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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Women's 'Private Spaces'

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Howseitgoin · 26/08/2025 03:45

Clearly private spaces for women are considered a necessity by many due to a propensity for male sexual violence. Given this threat is much greater by orders of magnitude in the work place as opposed to public bathrooms, isn't it inconsistent not to demand private spaces there as well?
Thoughts?

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ThatBlackCat · 26/08/2025 04:28

Where is your evidence the threat is greater at work? That's a new one! I've never heard that before.

The threat is clearly and obviously (and backed by statistics and data) much greater in public toilets which is accessed by the entire public, not just vetted staff.

TeenToTwenties · 26/08/2025 04:36

Single sex toilets are for privacy and dignity, not just safety.

No idea what you are on about wrt work? In the company I worked in we had single sex toilets too. Most places will if above a certain size.

Or are you trying to segregate women like in Afghanistan?

Namelessnelly · 26/08/2025 05:22

Howseitgoin · 26/08/2025 03:45

Clearly private spaces for women are considered a necessity by many due to a propensity for male sexual violence. Given this threat is much greater by orders of magnitude in the work place as opposed to public bathrooms, isn't it inconsistent not to demand private spaces there as well?
Thoughts?

Yawn. 1/10 for originality. 0/10 for effort I remember the good old days when people at least made an effort.

Howseitgoin · 26/08/2025 05:54

More than half of women experienced sexual harassment in public bathrooms do they? Evidence?

"Workplace sexual harassment is sadly common and gendered. For example, Fitzgerald and Cortina (2018) estimated that half of all working women will experience sexual harassment during their working life and polling by the Trades Union Congress (2016) reported that women are 3 times more likely than men to be a victim. However, a 2021 UN survey found that 80% of sexual harassment victims in the UK never report the incident (UN Women UK, 2021) and such a significant number of unreported cases makes it difficult to obtain precise prevalence figures. Indeed, a culture of non-reporting/non-reacting underlies the narrative that workplace sexual harassment is uncommon."

Work place sexual harassment

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10248292/#:~:text=Data%20Collection,left%20199%20comments%20for%20analysis.

An Exploratory Investigation Into Women's Experience of Sexual Harassment in the Workplace - PMC

The recent surge in online movements challenging the culture of silence surrounding sexual harassment has created new spaces for women to share their stories. This research employed a qualitative, exploratory design to study 199 comments on a public .....

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10248292/#bibr9-10778012221114921

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Howseitgoin · 26/08/2025 06:04

I'm not referring to bathrooms in the work place. I am referring specifically to being alone with men in the workplace. Nor am I suggesting there should be separate work spaces. I'm simply questioning the inconsistency in approaches to being in the company of men given the risk factor is present in both scenarios & significantly more at work.

Can't have it both ways?

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ThatBlackCat · 26/08/2025 06:10

Howseitgoin · 26/08/2025 06:04

I'm not referring to bathrooms in the work place. I am referring specifically to being alone with men in the workplace. Nor am I suggesting there should be separate work spaces. I'm simply questioning the inconsistency in approaches to being in the company of men given the risk factor is present in both scenarios & significantly more at work.

Can't have it both ways?

If you don't understand how the risk is greater when women and girls are VULNERABLE AND IN A STATE OF PARTIAL UNDRESS, you are beyond understanding anything and reasoning with, or just trying to goad/troll us.

There is a reason female only intimate spaces exist. Ask yourself why that is.

Lastly, AGAIN, it's not just about safety. You seem utterly and completely incapable of understanding that it's about PRIVACY and DIGNITY away from the male gaze and presence.

PermanentTemporary · 26/08/2025 06:11

Toilets, not bathrooms. I think the last public bathroom in the UK closed in the 80s.

ThatBlackCat · 26/08/2025 06:12

PermanentTemporary · 26/08/2025 06:11

Toilets, not bathrooms. I think the last public bathroom in the UK closed in the 80s.

It's an easy way to tell the Americans on here. And of course, womens rights are far worse in America. Hence a lot of American posters attitudes to womens rights and spaces on here.

PermanentTemporary · 26/08/2025 06:14

I do t think women’s rights are worse in the US, or not yet anyway (ask me again after a bit longer under the orange arse). They’re just different.

Justme56 · 26/08/2025 06:15

Anywhere were women are in a state of undress, whether this be changing their clothes or using the loo with their pants around their ankles makes women more vulnerable - hence the reason for making these spaces female only. The aim is safeguarding - putting things in place to try and prevent this from happening. As for sexual harassment at work, yes this a problem too, hence the reason for new legislation such as the Worker Protection Act 2023 where employers have to proactively take reasonable steps to prevent sexual harassment at work. This too is an example of putting things in place to try and prevent this from happening.

TheaBrandt1 · 26/08/2025 06:22

What on earth are you on about? When you go to the loo you are in a state of undress and vulnerability in a small enclosed space. This is not the case meeting with Brian from accounts in boardroom no 2.

DeanElderberry · 26/08/2025 06:25

Workplace toilets and changing rooms need to be single sex because they are places women will be partly undressed and vulnerable for physical reasons.

If that is enforced they should also provide a safe retreat from pervy men. I say should since it was in a workplace toilet that my colleague was cornered - though the space's single-sex designation enabled her and the woman who followed the creepy man in to expel him and get him officially sanctioned and eventually sacked. It does provide a space away from non-criminal but still difficult male colleagues.

Was your OP your best gotcha, ultimately proving women can't be workers?

BrickBiscuit · 26/08/2025 06:34

The statistics here are muddled. 'Women in workplace' v 'women in public bathrooms' is not like-for-like. We need 'workplace bathrooms' v 'public bathrooms', 'workplace generally' v 'public generally' etc. Confounding variables, like reporting levels, might need accounting for. Criteria like 'alone with men' need to be made consistent.

Howseitgoin · 26/08/2025 06:35

You act as if there's no such thing as a 'locked cubicle'.

Hoe do you cope at most restaurants where shared spaces has been a thing for decades?

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Howseitgoin · 26/08/2025 06:39

Very good. You're almost getting it. Employers aren't providing locked cubicles in separate work areas but education & penalties. So logic should dictate if its good enough for the work place where sexual harassment is endemic then its good enough where it isn't.

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AnSolas · 26/08/2025 06:39

Howseitgoin · 26/08/2025 06:04

I'm not referring to bathrooms in the work place. I am referring specifically to being alone with men in the workplace. Nor am I suggesting there should be separate work spaces. I'm simply questioning the inconsistency in approaches to being in the company of men given the risk factor is present in both scenarios & significantly more at work.

Can't have it both ways?

Your logic is a bit dim.

Males in public spaces dont choose to not harrass women in public spaces and then when they go to work suddenly decide to begin to harrass women in their work force.

That kind of lack of thinking is a sad reflection on your ability to make even a half assed attempt at a debate.

Howseitgoin · 26/08/2025 06:40

HINT: Brian from accounts doesn't need you to be in a "state of undress" to 'make a move'.

IE your attire won't protect you.

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ThatBlackCat · 26/08/2025 06:42

Howseitgoin · 26/08/2025 06:35

You act as if there's no such thing as a 'locked cubicle'.

Hoe do you cope at most restaurants where shared spaces has been a thing for decades?

You act as if locked cubicles aren't a thing in the males, either.

It's the COMMUNAL space that gives women and girls support. Not the 'cubicle'.

Privacy and safety, not just dignity, is a legitimate aim of female only HARD WON single sex spaces.

ThatBlackCat · 26/08/2025 06:45

Howseitgoin · 26/08/2025 06:40

HINT: Brian from accounts doesn't need you to be in a "state of undress" to 'make a move'.

IE your attire won't protect you.

Hint: female intimate spaces give women PRIVACY AND DIGNITY, not just safety.

Igneococcus · 26/08/2025 06:45

I like and trust pretty much all my male colleagues, I still don't want them to be in the cubicle next to me and I think they don't want that either. There is one woman on my floor (I'm fairly sure I know who it is, different company) who doesn't even come into the toilet when one of the cubicles is occupied by another woman and waits until the toilet is empty or probably uses the accessible toilet instead.

AnSolas · 26/08/2025 06:46

Howseitgoin · 26/08/2025 06:39

Very good. You're almost getting it. Employers aren't providing locked cubicles in separate work areas but education & penalties. So logic should dictate if its good enough for the work place where sexual harassment is endemic then its good enough where it isn't.

You missed that in the UK the law says that employers must provide single sex spaces for men and single sex spaces for women when it comes to changing clothes or removing clothes etc?

So you "very good" thought process fails to be logical.

But please feel free to test and prove your theory that harrassment of women in public spaces is not endemic.🍿

Howseitgoin · 26/08/2025 06:48

"Was your OP your best gotcha, ultimately proving women can't be workers?"

Not at all. Just the opposite. I'm simply pointing to the inconsistencies in separate bathrooms & as a staunch feminist it concerns me greatly that women should regress to separate spheres of influence & by insisting male predatorial inclinations & violence cannot be tolerated there is only one direction this is heading & no where good for women.

How did public bathrooms get to be separated by sex in the first place?

It wasn’t even until the late 19th century that this was codified into law.

https://theconversation.com/how-did-public-bathrooms-get-to-be-separated-by-sex-in-the-first-place-59575

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Justme56 · 26/08/2025 06:50

Locked cubicles are fine but what is wrong with adding another layer of protection by making them female only. In the UK, unisex toilets are supposed to be separate rooms not part of a line of cubicles because those involved in the design have identified this as the safest option. It makes perfect sense to most people. Single sex toilets were introduced because women didn’t feel safe when sharing with men. The question is why do you not want women to have the safest option?

Howseitgoin · 26/08/2025 06:50

I'm broadcasting from Australia where our laws beg to disagree.

That the UK government made a politically advantageous decision doesn't make it ethical.

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sanluca · 26/08/2025 06:50

Howseitgoin · 26/08/2025 06:04

I'm not referring to bathrooms in the work place. I am referring specifically to being alone with men in the workplace. Nor am I suggesting there should be separate work spaces. I'm simply questioning the inconsistency in approaches to being in the company of men given the risk factor is present in both scenarios & significantly more at work.

Can't have it both ways?

Is your argument that as women get assaulted by men anyway, they should stop complaining about sharing toilets and changing rooms with the same men?

This is not how human rights work but thank you for pointing out that women are at risk from men.

just fyi, safeguarding principles state you should make it harder for men to access their victims, not give up and tell the victims to live with the risks.

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