Bluelipstick,
I'm new to this forum so please bear with me if I don't do the right @'s or if I should have highlighted something etc..I only really wanted to talk about something I have experience of and this thread seemed a good place to start. From what you say, we've clearly trodden a similar pathway but have arrived at different view points. I'm keen to understand your view of yourself as an 'old school transsexual'. How do you see yourself as different from a transsexual diagnosed today? Aside from the ICD code on your paperwork being from an earlier version, what makes you think that? I know we all experience life individually but, I'm thinking in terms of a cohort for example, an old school transsexual.
I too transitioned some time ago, it seems like an age now and makes me feel older than I'd like. I was in my early 20's from 1996, having my vaginoplasty in 1999 and then some facial work in 2016 when my finances finally allowed me the luxury. I just don't think I have arrived at the point where I see myself an old school transsexual and somehow different from those who are on an NHS pathway today.
I do agree with you about the mental health element, in the absence of a physiological test or an identified gene which I wouldn't dismiss out of hand, then we are at the moment only left with feelings and the distress of a body that doesn't or didn't feel right. I don't think that diminishes the condition. Mental and physical processes interact all the time and now after around 80 years of modern gender treatments, with some truly awful interventions along the way, they appear to have arrived at a pathway that seems to be beneficial for most who follow it. That's not to say it can't or won't be improved in the future and it's not to say it gets it right 100 percent of the time but, I almost baulk at some of the suggestions I see around which would put treatment back 30 or 40 years.
I personally don't think things are really that different now to my own experience. I'm a similar age to you so, I'm guessing our pathways were quite similar. I can only speak anecdotally as I have a friend who went through the NHS pathway between 2015 and 2020 and her experience seems to have been very similar to mine apart from she waited 12 months to see a GIC which seems to have increased a lot more in the last few years. Obviously, I only have her word but, I've no reason to disbelieve her. She seemed to experience what I would call differential diagnosis over a period of time, round about a year including counselling and the involvement of several clinicians ranging from psychotherapists to medical Dr's. This was followed by about 18 months on HRT before a second independent opinion and a surgical referral. The whole process took her around about 5 years and seemed pretty thorough. I think the only real difference to my own experience was that the medical staff didn't seem to be as hung up on gender stereotypes as some once were. That, I can only see as a good thing. Given the amount of supervision in comparison to some other conditions, I'd find it difficult to believe that the incidence of inappropriate surgical referrals differ significantly from 20 or so years ago.
As for post op suicidal ideation, it all feels a bit meaningless to compare trans people with those who aren't. Surely they'd do better to look at a country where many are denied interventions for example the US and see if there is a significantly worse outcome for those who receive treatment when compared to those who are denied it. Personally, my distress initially was down to the dislike of my physical reality. Once interventions started to take effect it was more down to the way in which society treated me such as family rejection and the general animosity you can encounter when you don't confirm to the binary.
You're right, there's no magical fix but, on a personal level my pain score used to be 10/10. The treatment I received allowed that to sit at about 2/10 which in my book although it's not a measure of perfection it is a reasonably reliable measure of success.
Anyway, I didn't mean to ramble that much, I got a bit carried away, I'm just interested in what makes you feel you're old school and therefore different from those who experience a similar thing today?