Thanks Gasp0de.
its also that i'm just stuck a fresh about how female biology gets appropriated - always via the male gaze. The bits the that are copied, like breasts.
And the bits that can't be copied and aren't sexualised in porn, like pelvic floor issues, menopause, and things like pcos and endometriosis, are still deemed entirely unacceptable for women to talk about.
It's a difficult thing for me to explain, but it's almost like they take the bits that can be used, but we still don't get to have the rest. It has to be erased, even though they have no need of it, don't rate it, and can't understand it.
it just feels like women's entire existence is dissected, to be utilised, and then the rest discarded as of no use whatsoever.