I have been thinking a lot about the issues raised in the case in particular the behaviour of professionals. I am not in anyway perfect although take my professional standards seriously.
I have been the Sandie Peggie at the office asking questions about changing CYP names and sex on legal documents without deedpolls or GRC’s. I made sure I used the CYP name in correspondence and avoided pronouns and insisted when dealing with external professionals I required the legal name.
The case for the defence has been a witch hunt!!! There is no perfect victim. Would Sandie Peggie and I get on as humans I cannot say. I do not like racism at all. However she has owned up and stood the stand again that I respect.
There is an ex-neighbour who is a HCA, a horrible representative for the NHS. She actually used the C word to describe my husband and had supported her nasty son to harass me due to my disability. He was a fit healthy (paratrooper apparently) yet was a lazy entitled brat who would park in my blue badge space or the neighbours on purpose. If she ever was working in a clinic or ward I was on. It would be made clear she is not involved or accesses my care plan in anyway. However she has the right to change with privacy, no matter my dislike of her.
To those acting as paragons of virtue, who have never been influenced by common language of their era.
Do you never say or think or share anything nasty about another women? Are your thoughts and jokes entirely pure?
Have you never made a judgement on a child with corporate parents thinking you would not wish them to be friends with your child?
Have you never made a judgment on a disabled person in receipt of benefits, without knowing background in depth?
For those of you with SEND CYPs have you never commented or laughed at the nasty videos about abusing SEND professionals? Not thinking they are human too?
Have you never judged a rape or sexual assault survivor by what they were wearing or the rumours you have heard about them?
Do you never use offensive language for disabilities in your younger years?
Have you never judged another women for self-harm or spending time in a mental health institution or made nasty comments about another women based on rumours?
Have you never judged a woman who is Neurodivergent for not fitting in or understanding the jokes?
For professionals how do you write about your patients or clients in their notes could you stand up to scrutiny?
I have experienced all those types of judgments by other women and it has impacted my self worth. Yet I am not a paragon of virtue myself. I have made mistakes and needed to learn from them. It is human nature. As I said I am not perfect and have used the common language of the day in the past without understanding the meaning.
I was told off on here yesterday for making a mistake about feminism and the suffergette movement. Individuals on an anonymous forum making presumptions about me and my background due to my writing a comment on Mum’s Net not writing an in-depth academically researched paper on feminism. I reflected understood that these commenters do not know me personally. I shall be ordering a copy of the book recommended.
I understand that for those who have experienced significant racism that Sandie Peggie’s actions have casused pain. You feel she should not get a large financial compensation. This case is not about the financial aspects it is about the justice and treatment of a women wanting a private space to change and impacts ALL WOMEN no matter our personal view of them.
This situation started with the implementation of GRC’s. It has been hijacked by a MRA movement for nefarious purposes. The significant issue with legislation and policies are the unintended consequences are unpredictable. This situation could not have been predicted when the legislation and policies were created.
It is due to women including the ones who are not perfect standing up and taking a stand. Putting themselves in the firing line and this is what we must all remember. Put aside your personal views and support each other as women.
THANK YOU AGAIN TO @nauticant, @Boiledbeetle, @BezMills and others (sorry I do not have everyone’s names to hand) for highlighting this case and sharing valuable information. I hope your contributions are shared in the Netflix series in years to come.