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Do you watch porn?

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RadandMad · 18/02/2021 19:22

I've been reading a convo on Twitter where several people are claiming - including a woman - that women watch porn as well as men. My first reaction is, this isn't true. Sure, I've watched it from time to time, usually in the company of men, but it's so boring, so divorced from real sex/real bodies, that I'd almost rather do anything else.

Am I wrong? I realise I'm asking a group of women who are probably going to have a more cynical view of pornography, but I'm having a hard time believing women have a porn habit even remotely comparable to men's.

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LouJ85 · 18/02/2021 21:48

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Fiona2020 · 18/02/2021 21:50

I do! We did today actually!

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oakleaffy · 18/02/2021 21:50

@Hairstanding

No, find it distressing.

YES...This.

Really upsettingly so. Also, watching a Louis Theroux programme on a revolting pornographer was a shocker at how abused the women seemed to be.
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MissBarbary · 18/02/2021 21:52

[quote Borntohula]@missbarbary oh don't be daft, porn is commonly associated with masturbation so get away with your head-tilty 'odd comment' crap. No, it's not necessary but because women do indeed masturbate, some will use porn, just like men.[/quote]
Love the "head tilt" jibe - did you make a special effort to avoid saying "pearl clutching" ?

I'm a bit sorry for you then that your imagination is so poor that you need to watch filmed prostitution to be able to masturbate.

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Borntohula · 18/02/2021 21:54

@MissBarbary I do both :)

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Lettera · 18/02/2021 21:57

Borntohula

Do you have any concerns about the circumstances in which porn is made?

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RufustheSniggeringReindeer · 18/02/2021 21:59

@Borntohula

I have and I think a lot of women, on here specifically, are really naive thinking that it's just men who do. Women masturbate too, obviously.

Has anyone actually said that though?

Or are you referring to other threads?
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CarlottaValdez · 18/02/2021 21:59

I don’t but do read stuff and sometimes I like photos or drawings. 100% only male gay content.

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LampsOn · 18/02/2021 22:00

I sometimes do and pretty much all of my close female friends do.

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Borntohula · 18/02/2021 22:00

Yes but you have no idea what kind of porn I or any other woman on this thread would choose to watch. I could say 'it's ethical porn' but if you are anti-porn in general, which I suspect you are, it's just not going to matter!

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Borntohula · 18/02/2021 22:03

@RufustheSniggeringReindeer other threads, like 'dh doesn't want sex,' there will be a load of responses basically saying dh in question is probably a porn addict but that just wouldn't be suggested if a woman wasn't into sex.

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RufustheSniggeringReindeer · 18/02/2021 22:06

[quote Borntohula]@RufustheSniggeringReindeer other threads, like 'dh doesn't want sex,' there will be a load of responses basically saying dh in question is probably a porn addict but that just wouldn't be suggested if a woman wasn't into sex.[/quote]
Thank you born

I thought that was the case but i wanted to check that i wasn’t missing anything (which happens on too frequent a basis 😀)

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ThatsGoodCakeLove · 18/02/2021 22:09

Yes. Always thought there must have been something wrong with me, maybe too much testosterone or something. Then I realised, many other women are probably just put off because they think they are not supposed to be turned on by it. If you give yourself the chance, I think most people would enjoy some form of porn.
I am a total hypocrite though because the thought of my partner watching porn fills me with jealousy, but I know he does, so il have my cup too.

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EstuaryBird · 18/02/2021 22:12

Back in the 70s it wasn’t so readily available. First Husband and I occasionally bought a top shelf mag and that was quite exciting because it was ‘naughty’.

Now it’s just bloody everywhere. There’s already more in existence than the world needs 🤷🏻‍♀️ I looked at some a couple of years ago but it left me cold...all I could think was how did these girls end up doing this.

As others have said, I much prefer erotic literature.

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HariboBrenshnio · 18/02/2021 22:13

Yes. Gay porn. A lot of gay porn is made for a female fan base and when you look at some of the more popular stars and their Twitter followers, it's predominantly women.

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MsGrumpytrousers · 18/02/2021 22:14

I don't. I watched about twenty minutes of it about ten years ago, not knowing about any of the ethical issues, and found it very dull and quite a turn-off. If I want filth I prefer to read it.

Sidebar: I'm always puzzled when it's said that the reason so many women strip off their body hair now is to match the women they see in porn (apparently hairless ladyparts make the willies look bigger) . Because (a) that means that all those women must watch porn, and I didn't think that many did - but maybe it is a generational thing? and (b) the women in porn all seem to be really, really, unattractive in that very plasticky way. But then I haven't seen much. Hmm.

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RadandMad · 18/02/2021 22:17

Thanks, guys. Really interesting range of responses.

yeah, I could have asked this on Big MN, but it's like the wild west out there! Wink

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RadandMad · 18/02/2021 22:19

Particularly interesting how many women like gay male porn. Not that surprising, I guess, given plenty of guys like to watch women together.

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littlbrowndog · 18/02/2021 22:19

No

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Mallysmomma · 18/02/2021 22:21

Yep but I prefer literotica more x

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IsThePopeCatholic · 18/02/2021 22:26

No. Too disturbing.

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Ltdannygreen · 18/02/2021 22:26

Not really, I dabble from time to time but I’d rather not. I’m not opposed to DP watching though, if he wants to watch fake ass shit then he can and he knows not to expect the insane flexibility they exhibit on there.

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Regularsizedrudy · 18/02/2021 22:27

Yes but I would doubt as much as most men

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fakenina · 18/02/2021 22:29

I dont but suspect my eldest daughter does, youngest def does not tho, she hates all that shit.

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SplendidSuns1000 · 18/02/2021 22:29

Occasionally. I only use sites that support sex workers.

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