Question about trans women cycles

[Borris]

I have a genuine question

I have a new ish work colleague who I get on well with and enjoy her company. She's a lesbian. Except that her girlfriend is a trans women. That's fine. I'm happy to refer to her by her chosen name and pronouns.

But what confused me is my friend saying more than once that their cycles had synched up and so they had one week a month when they were both super emotional.

Can this be a thing? Do trans women take different hormones at different times of the month? Genuine question, not being goady

Obviously only asking out of sheer nosiness. The first time she mentioned their cycles I didn't know that the partner was a trans woman and so now feel it's too late to ask!

I think they're trying to express solidarity

Not at all.
They're appropriating an experience which causes countless women a lot of pain and distress, just for their own entertainment. What makes it worse is that a great many women seem to be colluding with men who do this. It needs to be called out. Women's and girls' right are being eroded in the name of this outrageous bullshit.

(I see my previous comment was deleted FFS)

It certainly is very offensive.

I wonder though what person ever, ever thought it was appropriate to tell these males that they could have periods? Either kindly or making a mockery of them?

Why are Endocrinologists giving hormones in monthly cycles and even hinting it is a ‘monthly cycle’?

Exactly this.

It's depressing that the OP's work colleague is buying into her boyfriend's nonsense, to the extent that she is willing to share the details in the workplace.

OP perhaps needs to point out to her colleague that she is dating a man and could get pregnant, and is not exclusively a lesbian, either.

I agree with Beach. It needs calling it. It is rubbish and should be questioned.

Sorry. Calling out.
To not question such rubbish feels almost complicit.

@Borris Perhaps your colleague’s partner is shedding the lining of their testicles on a monthly basis?

Sounds awful. 💐

It’s entirely possible she is a lesbian and is torturing herself to try to please them…

”Imagine feeling that you’re a woman trapped in a man’s body. Would you deem yourself mentally ill and seek therapy, or would you live as your true self?”

How is it helpful to any person to perpetuate that they are in the wrong body? And then how it is helpful to tell anyone their perception of them living as the opposite sex is actually then being their ‘true self’?

How can people do that to others?

No! They are people who are living their perception of how the other sex lives. They are only being their ‘true self’ of being that person living as their perception of the opposite sex. They are not ‘truly’ living as the opposite sex.

Framing that as kind is really harmful. It is the opposite.

And any male who believes they are having periods is being harmed. And again, who does this? And who does it benefit?

omg this comment killed me! 😂

I'm a slim healthy woman trapped in an unaccountably portly body and my right knee aches. I have no choice but to live in it.

Wonder if the colleague and her dp then have lovely, girly chats at home about the lovely, girls period sharing chats the colleague has at work?.....

I don't have an issue with people identifying however they want so long as their choices don't impact negatively on other people.

btw I thought that it was no longer the done thing to use that 'trapped in the wrong body' metaphor or excuse or whatever it was? Have the rules changed back again?

The rules identify differently today.

arf

Proctalgia fugax.
Very common in males and females.

Various causes, usually no concern.

I imagine OP would then be able to have a lovely chat with HR about how her values don't respect her workplace's inclusive values. And to leave. But don't complain about being forced to listen to stuff that offends your GC beliefs because that's transphobic and not inclusive.

Yes, that is a possibility. Some transwomen claim they're also lesbians (how, when they're men?) so they want to date actual lesbians.

I agree that it does sound as though the OP's colleague is tying herself up in knots, trying to accommodate this man's nonsense.

I know. When is this wankery going to end?

Did any of us think that in 2023 we would be having to clarify to anyone, let alone other women, that men do not:

Have cervixes
Menstruate
Have PMS / PMT
Have cramping
Have monthly mood swings / crying jags
Have any kind of hormonal cycle
Bleed from any orifice on a monthly basis

I sometimes can't believe we've gotten to this point.
This is not a go at you OP, I'm just talking in general.

And yet there are SWATHES of people, including young women, who are falling for this all over YouTube and Tiktok.

How has the wool been pulled so thoroughly over people's eyes?
MEN.
Saying they have periods.

Dear Lord.

I had an argument with someone on YouTube today because she insisted that a man taking oestrogen would have his male voice turned into a female one (as we all know it doesn't work that way - only cross sex testosterone can lower a female voice, cross sex oestrogen has no effect on a male voice already changed by puberty).
She said "why do transwomen all have higher voices then? Evidence shows you are wrong!"

Delusion and handmaidening at it's best.

@Justasec321 I'm sorry you were similarly afflicted. I never knew that Javelin Arse had a name until I joined MN

My period pain went away after I had children, thank God. I have no idea why, but perhaps a man would be able to enlighten me?

I mean they don’t mind enlightening us on everything else. I attended a birthing class led by a transwoman. I made an excuse halfway through to leave. Family emergency! Totally unavoidable. 😩🤷🏻‍♀️ Later got an email that it was canceled. I think that a lot of the ladies there were not pleased.

Fingers crossed unless i have to restart the bloody 12 month clock again it's no longer something I need to worry my pretty little head about!

This seems like a good time to ask this question. On the reality TV series 'The Bridge', there was a trans woman who said they'd been through the menopause.

I'm still wondering what that could possibly mean!