Feminist Pub 14: The Bluestocking, a place for feminist chat and feminists to chat

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Welcome!

This is the 14th incarnation of the Pub and is meant as a place to drop by with random thoughts and meandering chats, on feminist or other related themes. Anything you want to mull over but not necessarily start a thread about. Alternatively, flop onto the chaise lounges with some

We have a pub goat, a feminist cannon for firing at crazy sexists and a variety of drinks and snacks. And stools/bar counters at female friendly heights. And a crèche in the back somewhere

Will link the last pub in the next post!

Aaahhh Buffy, take it an as indication of how much you are like here, and enjoy it

Happy birthday Buffy

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Damn it Dragonlette and Yonic I am late.

Many happy returns Byffy!!

Hmmm I seem to have translated your name into Welsh as a birthday present. Penblwydd hapus!

Happy Birthday, Buffy!

for Buffy

for Buffy, although it's not yet midnight here.

today I have mostly been dealing with having flu. now I am pondering getting up at 7 am to catch up with all the things I shoulda/coulda done but didn't.

I am crap at being ill. I moan a lot, have you noticed?

Merry birthday Buffy! And medicinal for kickass

Happy birthday buffy!

Happy birthday, Buffy!

I have curtains in my living room at last. I am ridiculously happy.

I am impressed with the level of dedication at wishing Buffy happy birthday at the crack of midnight! I am positively tardy, but a most happy birthday to you, awesome Buffy. (my autocorrect wants to call you Buffet)

Happy Birthday Buffy!

Happy birthday Buffy

Happy Birthday Buffy! 21 again?

Aaaanyway, this morning I am looking after a friend's two DSs. They're teh same age as my two and good friends, but my two are out at Sunday school. So why are they coming over? Well, she needs to go out to work. And normally they go to their dad's on a Sunday. But their dad is an abusive, bullying arse who my friend in sensibly in the middle of divorcing. And he is making it all as difficult and unpleasant for her as he can, because he's a bullying abusive wanker.

Every Sunday, he would bully his way into the house when picking up the kids, and either steal stuff, break stuff or go through her paperwork. So she starting taking the DSs to her friend's houses and he had to pick them up from there. But now he's insisting that he can only do contact in her house (he's living with his mum). She said no, obviously. He won't change his mind because to a wanker like him, using your kids as a tool to bully your ex is perfectly acceptable behaviour.

So she's dropping them round here and he won't get any contact today. She usually leaves them with other friends so I don't know if he'll think to look for them here. I hope not, I have work to do and don't need to be dealing with his BS today.

Happy birthday Buffy

Happy birthday Buffy

Hey Buffy, that's a lot of cake you've got now. I hope you're sharing with everyone in the pub!

Happy birthday buffy I think you've had had enough now so I shall bring

Annie that sounds utterly shit for your friend. I'm glad she's divorcing him. He sounds like a complete twat. You sound like a very good friend.

Annie, your friend is doing the right thing - and if the shit-xh is anything like my friends shit-xh (who is going through a similar scenario) he will now accuse her of denying him contact. He got nowhere of course - because she's made it clear that he can have contact - just not on his (ridiculously unreasonable) terms.

It is bullying plain and simple, and wanting to re-assert his dominance.