Good thread to consider:
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How does a group or organisation become infiltrated by a Narcissist/Dark Triad? This often begins by
- ‘ingratiating’ themselves, displaying charm and charisma to win trust.
- They exploit existing group dynamics, identifying and manipulating vulnerabilities. Subtle tactics include sowing discord, creating factions within the group, and undermining others' credibility.
- Over time, they may strategically align with influential members, isolate dissenters, and gradually assert control by exploiting power dynamics.
- Their ability to ‘mask’ manipulation with charm can make it very challenging for the group to recognize the destructive influence until significant damage is done. Vigilance, open communication, and awareness can help mitigate the impact of narcissistic individuals on a group.
Specific tactics narcissists may employ to infiltrate and eventually take over a group:
- Initial Charm:
Example: A narcissist may enter the group with excessive compliments, flattery, and apparent interest in others' opinions to quickly establish rapport.
- Identifying Vulnerabilities:
Example: Through subtle probing or observation, they may identify members' insecurities, fears, or desires, which they later exploit to manipulate individuals.
- Gaslighting:
Example: By subtly distorting facts or questioning others' perceptions, a narcissist can make individuals doubt their own judgment, fostering dependence on the narcissist for guidance.
- Creating Divisions:
Example: They might subtly fuel conflicts within the group, planting seeds of distrust or competition to weaken unity and create opportunities for manipulation.
- Projecting Confidence:
Example: Narcissists often exude unwavering confidence, making others more likely to follow their lead, especially during times of uncertainty or decision-making.
- Strategic Alliances:
Example: They may selectively align with influential members, forming alliances to consolidate power and control key aspects of the group.
- Isolating Dissenters:
Example: Narcissists might subtly undermine or exclude those who question their motives, isolating dissenters to eliminate opposition and strengthen their control. They may mock them, gaslight or ignore their concerns.
- Gradual Power Grab:
Example: Over time, they may position themselves in roles of authority, gradually consolidating decision-making power and influencing the group's direction.
- Manipulating Perception:
Example: Narcissists may use propaganda, misinformation, or selective storytelling to shape how the group perceives events, casting themselves in a favorable light.
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Exploiting Loyalty:
They may demand unquestioning loyalty, creating a culture where members hesitate to challenge the narcissist, fearing repercussions.
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Group split(s)
These tactics collectively erode trust, create dependency, and pave the way for the narcissist to take control of the group, often with detrimental consequences. They are often defined as ‘parasitic narcissists’ whose sole goal is to enter a group or organisation to take it over.
This is commonly seen in religions, politics, non profits, other groups, where many group splits occur and reoccur. A solid strong foundation in groups must include the groups purpose, values, safeguarding statutes, knowledge about parasitic narcissism and a clear prevention plan. A third party to assist in preventing and addressing the lack of awareness and insight that this is occurring is essential to the groups very survival.