@Helleofabore As usual Butterfly, your posts are all about you and you keep forgetting you are on a feminist board . They lack the perspective of being a female and having a true understanding of living as a female.
What? You referenced your own experiences twice. I referenced my own experiences twice in response. It would be very difficult to communicate if we weren't able to use personal examples in relation to situations we have direct experience of. Many of the posts on this very thread feature them.
I thought you didn't believe 'living as a female' was a meaningful concept that any human being does - you've certainly rubbished any mention I've made of it in the past - so how can I fall short of something that doesn't even exist?
@TheBiologyStupid You'll have read what the Cass interim report said about social transitioning, then?
That it isn't a neutral act to support it? I completely agree. It absolutely isn't a neutral act. I don't see how it would be possible for it to be a neutral act in an environment that requires regular daily interaction with other people which involve names and pronouns at an absolute bare minimum. You either afford a measure of respect toward people's wishes and try to make reasonable accommodations for them, or you don't. When a child asks for a specific set of pronouns to be used for them, it's certainly possible to make linguistic contortions to avoid doing so, but it's starkly apparent what is occurring when it happens. That isn't neutral either - the message is very, very clear.
Of course there's a great deal of nuance required here; sense must prevail and individual circumstances are complex. Sometimes requests aren't reasonable, sometimes we make mistakes, sometimes we misunderstand - and that's fine. Most people are able to see that this is a highly complex and sensitive issue that requires measured and empathetic handling, but all sense seems to instantly die the moment a team colour gets slapped on an issue.