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Do women in the U.K. know or care about the threat to women’s and girls rights now they’ve voted labour?

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Heylo · 05/07/2024 07:14

i know the tories record on public services are abysmal and bar some genuine believers like Kemi Badenoch the tories would likely go the trans route if they thought it would buy them votes. But, currently it’s the tories who offered to protect women and girls from the trans madness. My question is - which women voted in trans loving, women - hating Labour?

we can look forward to -

  1. continued gender ideology being pumped out in schools
  2. conversion ban - you better hope your child doesn’t start questioning their gender out loud because TRA ridden schools will be referring them to gender clinics and socially transitioning them now they have a mandate
  3. same sex attracted lesbians (myself included) it’s completely game over. Keep your head down and your mouth shut. Trans identified males and their female allies have already closed down every women only night. Same sex attracted women are now labelled bigots. We are no longer welcome in London’s LGBT soup community
  4. prisons - what happens to vulnerable women? They are already disbelieved and dismissed. Now they have to endure the staring and various forms of sexual harrassment that goes with being incarcerated with men

i can only hope our political landscape mirrors America and in the same way Trump will be voted back in this year, we will have The Tories being led by Kemi back in in 4 years time.

omg I can’t believe we have to kiss goodbye to women’s rights - for the next four years

back to my original question. Apart from TRA idealouges, why have women voted these clowns in? Is it that they prioritise the Tories terrible record on public services over this? Do some women not see it as a huge issue? would love to hear from some posters who voted Labour.

Thanks & stay safe out there, as women we have woken up to a a dark chapter in history today

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Shortshriftandlethal · 05/07/2024 13:08

BorgQueen · 05/07/2024 09:42

Dropping off my Grandson at school this morning, the amount of Mums saying they didn’t bother voting was quite astounding, it’s a very working class area.
My DD ( Teacher) was door knocked last night by the local Lab candidate, who is also mine, he was pushing hard to know how she’d voted, she ended up telling him it was none of his business and shut the door. He won his seat by 5k votes over the Tories, who took that seat last time for the 1st time ever.
I don’t know the % figures for turnout, does anyone have them?

I just hope Labour see the result for the SNP as a warning.

60% turnout.

Labour's % share of the vote increased by only 2%, even though they won a lot more seats. 35% of the total vote was for Labour.

Kpo58 · 05/07/2024 13:08

CatusFlatus · 05/07/2024 12:13

Interesting that you mention Top Shop changing rooms.

Are you aware of the video on social media by a young woman traumatised by her experience in a Primark changing room? If not, I suggest you research it.

Primark made their changing rooms 'inclusive' i.e. unisex. Made no other changes, gaps under and above the dividing walls, curtains so obviously no locks.

A group of young men repeatedly opened the curtain on her whilst she was changing. They weren't saying they were women, they didn't have to because spaces in which women and girls were vulnerable in a state of undress were opened to men in the name of inclusivity.

The young woman was crying and warning other women and girls not to go into the changing room alone.

As a result Primark changed their policy back to single sex changing rooms. But, how many women and girls did that happen to who didn't make a social media video? Why were changing rooms made unisex in the first place without any consideration of the impact on women and girls?

This issue isn't 'the trans issue', it's about the safety, dignity and privacy of women and girls (female people) - their right to have spaces without male people. Including male people in female spaces never benefits female people, it benefits certain types of male people.

Isn't the real issue there that there weren't staff keeping an eye on the changing rooms making sure that stuff wasn't happening in the first place? This time it was men, next time it could be girls from a local high school bullying someone they don't like.

Whyisthatonthefloor · 05/07/2024 13:08

Missmarple87 · 05/07/2024 12:38

The definition of a woman is fundamental to any kind of feminism.

My feminism is fully intersectional, thanks. It just doesn't include men.

My feminism is fully intersectional, thanks. It just doesn't include men.

Not when you tell other women that their experiences and priorities are ‘personal anecdotes’ and as so don’t matter it isn’t.

TheAlchemistElixa · 05/07/2024 13:09

Helleofabore · 05/07/2024 12:51

You seem to be calling to allow a sub group of male people to have special treatment above all other male people and to be treated as if they are female people.

Can you tell us how many women and girls will you find acceptable before we restore all male people to be treated equally again? Including that sub group of male people having the right to safety and not to be experience discrimination based on their gender identity but not being prioritised above the needs of female people.

What nuance is there to allow even 1 to be harmed?

And for the record, there has already been more than 1. Many more harmed. Particularly when you consider those who now exclude themselves from services and public life because they do not have single sex spaces available to them.

So I will rephrase that: what is the nuanced conversation that will prevent 1 more female person of any age to be harmed in allowing gender identity to continue to be prioritised over sex?

“what is the nuanced conversation that will prevent 1 more female person of any age to be harmed in allowing gender identity to continue to be prioritised over sex?”

Well not the one you’re/were having, clearly! Yet another shouting down from someone ready unable and unwilling to budge. No room for complexity or nuance there. I’m bowing out now.

Shortshriftandlethal · 05/07/2024 13:10

Whyisthatonthefloor · 05/07/2024 12:31

This is where the lack of intersectional thinking comes in- you pick a ‘principal’ and disregard anyone else’s experience because it doesn’t fit that principle.

Women are more than just their sex- my identity as a severely disabled person for example is as integral to my life as the fact I’m a woman is- to write that off as ‘personal anecdote’ and irrelevant to policy making is reductionist (and divisive).

Just as it was for the feminist movement all those decades ago to try and keep lesbian voices out so that they could concentrate on their chosen principle.

But what makes them women rather than men, in the first instance, is their sex.
A woman is an adult human female.

Disability is not an identity....it is a physical fact.

VotesForWomen · 05/07/2024 13:11

Humtum · 05/07/2024 12:52

Whose opinion matters?

There's nothing more powerful in the world than the act of living safely, openly and authentically.

Safety should not be a privilege at the cost of another, nor should the way in which a person identifies.

The phrase "nothing more powerful than" is interesting in this context isn't it.

Men accessing women's spaces, sports, prisons and shortlists are exercising more power than the women who aren't allowed to object. I daresay the men would say they are just living safely, openly and authentically.

Women want to live safely, openly and authentically too. We want spaces that are for women only as one way of being able to do that. There is a conflict of desires. Women's privacy and dignity, sporting achievements, and safety get compromised when men are allowed into women's spaces.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 05/07/2024 13:12

Would you be happy with a health care provider who presented with an Andrew Tate paperweight on his desk? Would you be happy with a healthcare provider who presented wearing a T shirt with a racist slogan?

Trans women have disordered ideas about women. It's axiomatic. It's impossible for a man to believe he is a woman because of how he thinks without his having very messed up ideas about women, how we live (clue: in all.sorts of different ways), how we think (clue: in all sorts of different ways) and how we differ from men (clue: in the body, not the mind, but also because of our experiences and challenges of having that type of body in this society).

So while I might be comfortable with a male healthcare professional who wears a dress and makeup but fully sees himself as a man, I'd not be comfortable with the same person in the same clothes if he believes he is a woman. Not because of how he sees himself, but because of how he sees women.

This. Sexism and misogyny run through gender identity ideology like a stick of rock.

Tinylittleunicorn · 05/07/2024 13:13

AstonScrapingsNameChange · 05/07/2024 09:49

What about violence , sexual assault and rape perpetrated by trans women? Why are these things only an issue for you when perpetrated by 'cis men'?

Bloody hell.

Surely you aren't saying you support trans women's rights to perpetrate sexual violence?

Or are you saying you don't believe trans women do these things just like men? Because that is evidentially not the case, and it's one of the reasons women need male free spaces - all men, however they identify.

Women are raped by penises not identities.

You are putting words into my mouth.

I absolutely have a problem with violence against women perpetrated by trans identifying men and I don't want them to invade single sex spaces for women. I am a GC feminist.

But I also care about violence perpetrated against women by non transgender identifying men, which is the overwhelming majority of violence perpetrated against women because non transgender identifying men are the overwhelming majority of men. And that violence has flourished under the Tories who have dismantled so many of the institutions and services that exist to protect women against violence and improve society for them.

It seems to me that some Tory supporting GC feminists ONLY care about violence against women when it is perpetrated by transgender identifying men and that does not make sense to me.

Humtum · 05/07/2024 13:13

Weigh it up the sources - the New York Post OR The Parliament Magazine.

NY- POST a gossip site owned by Murdoch

"The Post has been criticized since the beginning of Murdoch's ownership for sensationalism, blatant advocacy, and conservative bias. In 1980, the Columbia Journalism Review stated that the "New York Post is no longer merely a journalistic problem. It is a social problem—a force for evil." - Lifted from Wiki

Know which source I'm likely to take credible info from.

Advocacy - Wikipedia

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Advocacy

mrshoho · 05/07/2024 13:14

Great post @Ereshkigalangcleg

Shortshriftandlethal · 05/07/2024 13:14

Whyisthatonthefloor · 05/07/2024 12:31

This is where the lack of intersectional thinking comes in- you pick a ‘principal’ and disregard anyone else’s experience because it doesn’t fit that principle.

Women are more than just their sex- my identity as a severely disabled person for example is as integral to my life as the fact I’m a woman is- to write that off as ‘personal anecdote’ and irrelevant to policy making is reductionist (and divisive).

Just as it was for the feminist movement all those decades ago to try and keep lesbian voices out so that they could concentrate on their chosen principle.

The early women's movement was predicated on the struggles of lesbian women.....The early pioneers were lesbians.

VotesForWomen · 05/07/2024 13:14

Kpo58 · 05/07/2024 13:08

Isn't the real issue there that there weren't staff keeping an eye on the changing rooms making sure that stuff wasn't happening in the first place? This time it was men, next time it could be girls from a local high school bullying someone they don't like.

No, it isn't. That's a strawman fallacy.

The issue was that men were allowed into a space where women would be undressed. Which is the issue that has been corrected.

SpeckledEggz · 05/07/2024 13:15

@Heylo As a disabled woman with disabled DC to support, there was no way I was going to vote Tory. The spite and vitriol they feed about people like me means they can get away with making policies to harm disabled people.

The things you mentioned in your OP are so much less of a priority to me than being able to feed my DC. You can not understand what it is like to rely on a state benefits system which can be removed without warning, unless you live like this. It is dehumanising and worrisome every single day.

That is why I voted labour.

HTH.

ttcat37 · 05/07/2024 13:16

I voted for Labour as a GC feminist. The world does not revolve around this for me. In my opinion there are other, much more important issues, and Labour’s policies on those align with my priorities. Labour is not the perfect party for me, by far- I consider myself politically homeless- but I do agree with a number of their policies. And for me, anything other than a Labour vote was a vote for the Tories, and it was most important to me to get them out.

inamarina · 05/07/2024 13:16

Whatever1964 · 05/07/2024 10:09

Except it does in the many many examples where women are challenged and accused of being trans and in everyone of those cases it's because they don't look feminine enough. We've seen it on here so many times. Clearly it went right over your head. Perhaps because a remarkably small number of you actually bother to apologise or admit you were wrong after you cyber bullying a random biological woman because you thought she was trans.

“We've seen it on here”? So on an anonymous forum where anyone could claim to be anything?
Have you encountered it in real life though? Biological women accused of being trans because they’re ‘not feminine enough’?

qsforall · 05/07/2024 13:16

zibzibara · 05/07/2024 08:33

If this issue was solely about toilets we'd barely be talking about it. Not that any of these men should be in the women's and girls' toilets but the problem is much more widespread than that.

Given that in our society we have such a variety of female-only single-sex spaces, does it not concern you that there are males who just completely disregard our boundaries and impose themselves anyway, in all these spaces? Completely ignoring the lack of consent. It's a rapist mindset.

I can't really answer the question until you tell me what "such a variety of female-only single-sex spaces" you are talking about (other than those covered in these posts ie toilets, changing rooms and prisons). If you list off the others you are thinking about I could respond in relation to each. If it helps I also disagree with bio males competing in female sports categories if that is what you are thinking about. I fundamentally disagree with how LGBT issues have been taught about in schools though I understand that the national curriculum is changing. What other things not covered by the above are you thinking about? If you are talking about wider things like disabled toilets then I don't think that is relevant here as it applies to vulnerable people of both sexes.

I object to any radical or extreme behaviour whether by trans activists or by radical or extreme feminists - both are intolerant of others and do not take into consideration that their reality is not necessarily everyone else's reality! Neither take the interests of the general population into account. I don't think your intolerance of all trans people is helpful. Throwing around "rapist mindset" is inflammatory, dangerous and pretty appalling, and won't lead to win-win solutions being agreed.

Missmarple87 · 05/07/2024 13:17

Whyisthatonthefloor · 05/07/2024 13:08

My feminism is fully intersectional, thanks. It just doesn't include men.

Not when you tell other women that their experiences and priorities are ‘personal anecdotes’ and as so don’t matter it isn’t.

How ridiculous. I never said they didn't matter, I said they were irrelevant to the principle of the debate. In exactly the same way my own experiences are. Conversely, it matters not a single jot that I have had no direct negative experience with men in women's spaces.

The principle is 'no men in women's spaces'. Not 'no men in women's spaces, except when Sarah lets them because her 'lived experience' is different'. Or 'except for John because we can't invalidate his feelings'. This is a policy issue and the very nature of policies is that they are very rarely nuanced because that doesn't work.

Helleofabore · 05/07/2024 13:18

TheAlchemistElixa · 05/07/2024 13:09

“what is the nuanced conversation that will prevent 1 more female person of any age to be harmed in allowing gender identity to continue to be prioritised over sex?”

Well not the one you’re/were having, clearly! Yet another shouting down from someone ready unable and unwilling to budge. No room for complexity or nuance there. I’m bowing out now.

Who is ‘shouting down’ people? Asking questions and seeking clarity on where people’s opinions lead to is not ‘shouting down’. Nor is pointing out that there may be flaws in the logic being used.

’Shouting down’ is just another example of the hyperbole you used on page 22 when you tried to portray my question to you as my ‘being angry’ and then you politicised people who have differences in sex development to score political points.

If you cannot describe what you are here telling others they should be seeking - nuance, then maybe you need to consider that your arguments are weak and based on flawed logic and no or low evidence. Yet you continue to resort to what is effectively name calling by ascribing anger and now ‘shouting down’.

ThisBlueCrab · 05/07/2024 13:19

Signalbox · 05/07/2024 13:07

I’m really intrigued how you distinguish a genuine TW from one who isn’t genuine?

No simple answer, but they manage it for people who go through sex change operations so I would assume a similar aoet of process should be considered.

But why does the rights of any 1 group trump those if others?

You say the rights of men don't trumpnthise of women, which I agree with but for those women born into a male body who desperately want to be considered a woman why do their rights not matter?

The whole issue is too complicated to unpick on an Internet forum but my point is everyone has the right to be who they truly are without judgement or prejudice...unless they are trans it seems.

Shortshriftandlethal · 05/07/2024 13:20

ThisBlueCrab · 05/07/2024 12:46

Trans women are just like and other group in society, some are dangerous but the majority are not.

If you wrote this stuff about thw Jewish community you would be sanctioned for antisemitism, if you wrote it about Asian people, black people, Irish people, you would be sanctioned for racism

Stop being so melodramatic.

What happened to live and let live?

Transwomen are male by very definition - regardless of their personality, 'niceness' or whatever. Women's spaces and services and sports are for women - as in female people. To preserve and protect their dignity and privacy in certain kinds of situation.

Those with trans identities, especially if male, can live and let live in their own dedicated spaces. If you are actively colonising a space that belongs to someone else, it is not really 'live and let live' is it?

Whyisthatonthefloor · 05/07/2024 13:21

Shortshriftandlethal · 05/07/2024 13:10

But what makes them women rather than men, in the first instance, is their sex.
A woman is an adult human female.

Disability is not an identity....it is a physical fact.

Edited

Disability is not an identity....it is a physical fact.

https://dictionary.cambridge.org/dictionary/english/identity

Your identity is who you are. It isn’t a belief.

I didn’t say ‘I identify as severely disabled’ I said “my identity as severely disabled…”

I am a woman. That is a part of my identity. I am disabled. That is another part. They are both equal physical facts.

But what makes them women rather than men, in the first instance, is their sex.

Who are these ‘them’?

A woman is an adult human female.

I am aware of that fact thanks.

identity

1. a person's name and other facts about who they are: 2. the fact of being…

https://dictionary.cambridge.org/dictionary/english/identity

Tinylittleunicorn · 05/07/2024 13:21

Grammarnut · 05/07/2024 10:21

Your comparison does not work. Men over 50 as a category exist, that is they are a) men, b) men over fifty. I could break this down further and say 'men over 50 who wear dresses' but that would not make men over 50 who do not wear dresses 'cis' men because 'cis' is not a category in the way 'over 50' is a category. Cis posits that there are two types of men: cis men and trans men, but trans men are women (a necessary criterion) not TiMs, so 'cis' men are just 'men'.
If you wish to categorize in this way you must say 'non-TiM', not 'cis men'. You have made a category error, since 'cis men' (as used in gender ideology) means 'being orientated towards having a male gender identity whilst having a male body' whilst 'trans men' means 'being orientated towards having a male gender identity whilst having a female body'. Your categories are: Non-TiMs and TiMs - since both these refer to a male-bodied person.
Sorry to be a nit-picker, but see my user name!

Edited

My apologies when I said "cis" men it would have been clearer to say non transgender identifying men - though that is a mouthful and I did place "cis" in quotations for a reason.

Shortshriftandlethal · 05/07/2024 13:22

ThisBlueCrab · 05/07/2024 13:19

No simple answer, but they manage it for people who go through sex change operations so I would assume a similar aoet of process should be considered.

But why does the rights of any 1 group trump those if others?

You say the rights of men don't trumpnthise of women, which I agree with but for those women born into a male body who desperately want to be considered a woman why do their rights not matter?

The whole issue is too complicated to unpick on an Internet forum but my point is everyone has the right to be who they truly are without judgement or prejudice...unless they are trans it seems.

Because them being "considered a woman" implies consent and active participation from everyone else, doesn't it?

People can feel what they like in the privacy of their own mind, or home; but when it involves other people - they cannot compelled to believe in your version of yourself - especially if it runs counter to observable reality, and at their own cost/expense.

Missmarple87 · 05/07/2024 13:23

ThisBlueCrab · 05/07/2024 13:19

No simple answer, but they manage it for people who go through sex change operations so I would assume a similar aoet of process should be considered.

But why does the rights of any 1 group trump those if others?

You say the rights of men don't trumpnthise of women, which I agree with but for those women born into a male body who desperately want to be considered a woman why do their rights not matter?

The whole issue is too complicated to unpick on an Internet forum but my point is everyone has the right to be who they truly are without judgement or prejudice...unless they are trans it seems.

It's not complicated.

They can ask to be considered a woman and people can respect that. But they are not women and they cannot enter women only spaces. They can campaign for own spaces or use the existing, male spaces.

Sloejelly · 05/07/2024 13:23

Kpo58 · 05/07/2024 13:08

Isn't the real issue there that there weren't staff keeping an eye on the changing rooms making sure that stuff wasn't happening in the first place? This time it was men, next time it could be girls from a local high school bullying someone they don't like.

You expect a young female retail worker to step in when aggressive men start living their authentic lives of abusing women?

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