So you're saying that you would rather that men actually did do nothing about other violent men who break the law?
I'm saying men and women together should find ways to deal with violent men who break the law. That will help to ensure the response will be responsible, ethical and appropriate and not one that perpetuates or widens inequality between women and men.
Do you think that laws are a waste of time ?
No. They are essential for restraining the powerful from exploiting and abusing their power over the less powerful. Although they still need re-jigging to meet this ideal.
Do think that the laws men came up with are stupid and should be struck from the statute book?
Some yes, others no.
What laws would you have instead?
The Sex Discrimination Act and other equality laws have be campaigned for by women.
How would you have them enforced?
Better than they are now. It is ongoing.
I would contend that by and large we live in the most civilised time in human history
Indeed. The emancipation of women has benefitted the whole of society.
and that men work incredibly hard to keep a lid on violence and murder.
This is a bit iffy really though isn't it? I know this could seem provocative, but many men who perpetrate domestic violence are in the armed forces or in the police.
If men should share collective blame for atrocities should they also share collective praise and thanks for the good things?
I am not sure if 'blame' is the right word. Perhaps 'take collective responsibility' is more appropriate. Also men regularly take credit for women's work and minimise the value of women's input, so to give thanks and praise to men for the 'good things' probably translates in the real world as 'allow men to take credit for women's achievements'.
If not, why not?
The time has come for men to take collective responsibility for wrongdoings of their sex and make meaningful reparations.