Trans Widows escape committee

[TinselAngel]

This is a second attempt to start a thread for women who have been, or are still in unhappy relationships with Trans partners.

Having got out of a marriage to a man who transitioned shortly after we split, it would be good to be able to support others in a similar situation.

I know there's a few of you out there?

Can I just suggest that anyone concerned about the inappropriate behavior occurring on this thread report the offenders so HQ can take care of it? I'd hope that regardless of feelings on trans issues nobody there would want to see a support thread targeted for trolling.

This. Please just report and let these women have their thread back.

(Over and very much out.)

There you are MsnotMrsjones. You've demonstrated your lack of empathy for women. And an actual widow has said that she is not offended.

I can't imagine the sort of person who would read through a thread like this and their only take from it would be pretend offence at the title.

Leave women alone.

klaxon:

I don't speak for anyone else, but I massively appreciate the support from women who read and understand, and stop in to chat with us about our real life experiences with AGP. THANK YOU.

Honestly it can be really isolating, we've all been told to be quiet, do offers of help, to be a bouncer, just voices is something hopeful and beautiful.

Part of the reason I keep doing this, being that annoying voice who doesn't shut up, who keeps telling my story, is so that people hear me and not just the sanitised bullshit narrative of my STBXH.

It's not just a support group, I want to compare stories, feel like we are not alone, to know we are believed because someone has gone through the same. But also I want our voices to be heard. And if the price of that is the occasional AGP or under informed person popping up to take a shot, then I'm cool with it. It helps to demonstrate what's going on out there in the grim.

We believe you, we hear you and we are here for you. I' have found this thread most helpful in my understanding of AGP. We won't let people come on and mess with this thread not without having to deal with your (cyberFWR) pals.

Again what kitty said

As kitty says
Reading, reporting & supporting you

Stay strong

(I do try not to post too much on here because I don’t want to water down the testimony, but I am always reading and mentally applauding - you are the ones who are ‘stunning’ and ‘brave’ in my eyes. Don’t ever forget it!)

Hi, sorry for the interruption. Just letting you know that we've removed a number of recent posts from this thread - we could see they were posted by a previously banned poster.

Many thanks for all the reports.

Thanks @DawnMumsnet

Thanks Dawn.

Thanks

Thanks @DawnMumsnet

And thanks to all the posters here. I stumbled on this thread by accident. I had no idea about AGP and reading about your experiences has been very enlightening and helped form my opinions about a number of current issues.

I haven't posted before as I have nothing useful to say but lend my support in my head and heart.

We’re here. We hear you, we’re listening. We’re not interrupting because it’s not right to, but please know that there are plenty of us out there, cheering you on and supporting you every step of the way

Thanks @DawnMumsnet
being a mod on an open forum must give you a very uggghhh birds eye view on just how grim some people behind a keyboard can be. for you.

Well today has been interesting. Organised de-rail or coincidence, I wonder?

Not to worry, one person on Twitter with less followers than most adolescents, who clearly hasn't read the thread...thinks we are still married to cross dressers, (no) don't like them very much (loved him dearly before he became sexually abusive) and stay for our husband's money!

Clearly the bits where folk describe their ex husbands as being shit with money etc didn't stick, not as hard stuck as their stereotypical notions of what greedy women who steal men's money do.

And leaving abusive relationships is never easy. It is potentially dangerous. But hey, those greedy chicks stay for the money hey!

It's a slow motion Darwin Awards.

This thread has been referenced on Twitter?

Yes, same person whose posts were deleted upthread. PBP. Obsession with MN FWR.

I really hope this doesn't stop women who need help, posting here.

I don't think it will TinselAngel. it's been growing, steadily for six months.

As people start to google their situation, this thread will come up.
And remember, for everyone who posts there are dozens of people lurking. Many of whom will be deriving great benefit from this thread.

Why was my post deleted? Im a married man and cross dresser and shared my story here. I dont see what guidelines i broke.

This is why there is no frank discussion of transgender issues and AGP in relationships -- controversial opinions get censored on most all sites these days. The site guidelines say minority opinions are supposed to be protected.

Orbital0

This is a thread to support transwidows. Your post was 'not in the spirit'. That does breach guidelines.

If you want to talk about AGP, start a thread elsewhere on this site. You will get many takers. Forcing your way onto this thread, is just tedious.

I wasnt looking for support. I was trying to share how my wife and I have managed in hope that helps other couples that are struggling
. Good luck.

As I just said Orbital0, if that's what you want to do, go-ahead and do it. You're quite right, that mumsnet will allow you to do exactly that.

Being on this thread is not that.