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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Male friend on FB (a doctor no less), telling me that trans women are real women.

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Blondiebeachbabe · 29/04/2024 21:48

I shared a meme on FB, about not supporting trans women in female sports.

A male friend of mine, who is a GP, commented that trans women are real women 🙄 I replied that trans women are men, and that my gripe was men in women’s sports, and men (rapists like Karen White), being housed in female prisons.

He then said that he knew lots of trans men, who just wanted to live a peaceful life, and I’m thinking well yes, because they are actually biologically female!

He then went on to quote all manner of statistics about violence from men against trans women and how trans women are at more risk of violence than cis women (I hate that term). and how cis women are more likely to be attacked by cis men than trans women.

It’s been annoying me all day. Here is another male telling me what to think, but also, whether the violence comes from normal men against trans women (who are men), or trans women against real women, this is essentially a male violence problem.

Because, we as women, aren’t the perpetrators in any of this. So men, stay in your own lane and sort out all your shit. You don’t get to throw the men you don’t like into our lane (bathrooms and prisons), and make us your collateral damage.

If a fox said that it felt like it was a chicken, you wouldn’t let it sleep in the chicken coup, just in case it was lying.

I may not have articulated this in the best way!

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PuttingDownRoots · 29/04/2024 21:51

Well would he have sex with a transwomam rhenium? And would she be able to gestate his child?

Katkins17 · 29/04/2024 21:53

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Mermoose · 29/04/2024 21:54

Ask him how it's the case that a male person is female. I'm sure there's a prize somewhere for whoever can explain this, and as he's a doctor he can't possibly be talking nonsense about something as important in medicine as biological sex.

Blondiebeachbabe · 29/04/2024 21:54

Exactly! And if all you have to do to be a woman. is put on a dress, maybe I should put on a suit when my period is due, and then it won’t happen. 🙄

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Theeyeballsinthesky · 29/04/2024 21:55

He’s a misogynistic twat basically. He doesn’t really think TWAW otherwise he wouldn’t be listening to them

on a practical level perhaps how he can explain how TW skeletal structure miraculously changes from the one on the left to the one on the right given that he believes TW are women

Male friend on FB (a doctor no less), telling me that trans women are real women.
EmmaEmerald · 29/04/2024 21:55

The stupid is terrifying. I can’t work out if people like this are just having a laugh.

PhuckyNell · 29/04/2024 21:55

I tell you what considering trans people are vanishingly rare a lot of people seem to know a lot of trans people! Which just doesn't fit does it?

I just don't trust people who say 'I know a lot of trans .... '

Blondiebeachbabe · 29/04/2024 21:57

The fact he said he knew Trans men who were peaceful! Erm yes because they’re essentially female!

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User1979289 · 29/04/2024 21:57

I would reply "Thank you for mansplaining what a woman is to me 😂"

TheaBrandt · 29/04/2024 21:58

He must be a really really shit doctor then.

Blondiebeachbabe · 29/04/2024 21:59

I have to be careful as he is my husbands long term friend. I definitely argued my point but had to be polite.

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Waitwhat23 · 29/04/2024 21:59

He's pontificating about stuff that won't affect him. The complete lack of empathy from him for vulnerable women is depressing, particularly given his position.

Male friend on FB (a doctor no less), telling me that trans women are real women.
Blondiebeachbabe · 29/04/2024 21:59

It’s like people have blinkers on.

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IcakethereforeIam · 29/04/2024 22:00

What would he do if a transwoman asked him for a smear test?

SendMeHomeNow · 29/04/2024 22:00

It’s a scary thought that a GP of all people can spout this crap! Good on you for challenging him though.

Blondiebeachbabe · 29/04/2024 22:00

Waitwhat23 · 29/04/2024 21:59

He's pontificating about stuff that won't affect him. The complete lack of empathy from him for vulnerable women is depressing, particularly given his position.

Omg I love this. How weird this depicts the exact scenario I had in my head!!

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Blondiebeachbabe · 29/04/2024 22:01

IcakethereforeIam · 29/04/2024 22:00

What would he do if a transwoman asked him for a smear test?

Omg I wish I’d thought to ask this!!!

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DuesToTheDirt · 29/04/2024 22:01

User1979289 · 29/04/2024 21:57

I would reply "Thank you for mansplaining what a woman is to me 😂"

Perfect response.

1questionfromme · 29/04/2024 22:01

Mention that Dr Who is a real doctor and see if it confuses him.

NotCute · 29/04/2024 22:02

Disengage.

He is choosing to be wrong. Let him.

Blondiebeachbabe · 29/04/2024 22:02

I did ask him if he’d be happy for his daughter to share a prison cell with Karen White, and he didn’t reply to that! 😂

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GrumpyPanda · 29/04/2024 22:03

I would ask him not to misgender me about the "cis." And that you feel deeply personally offended at him implying you identify into stereotypes of femininity.

Blondiebeachbabe · 29/04/2024 22:03

1questionfromme · 29/04/2024 22:01

Mention that Dr Who is a real doctor and see if it confuses him.

Why didn’t I think of this!!!!!!!!!

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Blondiebeachbabe · 29/04/2024 22:04

GrumpyPanda · 29/04/2024 22:03

I would ask him not to misgender me about the "cis." And that you feel deeply personally offended at him implying you identify into stereotypes of femininity.

Yeah totally

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fungipie · 29/04/2024 22:05

why do you feel so strongly about this? Do you know any transwomen?