"Planning my wedding as a non-binary bride"

[53rdWay]

www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2018/jun/05/planning-my-wedding-as-a-non-binary-bride

"When I walk down the aisle this time, in front of every person who knows me, it will be as someone who lives in their body. Not a bride on a cake, but as myself, a person who is too complicated for the simple rituals that are the pattern of our lives."

Unlike the rest of us, who are 100% cool with compulsory femininity and aren't nearly complicated enough to be more than cake-decoration brides!

It's annoying but I feel more sorry for her than anything. This, e.g.:

“I’m in a body that isn’t saying the right things. It’s not me,” I explained. “I feel like I’m wearing a rubber suit all the time and nobody can see me inside it.”

Welcome to living with a female body under patriarchy! Join the feminists who are trying to bring the system down for everybody, not just the few special souls who are Not Like The Other Girls.

I was confused by this. "Bride" is a term for a woman getting married. So how can they describe themselves as a "non-binary bride" - surely that's an oxymoron?

If you object to being pigeonholed into gender stereotypes and describe yourself as "non binary" then why not say "planning my wedding as a non-binary person"?

Many of the 'Q' and 'T' at the end of the LGB are just so utterly self absorbed. Imagine prioritising this kind of shit, who has the time for this much navel gazing?!

I think this is an angle,which shows just what a stranglehold the wedding industry has at present.

It has limited what people think a wedding 'should' be like.

What a load of self indulgent piffle. It was like Miranda choosing her wedding outfit in Sex And The City, if Miranda wrapped it in a load of utter gubbins.

Why do people have to post all this stuff to justify their choices? Just get on with it, no need to look for approval constantly.

Can't face reading it. Is a bow tie involved?

you'd think no one had ever toddled off to the registry office dressed as they please and then went to the pub afterwards

The self centeredness is quite epic. How do people like this deal with genuine external crisis? There seems to be an epidemic of narcissistic behaviour.

MEMEMEMEMEMEME!

What a pile of self- indulgent, egotistical nonsense. I don't feel sorry for her at all.

Can't face reading it. Is a bow tie involved?

Nope. A Grace Kelly dress.

Morris she chose a dress. Just not a frilly one

And she's upset because someone said she was like a seahorse, because apparently they were saying she is unnatural. Since when were seahorses unnatural?

That's 5 minutes of my life I won't get back.

Good grief. How much of that is reaction to an abusive first husband and feeling trapped by him I wonder?

I had a non frilly dress, a three minute non religious ‘ceremony’ and then we all decamped for fizz, cocktails and food and dancing.

My god I must have been simply revolutionary...

A seahorse? Maybe her partner was brooding young in their mouth? That is fairly unorthodox for a wedding, I must say...

A dress without frills is non binary? What the what now?

Brave and stunning. A true trailblazer.

Nope. A Grace Kelly dress

Yes- read that again. A Grace Kelly dress. I love Grace Kelly. She was stunningly beautiful, elegant, the epitome of her name and very feminine.

This might be dress the writer was wittering on about.

no need to look for approval constantly

But that is the entire point! Can you imagine their absolute crushing disappointment if people looked on and said "What's all this performance about? There's nothing special here."

Or this

It’s a lovely dress. And not exactly unconventional is it?

Wear what you want. It's easy.

Holy fucking shit. Tall blonde woman wears elegant, professionally tailored dress to marry tall blonde man, and this is now 'queer' because she liked riding a bike as a kid?

When did the world go effing mental?

It's a shirt story isnt it?

What a load of self indulgent, pretentious shite.

I read this article this morning and thought of you lot

You're spot on OP

This is the To Catch a Thief Dress she was wittering on about. It is beautiful, not frilly and not in the least unconventional.

So, she's a tall blonde woman who got married in a beautiful dress. And this is revolutionary because...?