What have people done when asked pronouns? (but are not trans ideologists)

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I've never been asked my pronouns but I wonder what I would say if I was. I WFH so never come up. I think I may say 'none' , 'you pick' , or maybe 'the' or simply 'what do you mean?'

So I'm just wondering how people do respond to this if they are not gender/trans ideologists. I'm looking for examples and what happened when you said it.

This would it be ethical to chop off someone's healthy limb because they believe they should be an amputee ? Why is mutilation of young vulnerable people acceptable? The people enabling this have a lot to answer for. You can mutilate yourself as much as you want but you can never change your DNA. I think more counselling is needed much more.

“When you’re talking to me, I suggest you say ‘you/your’ but when talking to others about me you feel free to say whatever you like I’m a huge fan of free speech.”

I have either stated ‘i was born female’ or left blank if no option to write in the box.

I don’t understand the responses? Surely if you’re female you say she and if you’re male you say he?…. Would any of you refused to answer if asked this question 10yrs ago, or is it just because the world has recently gone mad with the trans craze?

I guess I would just say she. Or ‘isn’t it obvious?’

I find it interesting that this is probably because those men who seek to pass as women - likely the vast majority - have failed to do so. They do not pass as women. And they are being very naturally referred to by others as "he/him", because that's what they are, and appear to be. And those particular men are now having a huge mantrum about it and are now insisting on foisting their obsession on all of the rest of us, regardless of our own view, and trying to force us all to play along.

No. Leave me out of it, mate.

That's my go-to too. Before looking at the questioner in the same manner I would look at them if they asked me to state my species or asked my opinion on whether the Pope is Catholic.

Pinching this one 👍

Thank you

'What are your pronouns?' 'Sex-based, like my oppression' is still my favourite, although I'm not sure I'd be confident enough to use it in the work place!

My pronouns are "I" and "me". You may call me Roses.

I'm sorry, I'm not ready to disclose them yet, and I find this conversation really triggering

"You can use whatever you like, I'm not bothered"

Yes, this is another good answer, too!

I like
'I abstain - I don't agree with forcing people to either out themselves or retreat into lying about themselves before they're ready '

If I'm asked to do this at work I'm going to say "oh no thank you!" like I've been offered a slice of dry brack.

I am someone who has been misgendered throughout my life so I just assume they aren’t sure and answer the question. She/her please.

It’s feels more polite than ‘what are you?’ Which I’ve had on many occasion and much less awkward than ‘give that to the nice maaaa…laaaay… person’

when I can’t be arsed with that I dress the part with eye catching earrings or dramatic skirts and suddenly I pass casual muster as woman again. People are very basic when it comes right down to it.

My pronouns are 'oops' and 'sorry' and I identify as an inconvenience?

I don't know. If asked I'd just laugh and say 'are you serious?'

Tbf I'm old and don't care but it won't make you friends to give smart answers in the work place so just ignore the question as being utterly beneath you.

I'd ignore. After that I'd say 'in case it isn't obvious I'm female' and leave it like that 🤷‍♂️

I was asked in a health care setting (I was patient).

She said, 'I'm sorry, I have to ask this, but- what are your pronouns, like she, he?'.

I said, 'I'm sorry you have to ask that, it's rubbish and a waste of your time. She/her.'

And we rolled our eyes, together.

I was asked to include pronouns as part of my company bio. I didn't. Gave them the rest of the information asked, the stuff that is actually relevant for my role but didn't include the non-essential bit of information. I don't know if it was anything to do with my refusal to comply but when our bios did appear on the website, pronouns were not included for anyone.

If I were asked in a meeting or face to face, I think I would just ignore the question. It's bizarre to think you can control how others refer to you when you're not there (or even if you are there). If I had the power to put words in other people's mouths, I wouldn't settle for something as trivial as pronouns, I'd insist that people only describe me using specific adjectives, namely 'intelligent', 'witty', and 'wise'.

Same response as to chuggers; a beatific smile and a firm "no thank you".

'What? Pronouns? What do you mean? What? Why? I don't get you! What are you on about?' continue as long as necessary and all said in my broadest Scouse. Proponents of extremely niche class-based fads should not expect knowledge or indeed acknowledgement of or the slightest interest in their little cultural affectations and shibboleths outside their tiny circles and it's kindest to let them know that rather than play along with their conceits. Otherwise they'll think it's mainstream and acceptable when it certainly isn't.

I've just ignored, when it's been asked on forms etc. No issues.