforward

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Which Urinal Should You Really Pee In?

Given the circumstances, where would YOU pee?

https://www.buzzfeed.com/sydrobinson1/which-urinal-should-you-really-pee-in

Absentosaur · 29/09/2025 15:19
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