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Bunbury's Thirteenth edition - unlucky for some.

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highame · 10/06/2021 19:04

The useful Bunbury Guide to Spotting Community Disruptors is constantly evolving. It seems appropriate to resurrect today

The best research and advice is not to engage with community disruptors and trolls. As ever, if you suspect troll activity, report it to MNHQ.

Remember there are people out there who would like to silence us by fair means or foul and attacks are increasing.

This is a continuation of Bunbury’s 9th Public Service Announcement but other Bunbury’s are available and I believe Bunbury’s Orchestra is still alive www.mumsnet.com/Talk/womens_rights/4238543-Does-Bunbury-have-an-orchestra

If and when you see threads plopped into FWR, especially a curious repeat of well-worn topics, maybe check for poster history before engaging. AS is your friend.
If you feel your hackles rising, give yourself a break. After the Maya case we may find an escalation.

There are a number of posts/posters/threads that are reproduced on Twitter or Facebook to foment controversy using screen shots & flagging to either MNHQ to have threads or posters deleted.. Sometimes, it’s used to approach commissioning editors with ideas for articles. It’s a tiresome tactic that we always have community disruptor posters who themselves post the comments that they then highlight elsewhere as purported evidence of racism, religious intolerance, anti-men sentiments, or transphobia.

Some helpful links can be found in the ‘Break it Down for me’ and ‘It never happens’ threads but in essence FermatsTheorem recommended “that in the absence of a block/hide poster button, the following strategy is suggested

Do not name check the sealion. Instead, respond to a depersonalised paraphrase:

"It is sometimes erroneously suggested that blah. Blah is wrong for the following reasons (short and pithy). If you need more information re. debunking blah, here's a link."

Then (this next step is important to combat derailment) go back up thread to the last useful contribution to the discussion, make sure you do name check that contributor, and pick up the discussion from that point.”
Bunbury’s is under attack so be on your guard - there be dragons looking for witches.
If you’re lurking, Bunbury was a fictitious person in the Importance of Being Earnest - whenever our hero wanted to get out of an unwanted social engagement he would claim to have to be visiting his sick relative Bunbury. Hence the rediscovery of hitherto unknown second wave feminist Germaine Bunbury, to indicate to posters that a thread may in fact constitute an unwelcome social occasion they might want to avoid (courtesy of FermatsTheorem)
Finally, TAAT (thread about a thread) will get the thread removed. Let’s see how long this one lasts.

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EmbarrassingAdmissions · 01/07/2021 09:11

Bunbury needs to hike in somewhere convivial.

highame · 01/07/2021 09:15

I find the hostility uncomfortable. Something flat, my knees are playing up

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highame · 07/07/2021 17:41

A reminder, plenty of Zombie threads at the moment so check dates.

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CardinalLolzy · 07/07/2021 23:51

Yes, it's odd.

TidyStewart · 08/07/2021 00:07

If I can, I might suggest, in my capacity as a herder of over-privileged agitators, that the very bright sunlight of recent events may well inspire a few people to vent some frustration at the mummy-proxies.
Best be cautious. And remember to take your rubbish home with you.

highame · 08/07/2021 09:44

Love the name change Halo

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BatmansBat · 08/07/2021 09:54

I am taking a time out. Could I have a coffee with lots of milk? Is the camel still around?

Helleofabore · 08/07/2021 10:04

I am on the naughty step for mentioning unmentionables such as the name of this thread, or a coded version of it. I'd better stay in here today.

BatmansBat · 08/07/2021 10:10

Have you seen the camel?

Helleofabore · 08/07/2021 10:14

Well, I have the hump, does that make me a camel?

Did the camel chase the quokkas away? Am I to avoid the camel? Does it spit.... I had better go and read the pages I missed. Last I knew, a friend was offering camels to smoke. Not sure how the camel felt about that.

highame · 08/07/2021 14:20

The Camel is down at the Stocking that is Blue and is regularly offered buckets of Pimms and various treats that play havoc with its digestive system. I use the term its because pronouns have not yet been decided Grin

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ErrolTheDragon · 08/07/2021 14:31

@highame

The Camel is down at the Stocking that is Blue and is regularly offered buckets of Pimms and various treats that play havoc with its digestive system. I use the term its because pronouns have not yet been decided Grin
Afaik all the resident animals are female. Some of the visiting dogs are male, owners have to vouch for their good behaviour.
GAHgamel · 10/10/2021 01:09

I'm wondering, does the eminent Germaine Bunbury have any advice on countering thread derailment?

ErrolTheDragon · 10/10/2021 08:20

I think she recommends either ignoring, or responding to the issue rather than the poster and then continuing with the on-track discussion.
Ideally most of us should try to do the former rather than all chipping in but it's hard in practice.

Gumbomambo · 05/01/2022 21:21

I was thinking of Bunbury for some reason. I’ve decided to do some more baking as a New Years resolution and wondered if anyone had any favourite recipes.

bordermidgebite · 05/01/2022 21:22

Weetabix and chocolate cereal crunchies ?

Theeyeballsinthesky · 05/01/2022 21:24

I dont have any recipes but I have eaten the last Christmas pudding

Gumbomambo · 05/01/2022 21:28

I put the tree down and found a giant jelly baby full of jelly babies that had been lost underneath the baubles the cat had pulled off.

TheWeeDonkey · 05/01/2022 21:41

Cannibalism?! You could have added a trigger warning there.

Goatsaregreat · 05/01/2022 22:32

Good to see a reappearance of Madam Bunbury.
But am always sceptical about the recipes as they so often deteriorate into discussion of cereal horrors Sad

boatyardblues · 05/01/2022 22:37

@Goatsaregreat

Good to see a reappearance of Madam Bunbury. But am always sceptical about the recipes as they so often deteriorate into discussion of cereal horrors Sad
Shredded wheat and melted chocolate Easter nests are a thing. Waste of good mini eggs (garnish) IMO.
Linguini · 11/02/2022 13:26

Hello

Is this the most recent Bunbury?
If not, sorry

There are some odd threads running right now with mermaids, sealions and fantasy etc.

Goatsaregreat · 11/02/2022 19:32

Well spotted Linguini. It seems as the rest of the population is finally understanding the threats to women and girls safety and rights, this board will be increasingly targeted by people of the male variety determined to bully women into being support humans for sad men.

Bunbury's advice is worth considering before spending endless hours pandering to the narcissistic demands of males wanting to enforce the compliance of women to their distorted versions of reality (there is one particular current thread currently displaying this ) .

TheCurrywurstPrion · 11/02/2022 19:38

Good to see the wonderful Germaine, popping her head round the door at times like these!

mammajustkilledagnat · 11/02/2022 20:26

Gosh, this EHRC thingy has got a few people in quite a spin. Expecting increased activity and monitoring as it all plays out.

Anyway, someone was asking for jam recipes. I made a delicious rhubarb and strawberry one last summer. Divine.