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Torn perineum during sex. Can I have a handhold / hug? Very sore

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Feelinglost006 · 22/01/2021 05:01

Exactly that. I had sex at the weekend. Used a condom (Tesco brand and they seemed to go very dry very quickly anyone tempted by the cheaper price compared to durex and mates etc - DONT! they are truly awful and will leave you feeling red raw) added some water based lube and felt much more comfortable. Was a bit sting-y having a wee afterwards. Anyway that night I felt hot, sore throat, feverish. banging headache which has taken days to shift. Immediately booked a covid test (My job brings me into contact with covid cases) so wanted to be careful and make sure. Had the test monday, isolated and tuesday it came back negative.

my privates became more and more swollen and lots of sores which resemble ulcers appeared/ I have had several vaginal births and the pain of being torn and stitched after birth has got nothing on this. Feels like millions of tiny papercuts. Surprisingly no discharge or smell. So i began warm salt baths, I wear cotton underwear anyway as I cant tolerate anything synthetic down there. I got some sudocreme which didnt help at all so got some vagisil (lidocaine for the pain)

Its just got worse and worse. I can barely walk, hardly sit down, its red hot, hard and swollen and gone a green / yellow colour between my vagina and anus and I have ulcers all over. Managed to get a GP appt after 2 days waiting. Was examined as scared it might be herpes. They had difficulty in examining me its so bad and painful but DR said I have a considerable tear in the perineum and a couple of smaller splits / grazes which have sadly become infected. Also have a temperature due to the infection.

Been prescribed 7 days anti biotics , tramadol for pain and paracetomol plus 5% lidocaine instead of the 2% . The tramadol isnt touching the pain at all. tried codeine phosphate and paracetomol before that which also did nothing. I am getting shooting pains deep into my vagina, stinging pains where it feels like someones cutting me with a razor blade and it feels constantly wet and damp (its actually very dry down there but feels damp IYSWIM I am dapping the area when i use the loo and it now looks like a faintly bloody / watery/ dirty dischage on the paper (have to really look at the loo roll to see the change in colour. still no smell thankfully.

Just feeling very sorry for myself and wanted a bit of a virtual hug. I wasnt deliberately hurt, he put several fingers in me which I enjoy but i think with the dry condom and friction from that then fingers has caused it to tear. I didnt even notice at the time . Feel a bit mortfied really.

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Feelinglost006 · 28/01/2021 08:36

@P3rsephone hmm. Saying nothing. Only the feeling of erm fullness from PIV with him and a toy from good old love honey elsewhere is no where near worth this level of hell I have been through x

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P3rsephone · 28/01/2021 09:17

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endofthelinefinally · 28/01/2021 11:43

Amitriptylene is very good for lingering nerve pain. It might be worth asking at the clinic if it is used for post herpetic pain.

Halfagonyhalfhope · 28/01/2021 12:32

My husband had amitriptyline for post shingles nerve pain and it was great. Low dose and short term just to calm things down. Thinking of you OP.x

EarringsandLipstick · 28/01/2021 18:26

@P3rsephone

Poor you and big love. Its nice bathing in the first glows and the emotional connection of love. If you ever find yourself single, a bit of naughty is nice.
Er, what @P3rsephone ?

What a weird thing to write on this thread.

EarringsandLipstick · 28/01/2021 18:27

How are you doing OP?

Would it worth following up on some of the ongoing issues with the GP? Especially on the recommendations of the last few PPs (not P3rsephone)

BeckyWithTheGoodHair5629456 · 28/01/2021 18:50

OP it sounds like you're having an awful time. As you now know it's type 1, the good news is you will likely never ever get another outbreak. I have had this from a boyfriend who unknowingly had the start of a coldsore. I had one awful initial episode and have never had another outbreak. That must have been 12 years ago now. Good luck with your recovery Thanks

Doingitaloneandproud · 28/01/2021 19:09

Sorry to hear about this OP, I see someone recommended L-Lysine which is a god send. I suffer from cold sores, but since taking 1x1000mg of L-L every day, the sores are less frequent. If I do have an outbreak then I up it to 3 times a day spaced out and the length the attacks last are less.
I do also have a little machine to try and stop them in its tracks, but can't be used on genital area, it's called Herpotherm.
I hope you feel better ASAP and are managing to rest up Thanks

Feelinglost006 · 29/01/2021 21:44

Thanks again everyone. Feeling a lot better. Had a bad night last night as the painkillers wore off in the night and I was feeling bloody awful. Have got on top of them again through the day and feeling much better. That one ulcer is still lingering and stinging and causing stinging paper cut type pain but the others have all gone. I am going back to work Monday as this has been my rest week. Dreading it with the tiredness but hopefully turned a corner and now need to explore suggestions of how to combat stress and anxiety in general

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Halfagonyhalfhope · 29/01/2021 21:51

Hopefully it will heal up quickly 💐

CoffeeRunner · 29/01/2021 22:04

Very glad to hear you’ve turned a corner OP. Hope you feel back to normal soon.

Haggisfish · 29/01/2021 22:09

Oh thank goodness you’re on the (very slow) mend. You poor thing.

notapizzaeater · 29/01/2021 22:13

Hope you start feeling better soon, could you tag some holiday days in to make sure you're fully recovered ?

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Feelinglost006 · 30/01/2021 01:56

The nurse who has seen me twice doesn’t think sepsis. Just a very very bad virus which hit me hard and is taking its time to clear hence extending the anti virals longer.

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CausingChaos2 · 30/01/2021 21:00

So sorry to hear you’ve been through hell with this Flowers really hope you’re on the mend now.

I have vulval eczema which means having a wee is often painful. I don’t know if this would be helpful and wouldn’t want to make anything worse for you - but I’ve been prescribed a barrier cream that is usually used for incontinence to protect the skin. It just means your wee doesn’t get into the sore bits. Sending you best wishes.

TreacleHart · 01/02/2021 18:23

Hope you are on the road to recovery now ? How did the return to work go ?

LadyLolaRuben · 06/02/2021 11:10

How are things OP?

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