Quentin
My feeling that the UK is still a mildly socially conservative society comes mainly from my experiences. I'm gay and I'm trans. Same sex public displays of affection even such as holding hands are still something that risk running the gauntlet of those who can't hide their bigotry in public. San Francisco is socially progressive, certain areas of our large cities are socially progressive, in my opinion the UK as a whole certainly isn't. It's just my experience though, perhaps yours is different?
As for the second question. You are right it is a tiny minority that present with symptoms of GD in childhood. Many that do, hide it well away knowing that to bring it into the open is going to cause all sorts of problems. Perhaps even worse than the ones that are already causing you so much distress. A minority do speak up, over the last 5 years GIDS figures suggest they had just short of 9000 referrals. That is an increase, particularly among girls which is interesting (although the rate of increase did start to slow again in 2016-17). That said 9000 referrals is a tiny proportion of the children under 18 in the UK(circa 12.5 million). In 2017 the DM did an expose to report that 800 had been prescribed blockers. Is that 800 of 9000, i don't know really, actual figures are hard to come by but, if so it would suggest just under 10 per cent of those referred go on to be treated suggesting a high desistence rate/ not diagnosed rate during the evaluation phase. From that I would suspect those that do eventually go on to blockers are those that present with the most persistent symptoms during the evaluation phase. Currently the most common age range for referral is 13 - 16. The wait to see a clinician currently stands at around 27 months so I suspect most 14 year olds and above will never see GIDS and instead be referred on for a further three or more year wait with adult services. Of those that are treated though there are likely to be a a very small number of that group that go on to de transtion. Those cases should provide valuable evidence for them to improve both evaluation and subsequent care. I know that is no recompense for the false positive but, if we were to pretend that trans health care is the only field that suffers from a minority of false positives then we wouldn't be being honest. What I can't bring myself to do is advocate withdrawing treatment from a very small number of 18's based on the experiences of a very small number of that particular group within a group. To do nothing as far as those who are suffering are concerned really isn't a neutral act. That said, it is now the subject of judicial review so whatever we think is likely not to matter.