Edit as I meant to quote this post by @Greyskybluesky
Sorry if this has already been discussed somewhere but what does "engage" actually mean in this context?
How do you "engage" in a changing room? Does it just mean chit chat and pleasantries? Why the big emphasis on "engaging"? Or lack of it?
I used to work with a woman I disliked, the feeling was mutual. We both had to get changed in the toilets, we both totally ignored each other. We did not "engage" in any way. It's just how it was.
I assume that yes, engaging means interacting in some way. Chit chat, sharing tampons (just kidding). I've never been a chit-chatty type, and certainly not with people I don't know or like.
If I bumped into someone in a toilet or changing room, I probably wouldn't say a word apart from 'excuse me' if I needed to get past.
Is there an expectation to engage with people now outside of the course of your work? And not doing so considered some sort of bullying?
Upton did mention something about not smiling at him. I don't homeland smiling at people usually. Saying that I have heard of instances where people have accused others of bullying because they didnt smile or chat-chat with them.
It probably makes me sound quite miserable and antisocial but I just wanted to get on with my job. I was polite and considered that was enough.
Since when do we have to chit chat about Love Island or holidays or whatever. And I certainly wasn't about to engage with random colleagues in toilets/changing areas. Even less male ones.