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This thread is specifically for people who think JK Rowling is awful so..

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CurlewKate · 18/08/2025 05:44

If you don't think she is please don’t post. Please can you tell me specifically what she has said or done that is so bad. I promise that I will listen and not argue. If you could include links that would be great. If your inclination is to assume that I’m posting in bad faith and any reasonably well informed person must be stupid or bigoted not to know, then please just let the thread die.

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MissScarletInTheBallroom · 18/08/2025 15:51

justteanbiscuits · 18/08/2025 15:41

As I said, I believe trans women are trans women. I think there is space for people to be able to identify as a trans woman or a trans man. Entirely separate from being a male or a female.

I don't believe the vast majority of transwomen are a threat to women. I believe, however, that predatory men are a huge threat, and they could pretend to be trans in order to make women unsafe. (caveat being there are evil, dangerous people out regardless of sex, or gender, or identity. Some people are just bad people)

I think anyone who has gone through male puberty has a natural benefit for sport, and as such, it is important to have separate categories for the majority of sports. Whatever anyone hormones level are at that moment time, puberty itself grows bone and muscle strength that isn't lost.

I believe transwomen have their own experiences, but they are not the experiences of a woman, and they should not speak for women. A trans woman who came out as an adult, for example, has not faced the sexual harassment that comes of being a teen girl. They haven't, and never will, experience bleeding every month and the stigma that comes with it. There are many experiences that are unique to being female, and that needs protecting.

But, having a friend who is over 6ft, short haired and large chested, who wears heavy make up, and isn't traditionally attractive, who has been harassed and abused many time for "being a man", I worry about the 'vigilantes' out there who feel they have the right to police the toilets. I don't think so called collateral damage is acceptable.

Oh, mate.

You are a TERF in denial and you do not actually believe trans women are women.

justteanbiscuits · 18/08/2025 15:55

Mmmnotsure · 18/08/2025 14:24

Thank you for replying.

Do you believe trans women are male?

Re your involvement in sport, are you in the UK, because if so the percentage of people 'assigned female at birth' not being 'actually female' is so tiny I am surprised it is a consideration.

Now that a birth certificate can be reissued to show the opposite sex to the biological sex of the person holding it, how do you deal with that?

Oh, and re the sport.

At youth and amateur level there is no more that we can do than trust people to join the correct category. There isn't the money for more than that. Luckily I haven't been faced with the situation, but if they pushed the issue, there really is nothing we could do without MASSIVE investment in amateur sports - and that isn't going to happen. The rules are clear - you race under your gender at birth, or you race in the open category.

justteanbiscuits · 18/08/2025 15:55

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 18/08/2025 15:51

Oh, mate.

You are a TERF in denial and you do not actually believe trans women are women.

Oh name calling. Excellent.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 18/08/2025 15:56

justteanbiscuits · 18/08/2025 15:55

Oh name calling. Excellent.

I'm not using "TERF" as a slur.

Basically the only difference between us is that you think it's mean not to pretend to believe that trans women are women.

But you don't believe they are any more than we do.

Mapletree1985 · 18/08/2025 15:59

MarieDeGournay · 18/08/2025 10:27

I'm one of the probably very few people on here who has never read a single word of JKR's fiction. All I know of her is her pro-women activism, her philanthropy, and those very very witty tweetsSmile
That's enough to make me think that she is an admirable person, a tireless defender of the undefended, and someone who has made a huge contribution to social justice when it was/is under threat.

I have to take issue with your description of her review of NS's Frankly as 'personal and vicious.'
I thought the reviews by JKR and K. Stock were careful to avoid being personal and vicious, though the temptation - and the ammunition provided by material in NS's book - must have been strong. I'm sure they knew their reviews would be scrutinised closely for anything personal or below the belt.

The reviews were about what NS has said in her book, and how it is at odds with what NS did in her public life. Not, note, her personal life. Her public, political life, which was extraordinary, and extraordinarily damaging to women's rights, so hard-hitting criticism, including from JKR is just par for the course.

Hard-hitting, fact-based criticism of an apologia about a politician's controversial and ultimately failed career is not the same a personal and vicious attack, and I don't think it is correct to describe JKR's review as such.

Agree!

I wonder if some people think JKR ought to preface her opinions the way women are always supposed to: "I don't know if anyone else here will agree with me, and if you think I'm wrong, that's totally okay - please correct me if I misunderstood something, I'm always trying to learn! - but it does seem to me as if Nicola Sturgeon might have got a few things wrong. I'm sure she's a very nice person and I have nothing against her personally...."

We all know how that goes. If we don't sugar coat our criticism, we'll get attacked and downvoted, because we're women and women are supposed to be nice. JKR is having none of it, and why should she?

justteanbiscuits · 18/08/2025 16:00

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 18/08/2025 15:56

I'm not using "TERF" as a slur.

Basically the only difference between us is that you think it's mean not to pretend to believe that trans women are women.

But you don't believe they are any more than we do.

I've never claimed to be anything, or not be anything. I have simply related a story and then answered questions.

To add to it, I support the use of language in medical situations such as "women and those with a cervix" as I think it is important to ensure that trans men still receive adequate healthcare.

GargoylesofBeelzebub · 18/08/2025 16:04

I'll never forget JKR effectively neutralising the Scottish government's draconian hate crime laws. The TRAs were gearing up to destroy ordinary women and she took the wind right out of their sails. What a shero.

Bloozie · 18/08/2025 16:08

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 18/08/2025 10:48

By the way, it might interest some people on this thread to know that there is currently £1m in reward money up for grabs for the person who can find something JK Rowling has actually said which is transphobic. It's been unclaimed for a surprisingly long time.

For the longest time, this was how Tommy Robinson's supporters defended him. For all I know, they still do. "Go on then, show me something our Tommy has said that's racist. Come on - show me! I'm waiting. You can't, can you? Because he ISN'T RACIST."

I'm not saying JK is or isn't transphobic. Just that this line of defence - she's never committed it to paper - doesn't prove anything either way, and reminds me v much of the extremely lame defences of known racists.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 18/08/2025 16:12

justteanbiscuits · 18/08/2025 16:00

I've never claimed to be anything, or not be anything. I have simply related a story and then answered questions.

To add to it, I support the use of language in medical situations such as "women and those with a cervix" as I think it is important to ensure that trans men still receive adequate healthcare.

Yes, OK.

But look at what you posted.

You admitted that there is no way to distinguish between a trans woman and a predatory male. (Correct. Why? Because both are male people whose inner thoughts and feelings we aren't privy to.)

You said that trans women have an unfair advantage over women in sport. (Correct. Because they are male people and their thoughts and feelings don't affect their sporting performance.)

And you said that trans women's experience isn't the same as women's experience. (Again, correct.)

You say "trans women are trans women". You can't even bring yourself to say "trans women are women", because you know it's stupid.

But "trans women are trans women" doesn't mean anything, any more than "spoons are spoons" means something.

Trans women are men, it just still feels taboo to say it.

You're just a year or so behind JK Rowling in your gender critical awakening.

LadyBracknellsHandbagg · 18/08/2025 16:15

Bloozie · 18/08/2025 16:08

For the longest time, this was how Tommy Robinson's supporters defended him. For all I know, they still do. "Go on then, show me something our Tommy has said that's racist. Come on - show me! I'm waiting. You can't, can you? Because he ISN'T RACIST."

I'm not saying JK is or isn't transphobic. Just that this line of defence - she's never committed it to paper - doesn't prove anything either way, and reminds me v much of the extremely lame defences of known racists.

The difference being that it is astonishingly easy to find something racist that Stephen Yaxley Lennon said.

SingingintheRadiator · 18/08/2025 16:19

LadyBracknellsHandbagg · 18/08/2025 16:15

The difference being that it is astonishingly easy to find something racist that Stephen Yaxley Lennon said.

Yes, people will argue the stuff he's said is not racist, but the stuff can actually be produced and debated as to whether it is racist or not. I don't think anyone's produced any evidence for us to debate about JK's transphobia at all. That's the difference.

takealettermsjones · 18/08/2025 16:19

Bloozie · 18/08/2025 16:08

For the longest time, this was how Tommy Robinson's supporters defended him. For all I know, they still do. "Go on then, show me something our Tommy has said that's racist. Come on - show me! I'm waiting. You can't, can you? Because he ISN'T RACIST."

I'm not saying JK is or isn't transphobic. Just that this line of defence - she's never committed it to paper - doesn't prove anything either way, and reminds me v much of the extremely lame defences of known racists.

It's hardly a lame defence to ask for the evidence of something of which a person is accused.

Merrymouse · 18/08/2025 16:22

justteanbiscuits · 18/08/2025 16:00

I've never claimed to be anything, or not be anything. I have simply related a story and then answered questions.

To add to it, I support the use of language in medical situations such as "women and those with a cervix" as I think it is important to ensure that trans men still receive adequate healthcare.

Do you think trans men don't know that their sex is female?

'Woman' should be a completely gender neutral word. You no more have to identify with being a woman than you have to identify with having an elbow or a blood type.

Why is it helpful to assert that 'woman' has to be attached to a specific identity, moreover one that is linked to women's oppression?

LadyBracknellsHandbagg · 18/08/2025 16:24

justteanbiscuits · 18/08/2025 16:00

I've never claimed to be anything, or not be anything. I have simply related a story and then answered questions.

To add to it, I support the use of language in medical situations such as "women and those with a cervix" as I think it is important to ensure that trans men still receive adequate healthcare.

That isn’t what you did though is it? You made an accusation about JKR, which you couldn’t substantiate, and when asked for proof of it you became abusive, angry and defensive, and made some extraordinary comments to me in particular, does the word disgusting ring any bells? How else do you explain some of your posts being deleted by @MNHQ ?

SingingintheRadiator · 18/08/2025 16:24

Merrymouse · 18/08/2025 16:22

Do you think trans men don't know that their sex is female?

'Woman' should be a completely gender neutral word. You no more have to identify with being a woman than you have to identify with having an elbow or a blood type.

Why is it helpful to assert that 'woman' has to be attached to a specific identity, moreover one that is linked to women's oppression?

I used to think everyone knew their sex, but when even a male doctor states he's a biological woman under oath, you have to wonder...

CurlewKate · 18/08/2025 16:24

Bloozie · 18/08/2025 16:08

For the longest time, this was how Tommy Robinson's supporters defended him. For all I know, they still do. "Go on then, show me something our Tommy has said that's racist. Come on - show me! I'm waiting. You can't, can you? Because he ISN'T RACIST."

I'm not saying JK is or isn't transphobic. Just that this line of defence - she's never committed it to paper - doesn't prove anything either way, and reminds me v much of the extremely lame defences of known racists.

So are you saying that JKR is transphobic but has never actually committed anything transphobic to paper/twitter/SMS?

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MissScarletInTheBallroom · 18/08/2025 16:24

Bloozie · 18/08/2025 16:08

For the longest time, this was how Tommy Robinson's supporters defended him. For all I know, they still do. "Go on then, show me something our Tommy has said that's racist. Come on - show me! I'm waiting. You can't, can you? Because he ISN'T RACIST."

I'm not saying JK is or isn't transphobic. Just that this line of defence - she's never committed it to paper - doesn't prove anything either way, and reminds me v much of the extremely lame defences of known racists.

Right, but the most difficulty we have in responding to such a stupid comment is deciding which of the thousands of very racist things Yaxley-Lennon is on record as having said to quote first.

JK Rowling's detractors literally cannot find one transphobic thing she has said to quote.

Do you really think a £1m reward for finding a racist quote by Yaxley-Lennon would ever have been offered, much less sit unclaimed for years?

LadyBracknellsHandbagg · 18/08/2025 16:26

CurlewKate · 18/08/2025 16:24

So are you saying that JKR is transphobic but has never actually committed anything transphobic to paper/twitter/SMS?

It’s the thought police.

Bloozie · 18/08/2025 16:26

LadyBracknellsHandbagg · 18/08/2025 16:15

The difference being that it is astonishingly easy to find something racist that Stephen Yaxley Lennon said.

Yes I think it probably is these days. He's stopped being so careful. But I can distinctly remember seeing the same 'SHOW ME HE'S RACIST' demands online and googling thinking, how hard can it be, and not finding anything.

He also indignantly claimed that he wasn't racist or anti-Muslim at his libel trial.

To be crystal clear, I'm not lumping JK Rowling in anything like the same pot as Tommy Robinson. But I don't think that the repetitive, triumphant demands for proof she's a transphobe are the 'gotcha' that people think they are. She might be a transphobe. She might not be. But she's definitely not stupid.

Bloozie · 18/08/2025 16:30

CurlewKate · 18/08/2025 16:24

So are you saying that JKR is transphobic but has never actually committed anything transphobic to paper/twitter/SMS?

No. I have no idea if she's transphobic, so I'm not making any claims to that effect.

Just that lack of written evidence in no way proves that she isn't transphobic.

And no, I'm not thought policing her either. I really don't care if she's transphobic or not.

Bloozie · 18/08/2025 16:31

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 18/08/2025 16:24

Right, but the most difficulty we have in responding to such a stupid comment is deciding which of the thousands of very racist things Yaxley-Lennon is on record as having said to quote first.

JK Rowling's detractors literally cannot find one transphobic thing she has said to quote.

Do you really think a £1m reward for finding a racist quote by Yaxley-Lennon would ever have been offered, much less sit unclaimed for years?

I genuinely do think it would have been unclaimed in the period I remember his supporters using that line.

As I said, for the longest time, it was a defence used by his fans. Because it was. It would hold no water now.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 18/08/2025 16:35

Bloozie · 18/08/2025 16:26

Yes I think it probably is these days. He's stopped being so careful. But I can distinctly remember seeing the same 'SHOW ME HE'S RACIST' demands online and googling thinking, how hard can it be, and not finding anything.

He also indignantly claimed that he wasn't racist or anti-Muslim at his libel trial.

To be crystal clear, I'm not lumping JK Rowling in anything like the same pot as Tommy Robinson. But I don't think that the repetitive, triumphant demands for proof she's a transphobe are the 'gotcha' that people think they are. She might be a transphobe. She might not be. But she's definitely not stupid.

Surely she is on record as having said enough about trans issues for you to have an opinion on whether she is transphobic or not?

It's not as if she sits quietly thinking thoughts about trans issues, which may or may not be transphobic.

Her detractors are objecting to the comments she has made in writing, in a public space, over a period of almost 6 years. And yet they cannot quote a single one of those comments and give a coherent explanation as to why it is transphobic.

SingingintheRadiator · 18/08/2025 16:36

Bloozie · 18/08/2025 16:30

No. I have no idea if she's transphobic, so I'm not making any claims to that effect.

Just that lack of written evidence in no way proves that she isn't transphobic.

And no, I'm not thought policing her either. I really don't care if she's transphobic or not.

But equally, it means no one has any reason to say she is either, no? You can't just magically intuit that someone is racist or transphobic or hates dogs just because when they've literally never said anything that would suggest they are.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 18/08/2025 16:37

Bloozie · 18/08/2025 16:31

I genuinely do think it would have been unclaimed in the period I remember his supporters using that line.

As I said, for the longest time, it was a defence used by his fans. Because it was. It would hold no water now.

Yes but none of his supporters are in a position to offer £1 million reward money, so that would be a completely empty offer.

Whereas for JKR it's pocket change.

Merrymouse · 18/08/2025 16:41

Bloozie · 18/08/2025 16:31

I genuinely do think it would have been unclaimed in the period I remember his supporters using that line.

As I said, for the longest time, it was a defence used by his fans. Because it was. It would hold no water now.

Sorry, when? His back ground is in football hooliganism and fraud. I'm not sure when he decided he could monetise racism, but he has never hidden it, and it's pretty easy to find evidence that he is a criminal thug.

Does it perhaps occur to you that his fans are not particularly bright?

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