And respect is a two way street.
Many women were very happy to use whatever pronouns made someone comfortable, until this escalated to:
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You cannot refuse to respect someone's chosen identity, so you need to have sex with them even though you're homosexual and they're male
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You must respect someone's chosen identity, so you need to accept any and all male people with any presentation using women's toilets even if this means that some women are left unable to use any toilet at all - and the person they should respect and prioritise has no reciprocal care or respect or interest in their needs and their exclusion and their lived experience
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You must respect someone's chosen identity so you must give up female only sports and pretend this is ok, and there's no unfairness and there's nothing to see here because how sad for a male person and their needs if you don't
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You must accept you can no longer go to a rape crisis service and be supported, or go to a refuge to escape a life threatening situation because your trauma means you cannot use a mixed sex space - and it would be too sad and hurtful to a male person to care about you too and let you have female only services existing alongside mixed sex women's services.... what, you're sad too? Well no, somehow that doesn't matter. Your inclusion doesn't matter. This isn't reciprocal or two way, this is about male people mattering and female people not.
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You must surrender your words. And sex based rights. And not say things that might make a male person feel sad or dysphoric or rejected regardless of the impact upon you and other women of not saying these things...
Yeah, no. At this point, it stops being a good will thing. If it's not two way, if it's not reciprocal, it is just abusive and male supremacist.
If you want to change this and get the good will back, it is going to have to start from no longer hammering on women about 'poor TQ+ people, it's only a BIT of stuff they want from you' which just ignores all of this and tries to slide the harms under the rug. It is going to have to then include a LOT of TW proving that they are able to care about female people too and are willing to permit female people's needs and feelings and language and identity to exist alongside theirs.
Because otherwise you get what you're seeing more and more of: just a flat No. This is what happens when you relentlessly take advantage of people's 'kindness'. It runs out. And they realise that they are being taken for mugs and the little tiny 'just a pronoun' is the wedge the door is rammed open with.