Three-day ban on Reddit for “hate”

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The only thing I can think of is posting on a UK sub about male violence. A man said that it’s not just men who have a problem with being violent because he’d been assaulted by a trans woman. I replied, “how did you know your assailant was trans?”.

They literally have subs for men to masturbate to videos of women who have a look of being “dead behind the eyes” they’ve been abused so much.

(It’s either that or somebody doesn’t like my crochet advice).

Ahh I see. You were being transphobic. I understand now.

Of course I was being disingenuous, but I don't see why it's transphobic to disagree that violence committed by a trans-identified male should count towards female violence statistics. It's dangerous to create a lie that women are as violent as men. They are not.

I don't see why these questions mean the OP was being transphobic? Surely the reddit male poster is the transphobic one here?

everything on redddit that isn't fawning TWAW is "transphobic". That is the rule.

Of course I was being disingenuous

there it is. Moderators saw through it I guess.

I quit and deleted the app a few weeks ago OP. I feel decidedly upbeat and free. I think the site was depressing me overall. 😅

I was reading a thread on MtF surgeries about an SRS gone wrong. He had too much leftover erectile tissue remaining after surgery so you can imagine the outcome during sex. The poster added photos and managed to blame his "cis" girlfriend for being too dumb to know the difference between a urethral opening and a vaginal opening with all the swelling, and a lot of the posts were berating her, as well as the surgeon who'd performed the op.

The posts against the girlfriend were pure misogyny, and against the surgeon particularly, were verging on libel, more feelings about her than facts but calls to damage her business. I reported three posts for abuse.

I received three consecutive two day bans and a threat that the next would be to throw me off the site permanently. Apparently I was using the report button to harass these people (three separate people - one report each).

I appealed each warning but got the response with a link that I'd broken rule 8. I checked the rule and there was nothing there to say you couldn't report separate posts on a single thread. There wasn't even an opportunity where they even asked why I'd reported the posts, or explained why exactly my appeal was turned down. It was all bull basically.

There are lesbian subs on reddit- the one I mentioned with 96K users and another r/acutallesbians with over half a million users amongst others, where trans women are welcomed and the "gender critical" topic is never mentioned.

I think someone on this thread said Mumsnet got some new users after reddit's r/gendercritical sub was banned for hate. So if Mumsnet "takes in" people with gender critical views who have been banned from other platforms (or had their sub banned) as well as people who have lost friends or family offline, this means Mumsnet becomes more radicalised as time goes on. Which is fine everyone has their views but my point is these views should not be seen as representative of the general population.

As for reddit it might seen a "culture shock" for someone who has been used to posting whatever they want on twitter as an example. Reddit has rules (both site-wide and on the subs) and they actually enforce them. Things like posting intentional bad-faith hate might get a warning notification, maybe a short temp ban, but violent threats and doxxing etc would get a perma ban.

haha, you are so funny. Reddit allows TRAs and MRAs to post absolutely vile, depraved shit about women. But if someone says "women don't have a penis" BAM! gone

Please stop gatekeeping "actual lesbianism".

There are lesbian subs on reddit- the one I mentioned with 96K users and another r/acutallesbians with over half a million users amongst others, where trans women are welcomed and the "gender critical" topic is never mentioned.

Several of those "lesbian" subs were set up as lesbian subs and then brigaded and taken over by men.

Also good to see you handwaving away men's violent fantasies about lesbians, while berating women for posting radical feminist stuff @Christinapple - stay classy!

Crochet can be a controversial subject: apparently these days you can't go round questioning someone else's yarn.

That's when I binned Reddit

Yep. All of this.
The majority of lesbians do not have a problem with trans women and do not have gender critical views.
Its only a minority that do.

It hateful to point out that the emperor is wearing no clothes?

The majority of lesbians do not have a problem with trans women and do not have gender critical views.

That's not actually borne out by data. Most lesbian women aren't interested in "trans women" as sexual partners. Which is hardly surprising, really.

And well done you also handwaving away a lesbian's account of how disgusting and misogynistic she finds Reddit.

"Meanwhile, those very same men who insist on being included in their spaces can write long and detailed fantasies about raping lesbians. About corrective rape. About committing hate crimes against lesbians. Including in forums that are meant to be for lesbians. Long lengthy posts about some man’s long lengthy penis is apparently ‘lesbian’ these days and perfectly fine to post in lesbian spaces, and if you object, you’re a bigot, a hater, and a TERF."

She details some of these grim posts (and includes screenshots) in this Substack, if anyone wants receipts. Not reproducing them here.

open.substack.com/pub/suedonym/p/the-unspeakable-evil-of-rdykeconversion?r=7vhv8&utm_medium=ios

Reddit is completely captured and any dissent is silenced. You can't say a negative or factual thing about trans people, unless you are a detransitioner. Fortunately they are still allowed a voice although TRAs have repeatedly requested their sub get removed.

If you have an issue with r/actuallesbians and their policy of being welcoming of trans people, by all means do take it up with their 552,000+ members.

‘“The emperor has no clothes" is an idiom that describes a situation where people are afraid to criticize something that is false or has no value.”’

They all need to stop gatekeeping "actual lesbianism" then.

The idea that "actual lesbianism" must include male people and if it doesn't it's not "actual lesbianism" is horrific and homophobic .

most lesbians have no problem with trans women being included in lesbian spaces. Most lesbian women do not support gender critical views.

Facts.

You don’t have to want to shag a person to be welcoming of them in your community . If you don’t understand this I have concerns for you.

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The only reason why it looks like "the majority of lesbians have no problem with TW" is because on Reddit statistically there are more AGP people who call themselves lesbians than there are lesbians... Because all the female lesbians got banned for not being an AGP male.

Hi Lostcat, I have you asked this before, but can you explain how a man claiming to be lesbian is not homophobic?

I’m sure someone who has such strong convictions who has had plenty of time to think about it can come up with a coherent answer now. TIA.