"The bad guys are people who insist on denying trans people the dignity of referring to them how they wish to be addressed and think they shouldn't be allowed to transition or live how they want to live because it offends them in some way."
"the dignity of referring to them how they wish to be addressed"
No one has yet answered why one person's philosophical belief in their personal identity which demand language changes should be prioritised over someone else's belief? Would you like to explain why?
"think they shouldn't be allowed to transition"
And it is not quite as simplistic as this. Should children be allowed to transition? Considering that there is no solid evidence base that their mental health is improved and the life time negative impacts of the treatments are permanent and too often debilitating?
And should any public money be spent on extreme body modifications that are not treating a medical condition?
"live how they want to live because it offends them in some way."
If a person is going to demand that sex based protections are deprioritised and gender prioritised, this has great potential to cause harm to female people on an individual level and collectively. Do you think that a group of people should be allowed to act in a way that causes harm to others, or should an equitable solution be found?