You are summarizing responses to different posts and of course when presented like that it appears confusing.
to be clear:
indigenous peoples have had a two spirit category referring to people who feel like they are both male and female, thus two spirit. These people can have either make or female biological sex but feel that they are not any of the genders.
here is the full definition from the Indian health service:
Traditionally, Native American Two-Spirit people were male, female, and sometimes intersexed individuals who combined activities of both men and women with traits unique to their status as Two-Spirit people. In most tribes, they were considered neither men nor women; they occupied a distinct, alternative gender status.
yes I have argued that calling out the stereotypical performance of gender of transpeople is in fact just some kind of weird trick to hide transphobia . Other people have referred “men dressing as women” and I assume by this they mean men dressing as stereotypical women (or in heels and dresses, not in jeans and converse). I absolutely stand by that opinion.
on who transpeople are I think it depends on the individual. If someone has had hormone therapy and a lot of surgery, can you still be called a man? I get the problem with self identification. It’s tricky, what is your take in this? Do you think no one is ever allowed to change gender, it should simply be illegal? How can you take such ownership over other peoples bodies?
and yes I’ve questioned how you’d plan to enforce a rule against transgender women using women’s toilets. You didn’t answer? My point is that the only reason to prevent it would surely be to prevent someone dangerous to be in women’s toilets, is that correct? Because if you just won’t let transgender women use women’s toilets just because they don’t have female genitalia, despite them being totally harmless (which the vast majority is) then that would surely be transphobia?
by mixed sex toilets I mean we don’t mean to turn ALL toilets into mixed sex toilets. We can still have men and women’s toilets AND third spaces.
feel free to ask me if anything else is unclear?
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