Feminist Pub XXI - The Pub with No Name

[erinaceus]

Welcome, everybody.

Happy Friday.

Myownperson you may or may not have noticed that I did not volunteer to do anything. I am wondering whether to promise myself never to start the Pub thread again.

I have had my coffee now, and I still would not open AIBU, not on on Sunday.

I like the neologism "manstruating". Will try to remember that one.

I appointed myself chef. I've done a big pile of bacon butties - help yourselves.

The smaller pile are the quorn rasher ones for the veggies.

"manstruating"

I was very virtuous and used up yesterday's leftover rice by frying it with egg, crab, chilli and peas. It was a very nice breakfast.

I've also just read in yesterday's Guardian Review someone's review of the book The Men's Club. He said it was hilarious... Anyone going to read it?

I get pms, I get really paranoid and think everyone hates me and is out to get me.

Mind you hormonal contraception has put paid to periods for the time being.

Can I have a milky coffee and pancakes with maple syrup and bacon please landlady.

Errol, I had a quick Google and wonder if it was this The Impact of Menstrual Cycle Phase on Economic Choice and Rationality haven't read it all yet but it is interesting thanks.

paddypants13, I am sure you can, but the chef decides the menu.

AlpacaLypse is serving up bacon butties this morning.

Yes, thats the one.

Yes, thats the one.

Erin the cultural link is very interesting and makes sense tbh. There are plenty of cultures/religions where periods are seen as shameful to begin with,so I'd expect very few women would even mention it,much less use it as an "excuse"(back home for example we are not allowed in church if we are on our period) . Add to that the expectation of submissiveness, going on rants or outbursts of anger or whatever would be very frowned upon,or even punished. So it wouldn't be unrealistic to assume that even if women suffer from it,they are conditioned from a young age to hide it or hide themselves.

One of the things I enjoyed a lot about the tampon tax campaign was Osborne cheerfully using the word in the House of Commons - no longer taboo. I cant remember whether the debate and reporting resorted to the twee euphemism 'feminine hygiene' or 'sanitary products' which resonate with the religious notions of 'uncleanness'. Are there better labels Boots could use on that aisle?

Boots could call the aisle "tampons & towels"

Or the "Mummy's Special Tissues" aisle?

Dd calls them nappies...LOUDLY...IN PUBLIC TOILETS!!! Doubt that will catch on

Hello - can I come in? I've not been on the pub for a while.

Anyone want to recommend a suitable drink for someone who has to go back to work tomorrow? I've had 3 weeks off, so I'm not sure what I'll have to deal with.

Whatever it is I'm drinking, I'm bound to need something stronger tomorrow evening.

Hey, y'all. I haven't been in for a while either.

Did someone mention bacon butties? When I was a student in the UK, I developed a love for most all things British. Bacon rolls (I was in Scotland) are at the top of the list. And proper back bacon is very hard to find in the US.

Seneca, Canadian peameal back bacon is amazing. Can you find a source to ship it south of the border?

Thanks, sentia I'll check into that.

Welcome, all newcomers. Take a seat. I appear to have become the landlady despite being unable to cook and not really being someone who drinks very much. I am organised though.

Perhaps we need someone to stock the bar?

So far we have gin and tonic for ninety-nine p and black sambuca. I don't think we'll go in for alcopops but there is wine to suit all tastes and budgets, and tea and coffee and J2O.

I'm definitely sticking around if there's black sambuca

I need wine if there is any going. I was at a wedding last night and there were so many sexist comments I don't even know where to begin. No major dramas, it was just so insidious and constant I need time (and wine) to help my brain process a bit.

The PMS thing is interesting. I've never suffered myself - I tend to get upset or angry more often than most regardless of how far off my next period is.

Anyone else just listened to The Archers jury special? Something of a curate's egg, the main good bit being 'jackie'.

I sort-of-hate weddings, despite having had one of my own (which, naturally, was fabulous .)

There was the one we attended as guests where I mentioned in passing to the person sat to my left my own wedding speech and said person sat next to me told me that in their opinion brides should not speak (speak as in give a speech) at their own weddings...presumably squeaking out "I do" was permissible in his eyes..and breathe...

The Bluestocking hosts wedding receptions, or any type of party, for this thread at least. No wedding licence though, you'll have to go elsewhere to do the paperwork.

I've been to a wedding where the bride grabbed the microphone out of exasperation, I think, because no one was giving clear instructions. That would be me, if I had a wedding ... "JUST DO AS YOU ARE TOLD NOW SO WE CAN GET THIS OVER AND DONE WITH. YOU - SIT HERE, YOU - SIT THERE AND YOU THERE - JUST FUCK OFF". That's why I don't do weddings...

Well on top of all the usual sexist wedding crap I got sat next to the only other single person (cos, y'know, everyone needs a relationship), listened to my family judge the parenting of a cousin-in-law while ignoring the dad being fairly useless at dealing with children, loads of judging women for being overweight / 'badly' dressed, questioned on why I was going to the bar because 'it's better if men do that'. I was doing an awful lot of deep, calming breaths.

In good news though, my colleague is going off on parental leave next week because she is adopting. So fantastic to see two children placed with a loving couple.

I was doing an awful lot of deep, calming breaths.

I remember messaging my DSis when sat next to a particularly misogynist chap at a wedding about the taking of deep calming breaths and she replied "nah, just let 'im 'ave it".

I do love my DSis.

I do not have good news of the day. I just learned of a re-org at work that will affect my colleagues and me. I like my colleagues. I do wish that the company would stop re-orging us and let us get on with our bloody jobs.

Good to hear about a lovely adoption, I hope it works out well .