What do I define as feminity? Anything that that someone of the female sex says, does and thinks. Masculinity, anything that someone of the male sex says, does and thinks
My definition simply rejects those stereotypes and redefines stereotypical expectations
Your definition renders "feminine" and "masculine" completely redundant. People do things, say things and think things. What point is there in distinguishing whether these things are feminine if done by a woman or masculine if done by a man?
The stereotype is pink for girls blue for boys.
The feminist position is these are just colours. That is getting rid of the stereotype.
Your position seems to be pink is feminine if a woman wears it and masculine if a man wears it. And I'm struggling to see what point you are making.