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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Bunbury’s Public Service Announcement 3.1

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GirlDownUnder · 12/08/2019 13:44

The useful Bunbury Guide to Spotting Community Disruptors is constantly evolving.

The best research and advice is not to engage with community disruptors and trolls. As ever, if you suspect troll activity, report it to MNHQ.

This is a continuation of the first Public Service Announcement thread:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/womens_rights/3438714-Bunbury-s-Public-Service-Announcement-2

Thread 3 was deleted with this note from MNHQ; We're sure there will be a Bunbury 4 around soon, but we'd be grateful if we could draw a line under the issues raised in this thread if there's to be a new one.

If and when you see threads plopped into FWR, especially a curious repeat of well worn topics, maybe check for poster history before engaging.

There are a number of posts/posters/threads that are reproduced on Twitter or Facebook to foment controversy using screen shots & flagging to either MNHQ to have threads or posters deleted. Sometimes, it’s used to approach commissioning editors with ideas for articles. It’s a tiresome tactic that we’ve had several community disruptor posters who themselves post the comments that they then highlight elsewhere as purported evidence of racism, religious intolerance, anti-men sentiments, or transphobia.

Some helpful links can be found in the first posts on thread 2 (linked above) but in essence FermatsTheorem recommended “that in the absence of a block/hide poster button, I suggest the following strategy (given that you're talking to the lurkers).

Do not name check the sealion. Instead, respond to a depersonalised paraphrase:

"It is sometimes erroneously suggested that blah. Blah is wrong for the following reasons (short and pithy). If you need more information re. debunking blah, here's a link."

Then (this next step is important to combat derailment) go back up thread to the last useful contribution to the discussion, make sure you do name check that contributor, and pick up the discussion from that point.”

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Cascade220 · 16/08/2019 13:32

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GirlDownUnder · 16/08/2019 13:52

SpartacusAutisticus you’re a genius! Thanks Brew

When I was tech support this is what I’d call a PICNIC - Problem In Chair Not In Computer

Only a step up from turn it off, then on again. Whoops!

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Cascade220 · 16/08/2019 13:57

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Cascade220 · 16/08/2019 13:58

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GirlDownUnder · 16/08/2019 14:02

Promise I did AS but clearly I’m a PICNIC so maybe I should go back to turn-it-off-then-back-on-again

The humiliation Grin

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ErrolTheDragon · 16/08/2019 14:42

Between threads actually being deleted and the recent numerous MN glitches with 'threads I'm on' etc, it's not too surprising you would think there might have been a real issue!

GirlDownUnder · 16/08/2019 15:23

ErrolTheDragon what you said! It was never me a user error. Honest 😂

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LangCleg · 16/08/2019 15:24

Bless!

TurboTeddy · 16/08/2019 22:26

Bump, the weekend is here and we have "guests".

Agrona · 16/08/2019 22:38

Very earnest guests who wish to help us ‘understand’ we are wrong for believing facts?

pombear · 16/08/2019 22:59
LangCleg · 16/08/2019 23:02

#jesuisunefailure

TinselAngel · 16/08/2019 23:05

🙄

ErrolTheDragon · 16/08/2019 23:07

Non, in mot juste..
But just the one is enough perhaps.

ErrolTheDragon · 16/08/2019 23:08

Arseing anglophone autocorrect.

pombear · 16/08/2019 23:08

#pasdeprobleme Lang and no, no failure.

Sometimes we're all just moths to the flame, and the flame burns brightly! I've 'moth-ed' many times! Grin

TinselAngel · 16/08/2019 23:12

Torn between knowing grey rock is the right approach but really wanting to take the piss Confused

terryleather · 16/08/2019 23:14

Note to self: "do not provide narc supply, I repeat do not provide narc supply!!!"Confused

LangCleg · 16/08/2019 23:16

I CAN'T HELP IT.

TinselAngel · 16/08/2019 23:17

ITS LANG'S FAULT!

LangCleg · 16/08/2019 23:20

Must. Go. To. Bed. Must. Go. To. Bed. Must. Go. To. Bed.

PurpleCrowbar · 16/08/2019 23:27

But he sounds so lovely. Oh, wait. No, he sounds quite aggressive & unpleasant 🤷🏻‍♀️

ErrolTheDragon · 16/08/2019 23:30

There's a nice thread of funny memes if anyone needs some distraction before trying to sleep.

https://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/amiibeingunreasonable/3667094-AIBU-to-think-everyone-knows

pombear · 17/08/2019 00:04

Errol great link, thank you!

Lang hope you got to bed! My next top too!

Heartening to see lots of new names cropping up elsewhere with really succinct and articulate points of view.

Hey new-name people (though you may be name-changing 'old' people) - no waving emjoi available, so just waving at you all Grin

ErrolTheDragon · 17/08/2019 00:29

Mothers mothing? Grin