Very late to reply (this thread is massive aand I am trying to read it all) but I really do feel a bit iffy about this.
Tangfastic
"I’ve never met a woman, trans or otherwise who has had a negative experience with trans women"
You have of course never met me, but I am here to tell you that since the early 1970s I have known, socialised with, and been happy to invite to my home on exactly the same basis as anyone whether straight, gay, lesbian, black, white or etc, many trans people. Many as in "more than ten, fewer than fifty".
There have only ever been two people I have disinvited: one because I was told by several people from various of the categories listed above that if that person was coming to an occasion then they would not be, because of that person's horrible behaviour, temper and entitledness in general, and one because of lying to and about me and making a completely unfounded and wild accusation against me.
I'm sure it is entirely coincidence that both are MtF trans.