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Bunbury's guide to community disruptors part 5

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ItsLateHumpty · 20/06/2020 15:04

The useful Bunbury Guide to Spotting Community Disruptors is constantly evolving.

The best research and advice is not to engage with community disruptors and trolls. As ever, if you suspect troll activity, report it to MNHQ.

Remember our monitors would like to silence us by fair means or foul.

This is a continuation of the Public Service Announcement thread:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/womens_rights/3691023-Bunburys-guide-to-community-disruptors-part-4

If and when you see threads plopped into FWR, especially a curious repeat of well worn topics, maybe check for poster history before engaging. AS is your friend.

There are a number of posts/posters/threads that are reproduced on Twitter or Facebook to foment controversy using screen shots & flagging to either MNHQ to have threads or posters deleted.. Sometimes, it’s used to approach commissioning editors with ideas for articles. It’s a tiresome tactic that we always have community disruptor posters who themselves post the comments that they then highlight elsewhere as purported evidence of racism, religious intolerance, anti-men sentiments, or transphobia.

Some helpful links can be found in the ‘Break it Down for me’ and ‘It never happens’ threads but in essence FermatsTheorem recommended “that in the absence of a block/hide poster button, I suggest the following strategy (given that you're talking to the lurkers).

Do not name check the sealion. Instead, respond to a depersonalised paraphrase:

"It is sometimes erroneously suggested that blah. Blah is wrong for the following reasons (short and pithy). If you need more information re. debunking blah, here's a link."

Then (this next step is important to combat derailment) go back up thread to the last useful contribution to the discussion, make sure you do name check that contributor, and pick up the discussion from that point.”

Go well Witches Gin

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wrongsideofhistorymyarse · 20/06/2020 15:05

Hello!

ItsLateHumpty · 20/06/2020 15:08

RufustheRowlingReindeer ended thread 4 with;

“I’m not actually in the room in most thread! I’ve a glass pressed up against the wall

Can’t hear much at times...but that may be the wine.“

Rufus can I just raise a glass to your unwavering calm, collected, voice of making me lol.
It’s a crazy world right now, so thanks for your sanity Grin

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Thelnebriati · 20/06/2020 15:25

Red flag emoji to copy and paste; 🚩
Pity there isn't a grey rock to go with it. I suppose we could re-purpose the glitterball.

TheProdigalKittensReturn · 20/06/2020 15:28

How do you copy and paste the red flag? It's not working for me.

RufustheRowlingReindeer · 20/06/2020 15:31

🚩

Ha, got one

Thank you humpty 😀

TedsFederationRep · 20/06/2020 15:34

Would this do? 🗻

CaraDune · 20/06/2020 15:36

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Testing my flag...

Preview suggests it works Grin

TheProdigalKittensReturn · 20/06/2020 15:38

I don't think mine is working...

nauticant · 20/06/2020 15:41

If you can't post the red flag, it means you are the red flag.

🚩

VickyEadieofThigh · 20/06/2020 15:41

Afternoon, Bunbury cultists!

TheProdigalKittensReturn · 20/06/2020 15:43

Well I guess I'll just fuck off then!

ItsLateHumpty · 20/06/2020 15:52

Testing flag duties...

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Failing the flag would Bear do?

And don’t you dare FO TheProdigalKittensReturn bunting 🚩 🚩 🚩 🚩 🚩 🚩 Grin

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R0wantrees · 20/06/2020 15:59

Pity there isn't a grey rock to go with it. I suppose we could re-purpose the glitterball

Better to make like the grey rock rather than launch or name the grey rock. The objective of the 'grey rock method' is to remove supply and therefore to minimise risk of escalation.

(extract)
"One strategy for dealing with a narcissist or sociopath is to act like a “gray rock,” meaning that you become uninteresting and unresponsive. Using the Gray Rock method, your objective is to make someone lose interest in you. You don’t feed their needs for drama or attention. You don’t show emotion, say anything interesting, or disclose any personal information. Nor do you ask questions or participate in conversations, except for brief factual replies. Limit your answers to a few syllables or a nod. Say “maybe” or “I don’t know.”

www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/toxic-relationships/201911/the-price-and-payoff-gray-rock-strategy#:~:text=One%20strategy%20for%20dealing%20with,needs%20for%20drama%20or%20attention.

BaronessBrighterThanYou · 20/06/2020 16:00

If you can't post the red flag, it means you are the red flag...

Bugger!

wrongsideofhistorymyarse · 20/06/2020 16:37

🚩

FannyCann · 20/06/2020 17:00

I suppose we could re-purpose the glitterball.

I had thought it was a grenade. Which would be quite a useful emoji in its own right. Glitterball

FannyCann · 20/06/2020 17:02

I'm actually quite partial to lobbing the odd grenade then running for cover. Grin

Which is probably rather cowardly.

But for the record I lobbed a grenade and got hissed at when I attended one of the surrogacy public events. Hissed at I tell you. Grin

R0wantrees · 20/06/2020 17:05

I'm actually quite partial to lobbing the odd grenade then running for cover

Of course, though using the 'grey rock method' is deliberately intended to have the opposite effect to a grenade.

FannyCann · 20/06/2020 17:07

Indeed. Thank you for the reminder. Blush

R0wantrees · 20/06/2020 17:13

Both can be valuable responses. Smile

BaronessBrighterThanYou · 20/06/2020 17:47

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I am so flipping pleased

Al1Langdownthecleghole · 20/06/2020 17:59

Thank You. These threads always seem to drop off threads I'm on/threads I'm watching.

Maybe I'm just too grey.

ScrimpshawTheSecond · 20/06/2020 18:56

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Hoping this works. Suspecting I am the red flag (clears throat)

'… Then raise the scarlet standard high'

  • what, no?
ScrimpshawTheSecond · 20/06/2020 18:56

Yay!

NotTerfNorCis · 20/06/2020 19:33

🤯

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