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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Bunbury’s Eighth- Sealion training for beginners

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SophocIestheFox · 13/02/2021 21:08

Old thread nearly full!

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The useful Bunbury Guide to Spotting Community Disruptors is constantly evolving.

The best research and advice is not to engage with community disruptors and trolls. As ever, if you suspect troll activity, report it to MNHQ.

Remember there are people out there who would like to silence us by fair means or foul.

This is a continuation of the Public Service Announcement thread:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/womens_rights/3944572-Bunburys-guide-to-community-disruptors-part-5?pg=40

If and when you see threads plopped into FWR, especially a curious repeat of well worn topics, maybe check for poster history before engaging. AS is your friend.

There are a number of posts/posters/threads that are reproduced on Twitter or Facebook to foment controversy using screen shots & flagging to either MNHQ to have threads or posters deleted.. Sometimes, it’s used to approach commissioning editors with ideas for articles. It’s a tiresome tactic that we always have community disruptor posters who themselves post the comments that they then highlight elsewhere as purported evidence of racism, religious intolerance, anti-men sentiments, or transphobia.

Some helpful links can be found in the ‘Break it Down for me’ and ‘It never happens’ threads but in essence FermatsTheorem recommended “that in the absence of a block/hide poster button, I suggest the following strategy (given that you're talking to the lurkers).

Do not name check the sealion. Instead, respond to a depersonalised paraphrase:

"It is sometimes erroneously suggested that blah. Blah is wrong for the following reasons (short and pithy). If you need more information re. debunking blah, here's a link."

Then (this next step is important to combat derailment) go back up thread to the last useful contribution to the discussion, make sure you do name check that contributor, and pick up the discussion from that point.”

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Winesalot · 15/02/2021 17:08

Zucchini in Weetbix? With milk? Well, you are obviously aiming for efficiency in getting your five a day.

Whatever floats your boat, but seriously, is this a hot mess or what?

Winesalot · 15/02/2021 17:10

BuntingEllacott

A face mask? Do you add cucumbers too? And an avo?

picklemewalnuts · 15/02/2021 17:15

And you enjoy it, you say? 🥸

Ereshkigalangcleg · 15/02/2021 17:16

It's a WCH

PotholeParadies · 15/02/2021 17:17

See, this is why people said feminism was a threat to society.

VioletAlder · 15/02/2021 17:20

You can bulk out home made pesto with courgettes. Grill them till squishy then blend with basil, pine nuts (or tahini), garlic, olive oil & Parmesan (plus any left over bits of other hard cheese).

Works with peppers or aubergines too.

BuntingEllacott · 15/02/2021 17:23

WBH, by contrast, is no good for anything that touches the human body, inside or out.

It does a lovely job with hairline cracks in plasterwork, though.

ArabellaScott · 15/02/2021 17:24

Exfoliator. Maybe ...

TinselAngel · 15/02/2021 17:27

None of these serving suggestions for courgette change my mind, that you're all having to try very hard to make it enjoyable.

BuntingEllacott · 15/02/2021 17:53

God, I wouldn't eat courgette any more than I'd eat aubergine. That's not a euphemism. They're both rank.

Can I just have a packet of prawn cocktail crisps instead?

PopperUppleton · 15/02/2021 18:29

Where can I rant about a pest of a poster who is really pissing me off? I'm feeling a bit Vic & Bob - he won't let it lie!

HermitsLife · 15/02/2021 18:32

I think that needs it's own separate support thread Popper but I'm sure they'd find it 😫

HermitsLife · 15/02/2021 18:34

Although I always try to remind myself what I used to say to myself about an insufferable colleague "at least you don't have to live with them"

Biscuitsanddoombar · 15/02/2021 18:39

I take the war games approach popper

“Strange game, the only winning move is not too play”

notyourhandmaid · 15/02/2021 18:44

@PopperUppleton

Where can I rant about a pest of a poster who is really pissing me off? I'm feeling a bit Vic & Bob - he won't let it lie!
might have taken a little blue pill? Grin
BuntingEllacott · 15/02/2021 19:01

@Biscuitsanddoombar

I take the war games approach popper

“Strange game, the only winning move is not too play”

This, my friends, is your key quote for Bunbury. Remember it whenever you twig that someone is utterly desperate to enjoin you in a pointless back and forth. You win every time you simply ignore it.
CaraDuneRedux · 15/02/2021 19:04

This, my friends, is your key quote for Bunbury. Remember it whenever you twig that someone is utterly desperate to enjoin you in a pointless back and forth. You win every time you simply ignore it.

Wise words.

Especially when you remember that for certain posters, the aim of the game is narcissistic supply.

MaudTheInvincible · 15/02/2021 19:05

Yes I agree Bunting. In general, people who do this are not worth your time or effort. Stop engaging, and ignore them. Extra points if you're able to continue posting on the thread Thanks

persistentwoman · 15/02/2021 19:11

Well said Bunting. Flowers

Mumofgirlswholiketoplaywithmud · 15/02/2021 19:32

@HermitsLife

I think that needs it's own separate support thread Popper but I'm sure they'd find it 😫
I wonder if it could be a form of Property? Estate agents can pop in unannounced sometimes.
AdHominemNonSequitur · 15/02/2021 20:13

Just before a thread dissapear,
do posts stop being immediately uploaded, because if so, the mods might be about to pull the one with the mum asking for advice about her indoctinated daughter. I think it might be my fault for mentioning cults. If so, sorry.

RufustheSniggeringReindeer · 15/02/2021 20:16

i think it might be my fault for mentioning cults. If so, sorry

You shouldn’t need to say youre sorry

If something is cult like people should be able to say its cult like

There are all sorts of things on MN that people say are like cults without being deleted

boatyardblues · 15/02/2021 20:19

@AdHominemNonSequitur

Just before a thread dissapear, do posts stop being immediately uploaded, because if so, the mods might be about to pull the one with the mum asking for advice about her indoctinated daughter. I think it might be my fault for mentioning cults. If so, sorry.
That one seemed off to me, like someone trying to get screengrabs for Twitter. None of the parents with trans or GD children on here have ever talked about their child in such a cavalier way.
AdHominemNonSequitur · 15/02/2021 20:22

They deleted the post mentioning the post that was deleted that mentioned cults, and the other post of the person who responded to that too.

persistentwoman · 15/02/2021 20:22
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