Apologies in advance for the long post. I’m a newbie here and I feel very strongly about this issue.
I am a lesbian. I was brought up in a conservative Christian home at a time when homosexuality was much less accepted than it is now.
I absolutely agree that everyone has the right to refuse sex to anyone for any reason, but in my view there is something particularly crappy about the “cotton ceiling” bollocks. Which, for the record, the trans people I know agree is crappy.
People like Riley Dennis, who assert that lesbians not wanting dick have been subject to anti-trans conditioning and just need to get over it, would be laughable were they not so jaw-droppingly clueless and crass.
Perhaps it is different for young lesbians now (though I doubt it), but I don’t know a single lesbian of my own age who didn’t wonder why she wasn’t attracted to those humans that have dicks and no tits.
Any anti-trans messages I received were utterly dwarfed by the anti-gay rhetoric to which I was exposed. I was taught that I should be romantically and sexually repulsed by [biological] women and excited by [biological] men. Because I felt the opposite, I was disgusted with myself and tried desperately to be attracted to boys/men. It took me years to get over the belief that my sexuality made me fundamentally foul and unlovable.
I know other lesbians who felt the same. Many of us were ridiculed and ostracised. Some were rejected by their families. Others were put through conversion therapy, even exorcism.
So the idea that we just need to think about why we don’t like dick is, as I say, jaw-droppingly crass. Not only will (I reckon) pretty much every lesbian have thought about this - many of us agonised over it.