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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

"Biological sex is a multidimensional variable with various components" - Thread 2

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MissScarletInTheBallroom · 24/07/2025 18:33

The last thread ended with Tandora attempting to sidestep the question about what she would say if her daughter had been raped by a trans woman in a female only space and no longer believed that trans women should be in female only spaces as a consequence.

Her last reply was along the lines of, "The same thing I would say if she had been bullied by a green person at school and said she no longer wanted to go to school with green people."

@Tandora can we have a serious answer?

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crazysnakess · 25/07/2025 15:55

Tandora · 25/07/2025 15:52

Yes we are sharing our opinions

So all you've got, after hundreds of posts, is a personal opinion?

What a disappointment.

AstonScrapingsNameChange · 25/07/2025 15:57

And in case you primly argue that it's not nice to go around being an arsehole, no it isn't. But unless I cross a specific legal threshold, it's not illegal.

Because this is the issue when you have two or more sets of rights that collide. Just 'being nice' doesn't solve the problem.

Because what you consider nice, I consider an infringement of my rights, and vice versa.

Isn't it fortunate that the SC have sorted all this out already?

Tandora · 25/07/2025 15:58

AstonScrapingsNameChange · 25/07/2025 15:54

Which law specifically are you quoting?

You keep saying that we 'have' to treat people with 'respect', but this just seems to be thinly disguised code for 'you have to treat people how i say'.

It is not illegal to 'disrespect' someone.

Similarly, you have no legal right to not be 'offended' or indeed 'triggered'.

This is why is really important to agree what words mean, so we can all understand what argument is being presented.

At the moment, you sound like you're moaning that people aren't kind enough.

Which is entirely your right to do. But nobody has to listen.

I suggest you follow the thread for the context. It’s not about doing as I say, it’s about treating trans people in a manner that is compatible with their basic human dignity- something that should be available to all people, even minorities, in a civilised , democratic society.

Annoyedone · 25/07/2025 15:59

Tandora · 25/07/2025 14:43

You don't have to believe in the reality of a trans woman's experience. But you have to respect her dignity as a trans person and accommodate her. This means not confronting her at work about her body and identity and about where she is allowed to be, misgendering her, texting colleagues laughing at her, etc.

Nope. How about he respects women’s dignity and experience and stays out of women’s spaces. How about that? Or is it only women who are expected to show respect and kindness. No men should be in female spaces whatever their identity.

Tandora · 25/07/2025 16:00

crazysnakess · 25/07/2025 15:55

So all you've got, after hundreds of posts, is a personal opinion?

What a disappointment.

Opinions of course. Supported by science, reason and basic principles of human decency .

eatfigs · 25/07/2025 16:00

Tandora · 25/07/2025 14:43

You don't have to believe in the reality of a trans woman's experience. But you have to respect her dignity as a trans person and accommodate her. This means not confronting her at work about her body and identity and about where she is allowed to be, misgendering her, texting colleagues laughing at her, etc.

If he is using female-only facilities then you have every right to tell him to leave, just as with every other male.

AstonScrapingsNameChange · 25/07/2025 16:00

Tandora · 25/07/2025 15:58

I suggest you follow the thread for the context. It’s not about doing as I say, it’s about treating trans people in a manner that is compatible with their basic human dignity- something that should be available to all people, even minorities, in a civilised , democratic society.

I have followed the thread. Youre just repeating yourself.

I have to assume that you don't know what the words you are typing actually mean, or what indeed you are actually arguing for.

Annoyedone · 25/07/2025 16:00

Tandora · 25/07/2025 15:58

I suggest you follow the thread for the context. It’s not about doing as I say, it’s about treating trans people in a manner that is compatible with their basic human dignity- something that should be available to all people, even minorities, in a civilised , democratic society.

So you also agree women should be shown kindness and their dignity respected then? Awesome. So you’ll join women in expecting males to stay out of female spaces.

Robin67 · 25/07/2025 16:00

Tandora · 25/07/2025 15:46

Well of course I have no control over how you choose to behave. all I can say to you is that your interpretation of the law and how it entitles you to behave are , imv, not compatible with the principles of a civilised , democratic society .

In my vision of a civilised society:
Women are not fired from universities and other roles for questioning things, and not blanket believing what they are told they must believe.

Men don't compete in women's sports

Men don't go to women's refuges as clients or staff and then shout at women who are afraid of them and call them bigots and tell them that they need to "reframe their trauma".

Men don't take scholarships for women

Companies don't employ men and claim that they have sufficient women in certain roles because the men say that they are women

People don't use phrases like "Punch a TERF". If you take away TERF and replace it with any religious or ethnic group, you would quite rightly be picked-up on it.

I can respect a Muslim/ Christian without declaring that Allah/ Jehovah is the one true God. But for trans ideology I must go along with what they say even if I don't believe it. My lawful decision not to is democratic society in action

crazysnakess · 25/07/2025 16:01

Tandora · 25/07/2025 16:00

Opinions of course. Supported by science, reason and basic principles of human decency .

But you didn't provide any supporting science, you ignored those questions.

NecessaryScene · 25/07/2025 16:01

So you don't have to believe someone's claim to power to obey them.

Gee, thanks.

It is of course true, but why should we enshrine it in law that women need to obey men who claim this power?

You don't have to believe someone's claim to power to obey them, but obey them you must.

cloudyblueglass · 25/07/2025 16:03

MrGHardy · 24/07/2025 20:43

"The existence of a trans woman does not redefine or diminish your womanhood in any way, your womanhood is personal to you, no one can change it, steal it, whatever else you claim trans people are doing to it."

"Exactly. This is so obvious.

The self centred-ness of humans knows no bounds sometimes. why do they think the simple existence of another person has anything to do with them?"

Are you guys on Reddit? This is exactly the kind of pretentious circle jerk that arises in specific subs there.

What is obvious is that if womanhood is personal to oneself, then having female social class and female public spaces where males (which includes transwomen) cannot enter, does not take away that womanhood of transwomen. And yet this is what you claim happens. Literally the e in terf is for this very reason.

The last part is also typical irony that one finds there.

No one is talking about ‘womanhood’ being ‘stolen’.

But carry on….

Tandora · 25/07/2025 16:04

Annoyedone · 25/07/2025 15:59

Nope. How about he respects women’s dignity and experience and stays out of women’s spaces. How about that? Or is it only women who are expected to show respect and kindness. No men should be in female spaces whatever their identity.

Trans people are not disrespecting women for being who they are and asking to be included and accommodated in society .

Tandora · 25/07/2025 16:04

crazysnakess · 25/07/2025 16:01

But you didn't provide any supporting science, you ignored those questions.

I respectfully disagree

Tandora · 25/07/2025 16:06

NecessaryScene · 25/07/2025 16:01

So you don't have to believe someone's claim to power to obey them.

Gee, thanks.

It is of course true, but why should we enshrine it in law that women need to obey men who claim this power?

You don't have to believe someone's claim to power to obey them, but obey them you must.

There’s no law that says you have to obey trans people don’t be silly. But you shouldn’t feel free to bully and harass them and then be immune to being fired from your job.

Annoyedone · 25/07/2025 16:06

Tandora · 25/07/2025 16:04

Trans people are not disrespecting women for being who they are and asking to be included and accommodated in society .

they are accommodated and included. . In male spaces. No one is stopping a male with a trans identity from using males spaces. If they feel uncomfortable or unwelcome, that’s not women’s problem. Go tell men to budge up and be kind.

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 25/07/2025 16:08

Tandora · 25/07/2025 16:04

Trans people are not disrespecting women for being who they are and asking to be included and accommodated in society .

What about if a man identified as being 10 years old? Would you present the same argument that he should be included and accommodated in spaces and places for 10 year olds. If not why not?

I mean at least said man has experience of being 10 years old at one point, a man on the other hand never has and never will have experience of being a woman.

Robin67 · 25/07/2025 16:08

Annoyedone · 25/07/2025 16:06

they are accommodated and included. . In male spaces. No one is stopping a male with a trans identity from using males spaces. If they feel uncomfortable or unwelcome, that’s not women’s problem. Go tell men to budge up and be kind.

I agree, if sharing certain spaces with those having a penis is not a danger to women, then trans women are perfectly safe in male spaces with or without genital mutilation (sorry, bottom surgery).

Annoyedone · 25/07/2025 16:12

Robin67 · 25/07/2025 16:08

I agree, if sharing certain spaces with those having a penis is not a danger to women, then trans women are perfectly safe in male spaces with or without genital mutilation (sorry, bottom surgery).

Exactly.

cloudyblueglass · 25/07/2025 16:13

Tandora · 25/07/2025 16:06

There’s no law that says you have to obey trans people don’t be silly. But you shouldn’t feel free to bully and harass them and then be immune to being fired from your job.

What would constitute bullying and harassment?

Tandora · 25/07/2025 16:17

Annoyedone · 25/07/2025 16:06

they are accommodated and included. . In male spaces. No one is stopping a male with a trans identity from using males spaces. If they feel uncomfortable or unwelcome, that’s not women’s problem. Go tell men to budge up and be kind.

See above posts for why that completely incompatible with accommodating and including trans people. It’s completely denying/ refusing what it is to be trans and incompatible with a respecting trans persons basic dignity and humanity.

cloudyblueglass · 25/07/2025 16:19

Tandora · 25/07/2025 16:04

I respectfully disagree

Where did you provide evidence based, peer reviewed papers to support your claim that trans women are, in fact, women? I’m afraid I missed it. I think everyone else did too.

Did anyone see any links?

Tandora · 25/07/2025 16:20

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 25/07/2025 16:08

What about if a man identified as being 10 years old? Would you present the same argument that he should be included and accommodated in spaces and places for 10 year olds. If not why not?

I mean at least said man has experience of being 10 years old at one point, a man on the other hand never has and never will have experience of being a woman.

No. Because being trans is a real thing- as real as being autistic or gay.

Identifying as a 10 year old is not.

Being intellectually disabled is and of course as a society we must accommodate intellectually disabled people- although we do not do this well either.

Annoyedone · 25/07/2025 16:21

Tandora · 25/07/2025 16:17

See above posts for why that completely incompatible with accommodating and including trans people. It’s completely denying/ refusing what it is to be trans and incompatible with a respecting trans persons basic dignity and humanity.

But allowing males into female spaces is totally incompatible with women’s basic dignity and humanity. Why would using male facilities be against basic humanity and dignity for a male? Are you saying males are dangerous?

Tandora · 25/07/2025 16:21

cloudyblueglass · 25/07/2025 16:19

Where did you provide evidence based, peer reviewed papers to support your claim that trans women are, in fact, women? I’m afraid I missed it. I think everyone else did too.

Did anyone see any links?

There are 10,000s of peer review academic papers documenting, evidencing, theorising about transness. Have a quick perusal of any library search engine, you’ll find them very easily.

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