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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Bunbury's Thirteenth edition - unlucky for some.

255 replies

highame · 10/06/2021 19:04

The useful Bunbury Guide to Spotting Community Disruptors is constantly evolving. It seems appropriate to resurrect today

The best research and advice is not to engage with community disruptors and trolls. As ever, if you suspect troll activity, report it to MNHQ.

Remember there are people out there who would like to silence us by fair means or foul and attacks are increasing.

This is a continuation of Bunbury’s 9th Public Service Announcement but other Bunbury’s are available and I believe Bunbury’s Orchestra is still alive www.mumsnet.com/Talk/womens_rights/4238543-Does-Bunbury-have-an-orchestra

If and when you see threads plopped into FWR, especially a curious repeat of well-worn topics, maybe check for poster history before engaging. AS is your friend.
If you feel your hackles rising, give yourself a break. After the Maya case we may find an escalation.

There are a number of posts/posters/threads that are reproduced on Twitter or Facebook to foment controversy using screen shots & flagging to either MNHQ to have threads or posters deleted.. Sometimes, it’s used to approach commissioning editors with ideas for articles. It’s a tiresome tactic that we always have community disruptor posters who themselves post the comments that they then highlight elsewhere as purported evidence of racism, religious intolerance, anti-men sentiments, or transphobia.

Some helpful links can be found in the ‘Break it Down for me’ and ‘It never happens’ threads but in essence FermatsTheorem recommended “that in the absence of a block/hide poster button, the following strategy is suggested

Do not name check the sealion. Instead, respond to a depersonalised paraphrase:

"It is sometimes erroneously suggested that blah. Blah is wrong for the following reasons (short and pithy). If you need more information re. debunking blah, here's a link."

Then (this next step is important to combat derailment) go back up thread to the last useful contribution to the discussion, make sure you do name check that contributor, and pick up the discussion from that point.”
Bunbury’s is under attack so be on your guard - there be dragons looking for witches.
If you’re lurking, Bunbury was a fictitious person in the Importance of Being Earnest - whenever our hero wanted to get out of an unwanted social engagement he would claim to have to be visiting his sick relative Bunbury. Hence the rediscovery of hitherto unknown second wave feminist Germaine Bunbury, to indicate to posters that a thread may in fact constitute an unwelcome social occasion they might want to avoid (courtesy of FermatsTheorem)
Finally, TAAT (thread about a thread) will get the thread removed. Let’s see how long this one lasts.

OP posts:
BlackeyedSusan · 11/02/2022 20:41

Yes it is lovely to see Germaine.

Confused Envy though not as bad as whea.... Oh yeah the unmentionable...ERM thingy

sorry mamma

mammajustkilledagnat · 11/02/2022 20:44

Have you not tried it?

notanotherkatechopin · 11/02/2022 21:07

I've nothing germane to add other than that I love these wonderfully and often surreal threads. Haven't had rhubarb for years, unless that's code, in which case it's anybody's guess.

notanotherkatechopin · 11/02/2022 21:08

also, I hope Mumsnet Towers adds an edit function before I die, which fingers crossed is some ways off yet

Goatsaregreat · 11/02/2022 21:48

I love rhubarb - stewed, jam, crumble, souffle and of course gin. Sadly my garden isn't large enough to maintain even one of those massive plants.

MrsOvertonsWindow · 16/03/2022 23:09

Sometimes, only Madam Bunbury has the answer Smile

Olderbadger1 · 17/03/2022 00:15

Has the camel gone?

DontLikeCrumpets · 17/03/2022 04:17

EmbarrassingAdmissions

"- don't engage on your opponent's battlefield."

This is truly excellent advice.

SelfPortraitWithPterodactyl · 17/03/2022 07:44

I'm probably very slow to catch up, but I saw some bunting popping up in RufustheMissingReindeer's username - has FloralBunting gone?! I hope not...

SweetGrapes · 24/03/2022 16:30

Bumping for the US muster point and twitter crowd coming our way.

Beware the Sealions or is it camels now?

SweetGrapes · 24/03/2022 16:35

So it's at the top (or thereabouts) in FWR - BUT still isn't showing up in Active.

MNTowers hiding the thread away??

Cuck00soup · 27/03/2022 13:22

Aunt Bunbury's etiquette guide is wise counsel to those dealing with unwanted guests.

I confess, I'm not always the best at sticking to her rules.

For those who host their own parties, the Mumsnet mantra of it's an invitation, not a summons, could be added to later editions.

MrsOvertonsWindow · 27/03/2022 14:09

Bunbury's advice is rarely bettered when encountering those posting in bad faith. Dragons looking for witches indeed.

YetAnotherSpartacus · 27/03/2022 14:34

has FloralBunting gone?! I hope not

Sadly, yes. Of her own free will.

LittleWhingingWoman · 27/03/2022 16:00

I've found a way to make a quick jam.
Well it's not really a real jam but it's good as a pretend jam for serving on the day - it's just frozen blueberries heated up in the microwave and mashed. It works without needing any sugar for those who have to be careful.
Nice on a bit of toast.

This isn't code.

MrsOvertonsWindow · 27/03/2022 16:46

This isn't code

Grin Grin

IcakethereforeIam · 27/03/2022 21:22

Is that a compote? I think one of the letters, not sure which, should be wearing a hat. Sounds lovely.

MrsOvertonsWindow · 31/03/2022 22:11

In the light of the dizzying reverse ferrets happening all over the place (the Labour party nearly remembering what women are, the government saying no to lobby groups, several sports remembering that inclusion means not excluding women from our own sports etc), Madame Bunbury would like to remind posters that a multitude of tantrums will be incoming!

Flowers
Monitaurus · 31/03/2022 23:08

They are incoming MrsO. Disengaging fast.

PrelateChuckles · 31/03/2022 23:10
LittleWhingingWoman · 02/04/2022 17:17

Fuchs sake, I need a drink.

TofuDelights · 02/04/2022 17:24

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MrsOvertonsWindow · 02/04/2022 17:30

Well done MNHQ Flowers

BernardBlackMissesLangCleg · 02/04/2022 17:34

Message from MNHQ: We've removed this thread as we can't be sure it's been posted with good intentions.

ya think? Wine

nice work MNHQ

LittleWhingingWoman · 02/04/2022 17:56

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