"My 15 yr old trans son is going through menopause - and I'm so proud of him"

[bettybeans]

http://www.essentialkids.com.au/health/health-wellbeing/my-15yearold-transgender-son-is-going-through-menopause--and-im-so-proud-of-him-20200416-h1nfe0

Christ almighty. I have been trying very hard not to go in heavy on parents of trans kids who make decisions that I simply don't understand but this whole situation just brought out absolute fury. The way she speaks about this process just enrages and saddens me in a way I can't adequately articulate. It's quite simply terrifying. I feel like I'm reading about a baptism or something.

This kid didn't stand a chance and it's absolutely heartbreaking.

It would be marvellous if all the people currently suffering constant pain and frequent fractures could all be magically cured with some vitamins.
Even those who religiously take the horrible bisphosphonates, calcium and vitamin D still end up with pain and fractures. Myself included. I took them for years. Ended up with osteoporotic fractures and a stomach ulcer.

FFS that article, I'm raging. When did it become okay for a mother to stop parenting their child?

Puberty is tough, really tough. Mine was horrendous and I definitely remember feelings of disconnect and even 'ambivalence about living'. My mum helped me with it with kindness and patience as I did when my son went through it.

Menopause is really tough too, I had early menopause following a hysterectomy and it was brutal. Because it wrecked my blood pressure I cannot take HRT and its been a real test. No mother who loved her child would be so dismissive of what this child is going through and will be living with for the rest of their life.

It’s child abuse and the mother is enabling it for whatever ghoulish reasons - homophobia, attention seeking, who know?

So sad. If someone had offered 15 year old me drugs to make me taller and thinner, and told me they would shorten my life expectancy by 30 years, I'd have been there like a shot. Because at that age you have no idea what growing up means.

This drug, under the Lipton brand in the US was given to for instance 10 year old Brooklyn Harbin. She wasn’t very tall (4 foot 9) and delaying puberty was hoped to let her grow. After 10 monthly injections she was in a wheelchair. Now in her 20s, she has the health conditions of someone in their 80s.
Elderly people are still given this as part of palliative treatment for cancer. Fine. But teens!

Meet the mother: champagnecartel.com/about-champagne-cartel-and-working-mums/

I'm actually going through the menopause.
Stupid ignorant selfish bitch. There's a lot of it about.

Meet the mother Ah, now I get it.

If you can’t be bothered as a parent to read about what you are going to be putting in your child’s body then words fail me.

This all sounds like jumping on a “look at me, look at my child we are so special” bandwagon.

Having listened to discussions with trans children I wonder why no one turns round to them and says what they are feeling is perfectly normal. That it doesn’t mean that they need to medicalise their feelings, put their life and long term health at risk and permanently change their body.

They just need to get through puberty and grow up and mature then decide if those feelings are still there.

Yes. Looking at the mother’s website, I can understand that maybe that explains the tone of her article.

She can't wait for her child vagina to atrophy. Nice.

And either that's an old photo or she's standing on a box because the child is most definitely not 'towering over her'

Swapping puberty for menopause seems like a shitty deal.

She can't wait for her child vagina to atrophy.

That makes me feel ill.

The mother must surely be at the age of thinking about menopause also - would think they would be a bit more clued up.

And the bit about 'from a curly haired pony loving daughter' it is the stereotypes always in these types of articles which are so grating too.

Oh god this is so terrible

That poor child.

Never to be what you could have been. So much lost The future lost

Always to be having to take medicine. Why why why would a parent do this the publicise it

It's like they think they are the first generation to ever experience those feelings. Utterly aweful and just so glad I'm not a teenager today

She says she can only comment on her child, well how about your child comments, how about we hear from your child? Seeing as the child is old enough to be injected with needles big enough to "sedate a horse", let your child express an opinion.

Or

Let's hear from your child in 10 years when she is detransitioning and facing the consequences of your decisions.

The organizations encouraging this nonsense gaslight the parents just as much as they gaslight the kids, sadly. It's very easy to bamboozle people with fancy words and rainbows.

Hmm, can you imagine that woman saying

"My fifteen year old daughter has come out as a lesbian - and I'm so proud of her."

I can't.

Me neither. Not sure it would quite fit in with the 'champagne cartel'.

I'm just wondering how someone whose frontal lobe has not fully developed (do we know how blockers effect it's development?) cope when they go through the anxiety, mood swings and feelings of confusion that are part and parcel of menopause. I know it knocked me for six and was without doubt the worst part, I thought I was losing my mind. I even had to change my job because if it, and I'm a faily self aware level headed adult. How does a confused teenager with no real parental guidance cope with that?

This mother doesn't see the contradiction between transing a female child and running a business which is supposed to make women feel better about themselves.

The, we’ll just top up the vitamins to dispel the brittle bones....

Vitamin supplements don’t cut it with osteoporosis. I know what the replacement therapy entails because my grandmother was osteoporotic and my late father too (due to cancer treatment). What a clueless parent. 🤦‍♀️

This mother doesn't see the contradiction between transing a female child and running a business which is supposed to make women feel better about themselves.

I'm wondering if the clue might be in her unremitting use of the word lady, right down to 'lady humans'.

I don’t understand how my friend with 4 children has to argue with doctors to have her tubes tied in case ‘she might want more’. But teenagers can be made infertile.

This was my exact reaction when I read the thread title..