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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Do women in the U.K. know or care about the threat to women’s and girls rights now they’ve voted labour?

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Heylo · 05/07/2024 07:14

i know the tories record on public services are abysmal and bar some genuine believers like Kemi Badenoch the tories would likely go the trans route if they thought it would buy them votes. But, currently it’s the tories who offered to protect women and girls from the trans madness. My question is - which women voted in trans loving, women - hating Labour?

we can look forward to -

  1. continued gender ideology being pumped out in schools
  2. conversion ban - you better hope your child doesn’t start questioning their gender out loud because TRA ridden schools will be referring them to gender clinics and socially transitioning them now they have a mandate
  3. same sex attracted lesbians (myself included) it’s completely game over. Keep your head down and your mouth shut. Trans identified males and their female allies have already closed down every women only night. Same sex attracted women are now labelled bigots. We are no longer welcome in London’s LGBT soup community
  4. prisons - what happens to vulnerable women? They are already disbelieved and dismissed. Now they have to endure the staring and various forms of sexual harrassment that goes with being incarcerated with men

i can only hope our political landscape mirrors America and in the same way Trump will be voted back in this year, we will have The Tories being led by Kemi back in in 4 years time.

omg I can’t believe we have to kiss goodbye to women’s rights - for the next four years

back to my original question. Apart from TRA idealouges, why have women voted these clowns in? Is it that they prioritise the Tories terrible record on public services over this? Do some women not see it as a huge issue? would love to hear from some posters who voted Labour.

Thanks & stay safe out there, as women we have woken up to a a dark chapter in history today

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protectoroftherealm · 05/07/2024 15:15

Starrynights9 · 05/07/2024 15:11

Transgender people exist & they will always exist. I can't imagine how awful it must be waking up every day wishing you had the correct genitalia. Imagine being a female who identified as 100% female but didn't grow breasts or have periods. This is nowhere near as traumatic although still as frustrating. A thought I have asked myself recently is would women who don't agree with sharing their personal spaces with transgender males feel differently if there was a law that stated only men who have had gender reassignment operations qualify to share female public toilets etc 🤔

No, I wouldn't feel differently because they are still men. There is nothing that a man can do to become a woman, nothing at all. Synthetic hormones and the removal of their genitalia will not and never will make them a woman. They're not born with the 'wrong' genitalia, they're born with the correct genitalia for their chromosomes.

quantumbutterfly · 05/07/2024 15:16

Starrynights9 · 05/07/2024 15:11

Transgender people exist & they will always exist. I can't imagine how awful it must be waking up every day wishing you had the correct genitalia. Imagine being a female who identified as 100% female but didn't grow breasts or have periods. This is nowhere near as traumatic although still as frustrating. A thought I have asked myself recently is would women who don't agree with sharing their personal spaces with transgender males feel differently if there was a law that stated only men who have had gender reassignment operations qualify to share female public toilets etc 🤔

I wake up every morning wishing I was taller and younger but. ..biological reality. Dammit

Whatever1964 · 05/07/2024 15:17

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 05/07/2024 15:13

So basically you can’t explain how one (a man) identifies as a woman.

Anyone else want to have a bash?

Edited

A more.practical discussion would be for one of you to actually address how you want to confirm who is and isn't a woman since you get it wrong so often?

LunaNorth · 05/07/2024 15:17

Starrynights9 · 05/07/2024 15:11

Transgender people exist & they will always exist. I can't imagine how awful it must be waking up every day wishing you had the correct genitalia. Imagine being a female who identified as 100% female but didn't grow breasts or have periods. This is nowhere near as traumatic although still as frustrating. A thought I have asked myself recently is would women who don't agree with sharing their personal spaces with transgender males feel differently if there was a law that stated only men who have had gender reassignment operations qualify to share female public toilets etc 🤔

I wake up every day that I had the correct amount of melanin in my skin to give me sun protection, that my size 14 arse was a ten, that my brain didn’t need medication to regulate dopamine and that I was 25.

I don’t insist that the world agrees that I’m tanned twenty-something and gives me a place on the next series of Love Island, though. Thank god, because I’d look a twat.

Missmarple87 · 05/07/2024 15:19

Whyisthatonthefloor · 05/07/2024 15:06

Are you suggesting we wait until we have a fresh mountain of evidence against allowing women and girls to have single spaces

Clearly not, since I haven’t said that.

What I said was we HAVE evidence of harm, because people have EXPERIENCED harm and that has been acknowledged.
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  1. the acknowledgement that 99% of sexual crimes perpetrated against women and girls are perpetrated by men

We know this because of the evidence of individual’s experiences.

  1. the acknowledgement of the role of testosterone in patterns of offending behaviour

We know this because of the evidence of individual’s experiences

  1. acknowledgement that men are almost always stronger than any women or girl and can therefore over power them

The strength issue is observable without individual experience being relevant, but we know men use that strength to overpower women because of the evidence of individual’s experiences.

  1. dignity - the acceptance that most people would prefer not to be in state of undress amongst strangers of the opposite sex

We know this because of the evidence of individual’s experiences

I told you we could list the rationale for this widely accepted belief without giving examples based on personal experience. Do I actually need to do that?

They might not be based on your personal experience, but they are all based on people’s experiences.

If all the people who have spoken out about these incidents had been told their personal experiences weren’t relevant we wouldn’t have this over all picture.

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Ok so personal experiences so common over the course of centuries they pass into undisputed fact. We don't need to keep testing if Dave can overpower Jane - we know this.

I repeat - evidence can support a principle but the principle can stand alone.

Attempts to undermine this principle are pseudo-scientific gaslighting - they should be ignored. We can provide examples of men behaving badly in women's spaces - but we shouldn't need to desperately justify ourselves constantly - in doing so we tacitly accept that transwomen are different, somehow. They're not. They are men and we know men don't belong in womens spaces.

The start of this ludicrous chain of posts was you suggesting that I wasn't an intersectional feminist because I was too focused on principle. I still maintain that the principle is where we should focus our efforts - all the opposition have is anecdata about their hurt feelings and need for validation and we should rise above.

Whatever1964 · 05/07/2024 15:21

Helleofabore · 05/07/2024 15:14

The only thing that makes a person a woman is that they have a body that has been formed around the production of large gametes, whether that body ever produces a large gametes or not.

There is no other way for a human to be a 'woman'. Women come in all different experiences. There is no 'one way' to categorise a woman's experience outside of that shared experience of having that body formed for large gamete production.

Anything else is philosophical belief.

That's funny, how did you assess someone's gametes from a photo ?

Grammarnut · 05/07/2024 15:21

Panjandrum123 · 05/07/2024 08:36

@Heylo I would absolutely have voted LibDem if I thought they stood a chance of forming a government. The Green Party in my area would be a wasted vote.

I couldn’t bring myself to vote Conservative, I haven’t forgiven them for instigating Brexit. Boris Johnson’s appalling time as PM soured me on them even further, Liz Truss, Rishi Sunak were differently awful. Obviously many other issues around them too.

I did vote Labour, knowing that Keir Starmer hasn’t stood up to the trans lobby, I believe if the Tories got another five years they would see it as a mandate to squash the population even further.

My eldest son is gay but will not hear me when I try to talk to him about trans activists and the issues for women and lesbians. I keep plugging away. I hate this sense that, because they’ve been on this big traumatic journey, trans women are a more real version of a woman than a biological woman and we should move over and let them run the show.

There is potential harm to confused children who need support while they work out who and what they are, they should not be rushed into a massively life changing situation. I have a friend with a child who is F to M and is hugely happier for living in their chosen gender, I don’t doubt gender dysphoria exists and has been with us for a long time.

Why is your friend's daughter happier living as if she were a boy? Perhaps because of the pornified world we live in which sees everything as a commodity including - especially including - women's bodies. Your friend's DD may be a Lesbian, and Lesbians in particular are being hounded by the trans lobby. Poor, poor girl.

Helleofabore · 05/07/2024 15:21

Starrynights9 · 05/07/2024 15:11

Transgender people exist & they will always exist. I can't imagine how awful it must be waking up every day wishing you had the correct genitalia. Imagine being a female who identified as 100% female but didn't grow breasts or have periods. This is nowhere near as traumatic although still as frustrating. A thought I have asked myself recently is would women who don't agree with sharing their personal spaces with transgender males feel differently if there was a law that stated only men who have had gender reassignment operations qualify to share female public toilets etc 🤔

A person waking up everyday wishing they had different genitalia should not be able to demand access to female single sex spaces if they are not a female person.

A male person with a body modification does not become a female person. They are forever a male person with a body modification.

"A thought I have asked myself recently is would women who don't agree with sharing their personal spaces with transgender males feel differently if there was a law that stated only men who have had gender reassignment operations qualify to share female public toilets etc 🤔"

What is the difference between a male person who elects to have their penis and testicles removed and a male person who has to have their penis and testicles removed due to disease or injury? Why should one group of male people get access when the other group would not?

Do you have evidence that a male without a penis commits sex offences at the same rate or lower than the general female population in the UK?

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 05/07/2024 15:22

Whatever1964 · 05/07/2024 15:17

A more.practical discussion would be for one of you to actually address how you want to confirm who is and isn't a woman since you get it wrong so often?

Another non-answer. How does someone identify as a woman?

Grammarnut · 05/07/2024 15:22

Whatever1964 · 05/07/2024 15:21

That's funny, how did you assess someone's gametes from a photo ?

We can all recognise a woman from the bodily manifestations of being a large gamete producer. That's how. I know a hawk from a handshaw, and a man from a woman - even if he's wearing a pinafore dress and an Alice band.

Whatever1964 · 05/07/2024 15:24

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 05/07/2024 15:22

Another non-answer. How does someone identify as a woman?

That's a philosophical discussion, even amongst biological women. It doesn't actually get us anywhere. I'm asking you a practical question.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 05/07/2024 15:24

Another non-answer. How does someone identify as a woman?

And what are they actually identifying as? Where has this nebulous "woman" concept come from that so many large gamete people seem to identify with?

Whatever1964 · 05/07/2024 15:24

Grammarnut · 05/07/2024 15:22

We can all recognise a woman from the bodily manifestations of being a large gamete producer. That's how. I know a hawk from a handshaw, and a man from a woman - even if he's wearing a pinafore dress and an Alice band.

Except @Helleofabore and others couldn't though 🤔

cavalier · 05/07/2024 15:25

SearchBedSocksNearMe · 05/07/2024 07:24

As a woman, a mother to daughters and a grandmother to girls I wholeheartedly agree with you, and isn't it alarming how many women on the left are almost joyous about removing women's sex based rights?

It’s totally disturbing isn’t it ?

Helleofabore · 05/07/2024 15:25

Whatever1964 · 05/07/2024 15:21

That's funny, how did you assess someone's gametes from a photo ?

So, no? You cannot engage in discussion?

I did also say in my post to you that no one has said that people can be 100% accurate in their identification and some female athletes would be wrongly accused. Have I said in this post you are referring to anything that contradicts that?

Or ... did you miss that in your haste in this ill aimed 'gotcha'?

inamarina · 05/07/2024 15:25

Humtum · 05/07/2024 12:32

There are also a good number of male midwives that live happy fulfilling lives who have chosen to contribute to society.

I've had male gynae's in the US and males both for mamogram in the UK and in Germany.

It's a non issue.

Health care is a privilege.

It’s not really about whether the male midwives live happy and fulfilling lives though, but whether their female patients are comfortable with being treated by a male.
Some women are, some aren’t. Whether or not the man is happy being a midwife is not really the point here.
As for health care being a privilege - hmm. Shouldn’t it be a basic right in a civilised society?

quantumbutterfly · 05/07/2024 15:25

Whatever1964 · 05/07/2024 15:17

A more.practical discussion would be for one of you to actually address how you want to confirm who is and isn't a woman since you get it wrong so often?

On the internet...without the usual visual cues. Hmmm

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 05/07/2024 15:26

Whatever1964 · 05/07/2024 15:24

That's a philosophical discussion, even amongst biological women. It doesn't actually get us anywhere. I'm asking you a practical question.

It’s a simple question. No one seems to be able to answer it though.

Maybe because you, and everyone else despite wanting to be kind and inclusive, knows it’s impossible. That’s why you can’t answer it.

Igmum · 05/07/2024 15:27

Don't look at me. I'm now a single issue voter on this very issue. I value women's rights. I want to see children with mental health difficulties supported rather than mutilated. I don't want vulnerable women in prison raped. I don't think there's anything wrong with single sex attraction and think people should be perfectly free to sleep with whatever consenting adult will have them.

I'm gutted that these views are now controversial and that I will probably have to spend the next 5 years seeing them challenged and derided.

eatfigs · 05/07/2024 15:27

Ereshkigalangcleg · 05/07/2024 15:13

I can't imagine how awful it must be waking up every day wishing you had the correct genitalia.

I think this is a somewhat naive view of the majority of males who identify as women. Many of them are very happy with their genital arrangements.

True and they're often very open about this on their forums. Here's a recent example, heterosexual male likes his penis but wants a "feminine word" for it:

https://old.reddit.com/r/MtF/comments/1dltezo/sexy_sensual_feminine_words_for_penis_when/

DampDust · 05/07/2024 15:27

Heylo · 05/07/2024 07:14

i know the tories record on public services are abysmal and bar some genuine believers like Kemi Badenoch the tories would likely go the trans route if they thought it would buy them votes. But, currently it’s the tories who offered to protect women and girls from the trans madness. My question is - which women voted in trans loving, women - hating Labour?

we can look forward to -

  1. continued gender ideology being pumped out in schools
  2. conversion ban - you better hope your child doesn’t start questioning their gender out loud because TRA ridden schools will be referring them to gender clinics and socially transitioning them now they have a mandate
  3. same sex attracted lesbians (myself included) it’s completely game over. Keep your head down and your mouth shut. Trans identified males and their female allies have already closed down every women only night. Same sex attracted women are now labelled bigots. We are no longer welcome in London’s LGBT soup community
  4. prisons - what happens to vulnerable women? They are already disbelieved and dismissed. Now they have to endure the staring and various forms of sexual harrassment that goes with being incarcerated with men

i can only hope our political landscape mirrors America and in the same way Trump will be voted back in this year, we will have The Tories being led by Kemi back in in 4 years time.

omg I can’t believe we have to kiss goodbye to women’s rights - for the next four years

back to my original question. Apart from TRA idealouges, why have women voted these clowns in? Is it that they prioritise the Tories terrible record on public services over this? Do some women not see it as a huge issue? would love to hear from some posters who voted Labour.

Thanks & stay safe out there, as women we have woken up to a a dark chapter in history today

You, do you

Whatever1964 · 05/07/2024 15:28

Helleofabore · 05/07/2024 15:25

So, no? You cannot engage in discussion?

I did also say in my post to you that no one has said that people can be 100% accurate in their identification and some female athletes would be wrongly accused. Have I said in this post you are referring to anything that contradicts that?

Or ... did you miss that in your haste in this ill aimed 'gotcha'?

It's not a gotcha, it's the ill effects of your paranoia about trans people on real people that you all minimise and deny. The fact that the thread and the public apology thread to that woman who was so upset were both deleted is very telling.

Humtum · 05/07/2024 15:29

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 05/07/2024 15:13

So basically you can’t explain how one (a man) identifies as a woman.

Anyone else want to have a bash?

Edited

Why would that be of interest to me - I'm equally as uninterested to know how you might identify / express. PLUS, I cannot speak for how another person identifies. Even if we share the same reproductive organs.

I was right to assume your reasoning behind that question was not in good faith - hence the surface answer.

You @AccidentallyWesAnderson are not as accidental as you might think - a film maker who some state to be - "just tired of seeing the same characters, given the same dialogue, and [Anderson] shooting everything in the exact same way [...] Why don't you grow as a filmmaker?"

Feel the same way about some of the views on this thread - the pursuit of rigidity, order, a failed (and failing - because it cannot be done) attempt at standardising gender expression.

cavalier · 05/07/2024 15:30

Helleofabore · 05/07/2024 15:21

A person waking up everyday wishing they had different genitalia should not be able to demand access to female single sex spaces if they are not a female person.

A male person with a body modification does not become a female person. They are forever a male person with a body modification.

"A thought I have asked myself recently is would women who don't agree with sharing their personal spaces with transgender males feel differently if there was a law that stated only men who have had gender reassignment operations qualify to share female public toilets etc 🤔"

What is the difference between a male person who elects to have their penis and testicles removed and a male person who has to have their penis and testicles removed due to disease or injury? Why should one group of male people get access when the other group would not?

Do you have evidence that a male without a penis commits sex offences at the same rate or lower than the general female population in the UK?

I agree with you
The trans communities will be put under a spotlight that that mostly don’t want
It’s the predators we are worried about that will use this as a “licence “ to perve at women young girls and children in our designated safe spaces
Emily Pankhurst and her fellow ladies did not fight and die for this. We must protect their memory .. 2 ladies died and many suffered for our vote as biologically born women 🫶

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 05/07/2024 15:30

Humtum · 05/07/2024 15:29

Why would that be of interest to me - I'm equally as uninterested to know how you might identify / express. PLUS, I cannot speak for how another person identifies. Even if we share the same reproductive organs.

I was right to assume your reasoning behind that question was not in good faith - hence the surface answer.

You @AccidentallyWesAnderson are not as accidental as you might think - a film maker who some state to be - "just tired of seeing the same characters, given the same dialogue, and [Anderson] shooting everything in the exact same way [...] Why don't you grow as a filmmaker?"

Feel the same way about some of the views on this thread - the pursuit of rigidity, order, a failed (and failing - because it cannot be done) attempt at standardising gender expression.

You clearly state ‘identifies as a woman’. Don’t state something you can’t define.

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