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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Cat calling

515 replies

Cocklodger · 14/11/2016 13:36

I'm sure this one has been done to death, I don't frequent the board often tbh.
now I hate catcalling. I'm sure every woman has or will experience it. Its not pleasant. It makes me angry and sometimes it scares me,
But today I've seen a post on FB (with someone of a similar view point to me) being ripped into, because
''Its just a compliment''
she's a ''fun sucker''
''I bet she would've REALLY just asked for his number''... Those comments came from women.
Now I, being me decided to defend this person and found the same comments hurled at me. I've now just left it because I've gotten to the point where I can no longer even try to come up with a coherent argument. I have also received personal insults(about my appearance and the fact I'm obviously a bit fat since I was recently pregnant baby under 2wks old)
i just didn't realize how acceptable it was, I genuinely thought it was wildly noted as pretty fucking annoying (If I'm being generous)
I don't even know what to say.
Wtf is wrong with people?
Can someone please reassure me that I'm not wrong? I know I sound bloody pathetic but for some reason finding out how acceptable it is has actually quite scared and shaken me a lot....

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sillage · 16/11/2016 18:08

"What began as interesting, insightful and articulate conversation just totally lost the plot."

While it's been fun target practicing on trolls who assure themselves we're too stupid to realize they are knuckle-dragging bozos, I think it's time to let the boring boys go punch each other in the faces and move on to more worthy targets.

Xenophile · 16/11/2016 18:12

It would be nice if, instead of having to engage with the trolls we could stick to the topic at hand, but they seem to be terribly persistent this time...

YonicProbe · 16/11/2016 18:45

We could talk about trees until they go?

Number One. The Larch...

RufusTheSpartacusReindeer · 16/11/2016 19:00

Oak

RufusTheSpartacusReindeer · 16/11/2016 19:01

So much better than a larch

RufusTheSpartacusReindeer · 16/11/2016 19:01

Cats

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Xenophile · 16/11/2016 19:03

Now Dougal, these cows are small. Those are far away.

Small.

Far away.

YonicProbe · 16/11/2016 19:05

Feck!

Datun · 16/11/2016 19:10

Weeping Willow...

Xenophile · 16/11/2016 19:17

NUNS!!

REVERSE, REVERSE!!

DeviTheGaelet · 16/11/2016 19:19

rufus!!!

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FreshwaterSelkie · 16/11/2016 19:20

Aw, devi, that is so cute I just melted clean away!

RufusTheSpartacusReindeer · 16/11/2016 19:31

Oh now thats adorable devi

Are you alright xeno ? Its like you have a religious Tourettes

"NUNS!!!! NUNS!!!! NUNS!!!!!"

YonicProbe · 16/11/2016 20:19

Weeping willow

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Dadaist · 17/11/2016 20:00

OP - you are not wrong - and I think the issue at heart is really quite clear - which is - any genuine compliment has to be made with humility! And humility means appropriately, sensitively and with sincerity. 'I hope you don't think me too forward in saying you have the most beautiful eyes I have ever seen' might be a compliment- if it's sincere and offered in an appropriate context - but Cat calling is passing judgement, lacks any humility, is insincere and revolting precisely because it is inappropriately delivered and entirely unsolicited and uninvited. So the response is that 'compliments must be made with humility.' What do you think?

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