Feminist pub no 12: The Bluestocking Returns, this time with goats!

[YonicScrewdriver]

Welcome!

A lovely new pub
I like the goaty shooty decor.

I know Yonic, but she's only 9 and I don't want to overwhelm her budding feminist/liberal leftie brain with too much detail of the horror of political reality! Baby steps.

And I too love the new Goaty Cannon Arms pub.

Petula... I think you might have been right the first time with sod play. And there is the Hallmark Channel for the laydeez....

Hello - is it too early for ? I've just got back from a weekend with my parents and siblings. My mum kept telling DH and BIL to 'put their feet up' whilst expecting me, DSis1 & DSis2 to cook and provide drinks. (Apparently I have an attitude problem, and I'm a bad role model for DD - erm, no - don't think so)!

Oh, Oubliette, you deserve much wine no matter what time it is! Did you have words with your mother, or does she implode at the very thought of feminism like mine does?

I couldn't face an argument this visit, so I didn't pull her up on it. I only agree to go along because DD and DS love seeing their aunts and uncles and baby cousin.

Really glad to be home - will definitely be having later.

(Did I mention that my mum bought me 'Jane Austen's Guide to Modern Life's Dilemmas for my birthday - it isn't even something I can re-gift, so I guess it will be going straight to the charity shop)

What is Jane Austen's guide to Modern life's dilemma? Jane Austen is much misunderstood, I think, by the fact that they decided to use the quote " I declare after all there is no enjoyment like reading!” from Pride and Prejudice. Are they illiterate at the Bank of England?

I feel for you oubliette. My mum is pretty feminist but my aunts drive me mad when I see them. Over the summer we all spent a weekend at my parents and my aunts spent the Sunday cleaning and sorting/decluttering my parents kitchen. They made sure they told my sis nd me that we should be doing that every time we visited because now our parents are getting on a bit they aren't able to manage (they can manage, they just choose not to, same as me). Did they give that lecture to my brother? No. My brother is a fully grown adult which lives in that house but he's a man so they didn't think he should have to do cleaning I think I put them straight.

In Dsis's house no one is allowed to make a cup of tea without making one for BIL. And DD and her two daughters cook all the meals and take them to BIL on a tray. Sometimes we get to sit in the kitchen while he watches the TV. But it's me with the attitude problem who should be stricter on my DD.

DD should be Dsis.

blimey. my mum bemoans the lack of help from my brothers when we're all at home together, but blames herself for not having taught them better

i point out to her that (1) they have two parents, and (2) socialisation

she still blames herself

Yo!! (Too much Breaking Bad, I know) Can I come in...? I LOVE any pub that I can freely go to the bar and not feel like a spied-on plece of cattle.

Welcome Pepper, no Eyes of the Patriarchy allowed in this pub, otherwise we set Goaty Fucker on them to deal with them .

Popping in to mark my place. No booze, thanks,am nursing a Campari hangover.

Ha! I have a wonderful mental image of some creepy dude eyeing out a women's arse in a pub, but with Goaty Fucker behind him eyeing up his arse, getting her (I assume Goaty Fucker is a nanny-goat) eye in for a good run-up....

Would anyone like some Lindt with strawberry cheesecake filling? I sneaked it past the PinkStinks detector cos it's lush!

The DH and I were driving down to Manchester yesterday and weekend woman's hour comes on Radio 4. DH is now a confirmed R4 listener and listens to R4 everyday as well. Anyway, Jenni Murray comes on talking to someone or other and DH said,

'I prefer the other presenter'
'Oh, really?' says I
'Yes, this one was doing an interview the other day, and just wouldn't shut up going on at her guest, trying to get her to say what she wanted her to say'
' ' is my reply,
'Oh shit,' he said, 'This is exactly what you bang on about all the time, isn't it? If it had been a man, I wouldn't even have noticed, would I?'

Apart from the banging on bit I thought this was rather good. It's not just the equal shares of wifework that make a difference, it's also the noticing how completely we have all been socialised into discreet gender roles. It's quite weird watching someone else finally 'get it' though.

aroomofourown.org/if-you-were-a-feminist-by-the-real-thunder-child/

this is a good post, perhaps to link to when you get a well-meaning but somewhat misguided male poster

Hello hello. Please may I have a large mug of tea?

awright trev, one bucket of tea coming up

(i hope you don't mind that i call you trev. it pleases me enormously but i'm not sure why)

Mug of tea for me too please

Thanks for sharing that blogpost Petula, it's a great read.

Trev is fine by me, and thanks for the tea!

Ooh a horse called Trev won a big race in France over the weekend!
(I believe its actual name was Treve, which I assume means something in forrin )

trêve means truce in french (i think), if that makes sense?