A relative of mine was seriously physically assaulted in hospital by a cis male staff member. Should we just ban all men from hospital wards?
If not why do the isolated actions of a few trans women mean all should be tarred with the same brush?
I agree that we shouldn't be telling women off for what pronouns they use about their rapist. But why does the gender identity matter? Why is insisting that all rapist are he/him so important to you all?