Eating: "Seven I imagine your first paragraph is just what Vivian is saying except that trans men do not see themselves as girls. I'm not quite sure how trying to include everyone who has had FGM is erasing the problem."
Eating, last night I went on the Reddit subgroup formed by people who do believe that calling FGM FGM is cissexist. They are not (on the whole) coming at it from the angle of "but what about children assigned female at birth who grow up and decide to identify as trans* men."
They are coming at it from the angle of "I wish, as a trans woman, to insist that the term female primarily means those who choose to self identify as female - I am a gender essentialist, I believe that what matters is whether you feel inside yourself that you have a female or a male mind, and biology is an accident (to the extent that I am happy to call a trans woman with no intention of surgically transitioning the owner of a 'she penis'). Thus, by calling FGM FGM, these nasty TERFs [and the WHO, and NGOs, and basically anyone who's trying to speak out about the issue and actually do something about it] are using language in a way that does not accord with the way I think it should be used, and it's triggering for me, so I insist you call it something different [even though that then systematically obscures the reasons and power imbalances leading to the structure in the first place]."
And I am calling bullshit on that as an argument. Trying to explain away FGM as clitoral amputation/ vulval mutilation without reference to the fact that its something done to women by male-dominated theocracties is like trying to explain rape as "oops, I accidentally tripped and sat on an erect penis."
(BTW, I would not recommend that Reddit subgroup if you want your blood pressure to remain reasonable).