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Rishi Sunak - "a man is a man, a woman is a woman"

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Ellos · 04/10/2023 21:44

..and how we shouldn't be bullied into believing somebody can be any sex that they want.

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AIBU to want to give him a round of applause?

I know, it's convenient timing and obviously a strategy move but how good is it to hear that straight from the horses mouth when the country has spent the past god knows how long bowing down to the loud and often disturbed minority.

I still can't stand the Tories and won't be voting for them but cheers for acknowledging the insanity, Rishi.

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lifeturnsonadime · 05/10/2023 00:50

Creepygardengnome · 05/10/2023 00:44

This whole thing about "female-only spaces"... I'm sorry, but if a man is so f'd up that he decides to sexually assault a woman in a public toilet, he will just ignore the sign on the door and do it anyway. It's very easy to slip into a toilet when no-one's watching (there is no proper continuous surveillance in the majority of public places, even if there is CCTV) and wait for a potential victim to come in. This unfortunately happened to a friend of mine in a female toilet – no-one had noticed the (male-presenting) man come in and he hid in a cubicle. Someone who is sick enough to commit rape will be unlikely to think 'Oooh this space is female only. Oh well, better not enter then.'

Likewise, who's to say that, even if a space were truly "(biological) female only" it would be safe? Yes, there is a chance you would be sexually assaulted by an opportunist man pretending to be trans...

(which by the way I think we need to acknowledge is fundamentally different to a true trans woman – I imagine that the majority of "trans" sexual offenders don't actually privately identify as trans and that, statistically, the proportion of true trans women who are also sexual offenders is astronomically low, just because neither group makes up a particularly large proportion of the population and a small percentage multiplied by a small percentage makes an even smaller percentage)

... but you could just as well get sexually assaulted by a biological woman in that "safe space"? There are far more stories out there of female sex offenders than there are of "trans" ones.

Sorry for the bleak post, which now that I've read it back essentially outlines we're doomed regardless!

  1. They are single sex spaces not safe spaces.
  2. Are you saying these trans women who have done this are not truly trans? How do you know? How can we tell which trans people are genuine or not?
  3. If you believe that some men are pretending to be trans to attack women then why don't you want to protect women from the possibility of this happening in the future? Why is this a reason to welcome trans women (some of whom could be rapists pretending to be trans - according to you) into single sex spaces?
Sladurche · 05/10/2023 00:52

Most of the public wanted section 28 even when it was repealed. Ad populum is the logical fallacy that says that if most people agree with it, then it must be true.
Sunak and the rest of the nasty party are dog-whistling for their lives. Appealling to the same populist racism (Braverman) that got Brexit voted for and the populist transphobia they think might win them an election.

If Sunak really wants to jump on the populist GC bandwagon (and I'd love to see him tie himself in knots trying) he should not use vague soundbites like "a man is a man and a woman is a woman" - go on, Rishi, be brave enough to define what the government officially deem "man" and "woman", publicly declare that there are only two genders and tie these two terms explicitly to physiology; explaining in detail what exact biological attributes legally define sex/gender. Don't be shy. Then go and tie that definition to legal rights.

Do you have to have all five sex characteristics to be legally deemed a woman?
If not, what is the threshold/minimum amount that get you the right to be a man or woman and the correct rights, freedoms and legal status?
Is it, as Germaine Greer insists, that "women" are defined by their ability to have periods, and bear children? But that would exclude those people born XX who cannot bear children. So maybe it should be based on Chromasomes?
But since some people with XY Chromasomes are born with female physiology, and some people with XX have male physiology, is it genitals that define you?
I'd really love them to try and legislate for that. I'd also love them to say how the police and judiciary will apply those laws in practice. Will the police have the right to inspect genitals?

lifeturnsonadime · 05/10/2023 00:53

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OvaHere · 05/10/2023 00:55

... but you could just as well get sexually assaulted by a biological woman in that "safe space"? There are far more stories out there of female sex offenders than there are of "trans" ones.

Do you think that the media reporting male sex crimes as female crimes might have something to do with that?

Also if you're going to talk about 'true trans women' then you'll need to explain what that is, how it differs from other men who identify as women and how women are supposed to know the difference.

ketchup07070 · 05/10/2023 00:56

There certainly are some iffy public toilets that I avoid, like in an empty underground car park for instance. But at a college where I worked there were posters in the women's toilets stating that they shouldn't challenge someone if they didn't think they should be in there, because that person knew better than them. That meant some women just didn't feel able to use the toilet, which seems wrong. I certainly want to have the right to a female Dr, female counselling group if I were raped, and probably other single sex provisions and services I can't think of now. It's partly about safety but also about dignity, and I can't understand the issue with that. As far as toilets and changing rooms go, I don't mind gender neutral, as long as they are secure.

Hersecretserviceyourmaj · 05/10/2023 00:58

ketchup07070 · 05/10/2023 00:56

There certainly are some iffy public toilets that I avoid, like in an empty underground car park for instance. But at a college where I worked there were posters in the women's toilets stating that they shouldn't challenge someone if they didn't think they should be in there, because that person knew better than them. That meant some women just didn't feel able to use the toilet, which seems wrong. I certainly want to have the right to a female Dr, female counselling group if I were raped, and probably other single sex provisions and services I can't think of now. It's partly about safety but also about dignity, and I can't understand the issue with that. As far as toilets and changing rooms go, I don't mind gender neutral, as long as they are secure.

Absolutely shocking about the toilets!!

ketchup07070 · 05/10/2023 01:00

@Hersecretserviceyourmaj I know, I think it was students. I was only temping there but I hear the posters came down - eventually.

lifeturnsonadime · 05/10/2023 01:04

ketchup07070 · 05/10/2023 01:00

@Hersecretserviceyourmaj I know, I think it was students. I was only temping there but I hear the posters came down - eventually.

I think those posters are all over the place particularly in universities. Message for the females there is loud and clear , ignore your boundaries, males come first 😢

Ramblingnamechanger · 05/10/2023 01:04

my lived experiences tell me that men are dangerous to women and girls. My lived experience tells me that pretend women ie males can be equally dangerous. They can also make it impossible to have womens or girls organisations ,sports and private spaces, and destroy any that have existed. Unless Sunak repeals the GRA and abolishes the GRC, it is just words, but I still appreciate hearing them said after all these years. But I wouldn’t vote for them,or any other party at this point.

Natalya123 · 05/10/2023 01:07

Lol. Tories are speaking sense while Labour are appointing young men as women's officers. 🤣 How things have changed.

OvaHere · 05/10/2023 01:10

Sladurche · 05/10/2023 00:52

Most of the public wanted section 28 even when it was repealed. Ad populum is the logical fallacy that says that if most people agree with it, then it must be true.
Sunak and the rest of the nasty party are dog-whistling for their lives. Appealling to the same populist racism (Braverman) that got Brexit voted for and the populist transphobia they think might win them an election.

If Sunak really wants to jump on the populist GC bandwagon (and I'd love to see him tie himself in knots trying) he should not use vague soundbites like "a man is a man and a woman is a woman" - go on, Rishi, be brave enough to define what the government officially deem "man" and "woman", publicly declare that there are only two genders and tie these two terms explicitly to physiology; explaining in detail what exact biological attributes legally define sex/gender. Don't be shy. Then go and tie that definition to legal rights.

Do you have to have all five sex characteristics to be legally deemed a woman?
If not, what is the threshold/minimum amount that get you the right to be a man or woman and the correct rights, freedoms and legal status?
Is it, as Germaine Greer insists, that "women" are defined by their ability to have periods, and bear children? But that would exclude those people born XX who cannot bear children. So maybe it should be based on Chromasomes?
But since some people with XY Chromasomes are born with female physiology, and some people with XX have male physiology, is it genitals that define you?
I'd really love them to try and legislate for that. I'd also love them to say how the police and judiciary will apply those laws in practice. Will the police have the right to inspect genitals?

Everyone knows who men and women are, even you. Which is why you resort to all this word salad invoking childless women and the tiny minority of people who are born with Disorders of Sexual Development.

Just because some women have fertility issues or some people have DSDs it doesn't mean that a 50 year old, father of 3 kids who sticks a dress on and changes his pronouns is a woman.

BaronessEllarawrosaurus · 05/10/2023 01:16

Biology is transphobic
Reality is transphobic
Mother nature is transphobic
Truth is transphobic
Data is transphobic

Because I believe transwomen are male im transphobic, at least I'm in good company

ketchup07070 · 05/10/2023 01:20

@lifeturnsonadime Yes, that's exactly how the posters came across.

Thebestwaytoscareatory · 05/10/2023 01:25

OvaHere · 05/10/2023 01:10

Everyone knows who men and women are, even you. Which is why you resort to all this word salad invoking childless women and the tiny minority of people who are born with Disorders of Sexual Development.

Just because some women have fertility issues or some people have DSDs it doesn't mean that a 50 year old, father of 3 kids who sticks a dress on and changes his pronouns is a woman.

Speaking of tiny minorities, the trans population accounts for around 0.14% of the UK's population.

It's a bit strange that so much energy, time, and column inches are dedicated to the trans issue while much larger problems such as violence against women from husbands / partners / family / etc are glossed over. Nothing to see here as long as Dan doesn't wear a dress while battering Debbie

It's almost as if the government and their media backers have an ulterior motive for stiring the pot...

ilovesooty · 05/10/2023 01:38

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Someone can have a different opinion to you and not be a TRA.

BlackForestCake · 05/10/2023 01:40

a desperate man desperately shouting out shit

A cunning man attacking his opponents where they are weakest.

Labour/Lib Dems/Greens look like absolute nutters going about pretending that they believe men are women, and Sunak is going to make sure the whole country knows about it before the election comes.

OvaHere · 05/10/2023 01:41

Thebestwaytoscareatory · 05/10/2023 01:25

Speaking of tiny minorities, the trans population accounts for around 0.14% of the UK's population.

It's a bit strange that so much energy, time, and column inches are dedicated to the trans issue while much larger problems such as violence against women from husbands / partners / family / etc are glossed over. Nothing to see here as long as Dan doesn't wear a dress while battering Debbie

It's almost as if the government and their media backers have an ulterior motive for stiring the pot...

So why do they wield such disproportionate power then? Women aren't losing their jobs or punched in the face when they speak about other issues. No other group seems to have the police at their beck and call to arrest women for wrong think.

Female journalists at The Guardian can write all the op eds they want about domestic violence but they're not allowed to write about this.

I don't disagree that partner violence is a more common and widespread issue but the suppression and punishment of dissenters is what has made this specific issue unique and noteworthy.

ilovesooty · 05/10/2023 01:43

BlackForestCake · 05/10/2023 01:40

a desperate man desperately shouting out shit

A cunning man attacking his opponents where they are weakest.

Labour/Lib Dems/Greens look like absolute nutters going about pretending that they believe men are women, and Sunak is going to make sure the whole country knows about it before the election comes.

Oh I expect that will be his tactic. He doesn't have a lot to campaign with. I suspect that outside Mumsnet it won't be particularly high on the issues on which the electorate make their choices.

Agesifent · 05/10/2023 01:52

Tab am.easily led sheep who Laos up dog whistle announcements. Congratulations!!!!!

mollscat · 05/10/2023 01:53

That it had to be said at all says so much about where we are as a country at this time, of course people cannot change sex, we all know that to be true. Hopefully Labour say the same because as a life long labour voter it is very hard to vote for a party who's leader believes that some women have a penis.

mollscat · 05/10/2023 01:57

OvaHere · 05/10/2023 00:03

Listening to what men who call themselves women have to say is why I became a massive terf.

Too many to list but a special mention to Andrea Long Chu they of the quote ‘barest essentials’ of femaleness as ‘an open mouth, an expectant asshole, blank, blank eyes’.

Also to Grace Lavery and their 'staggering penis'

Absolutely, if you listen to what these men actually say it becomes clear very quickly what is really going on here.

SunL1ghter · 05/10/2023 06:14

‘Twas the signs of desperation and scraping the bottle of the barrel.

We have a mismanaged NHS with sky high waiting lists, child and adult MH provision not fit for purpose, no NHS dentists to be had and a battle for GP appointments, crumbling underfunded schools, a mismanaged pandemic i which the Tories didn’t practise what they preached whilst people died, a planet on fire and Tory tossing out of green policies, cost of living crisis, dire housing situation, social care not fit for purpose, mismanagement of Brexit they lied to the country about which is only just starting to bite, teenagers hooked on vapes they do nothing about, youngsters not safe online they do nothing about, barbaric and completely ineffective handling of immigration, a deeply concerning police force …… I could go on.

But no let’s focus on “a man is a man”. Yeah of course we all will, not. Aside from the fact most of us with a brain question anything they say now he might as well have been playing the violins himself as the Tory Titanic went down. Did he really have no other sound bite. 😂

PatchouliOilandRoses · 05/10/2023 06:26

BaronessEllarawrosaurus · 05/10/2023 01:16

Biology is transphobic
Reality is transphobic
Mother nature is transphobic
Truth is transphobic
Data is transphobic

Because I believe transwomen are male im transphobic, at least I'm in good company

This!
It's shocking that an intact male in a dress can follow my 13 year old daughter into the toilet unchallenged.

RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie · 05/10/2023 06:59

BlackForestCake · 05/10/2023 01:40

a desperate man desperately shouting out shit

A cunning man attacking his opponents where they are weakest.

Labour/Lib Dems/Greens look like absolute nutters going about pretending that they believe men are women, and Sunak is going to make sure the whole country knows about it before the election comes.

I see the shit is working on you.

Labour and Lib recognise that the whole issue can’t be reduced to black and white sound bites. If you’re happy to believe that Rishi genuinely cares, then you do you.

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