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Hi

As my user name says this summer the Ryan Air seatbelt did not fit.
Yesterday I had to sit on a wooden deck chair and I found myself trying to Google what the weight limit could be

So tomorrow I start a diet.
So many threads on Mumsnet are for people much smaller than me
I'm 18 stones and 5lbs.

Please feel free to join if you are seriously overweight, please don't join if you are just averagely fat.

It must have been very hard but also (in a way) a relief to hear that @NoDishiForRishi , and well done again for talking about these things! Did they give you any idea of how long the referral would take?

Not much news from me this weekend apart from DP being an absolute arse and spending most of the time in a foul temper. He got very drunk Friday night, spent yesterday snapping at everyone whilst insisting that he didn't have a hangover, and has eaten loads and sat on the sofa for hours despite telling me how much he wants/ needs to lose weight (around 8st!). The only benefit from this is that I spend time and burn calories cleaning and tidying to avoid him

Going to weigh in tomorrow morning to see the extent of what I still need to lose. Sigh...

They didn't give an exact length, just said that the waiting list was 'long'. I'm not expecting it to be this year or the first half of next. The NHS is in tatters.

Nothing much to report here, I have discovered that I can no longer eat cheese the way I like too (in copious melty amounts) or else I spend the night glued to the toilet, so the metformin is doing something! I've also stopped adding extra salt when cooking, cause blood pressure. Weigh in tomorrow morning.

Hope you are all well!

It's that time of the week! I've lost 1.6kg, that's the second week in that region, I feel that that's a nice steady trickle and if I can maintain that then I'll be happy. So far I don't feel too deprived, I miss the ease of takeaways and obviously all the delicious grease but I'm not ravenously hungry all the time so that's something. The metformin does seem to be doing something, as in its making me spend hours on the loo if I have something too fatty, so far its mince and cheese that sets it off. It's not suppressing my appetite in any way but I find myself avoiding things that I think might set it off because I don't want to be ill. Every cloud and all that!

I had a very productive call with the doctor this morning (they rang me at 8:10am!) and she explained all my blood results to me, they are all within an acceptable normal range and the ones that were high should lower with continued weight loss, they are going to repeat the liver test yearly due to a family history of liver disease. Which has put my mind at ease. It is looking like I'll end up on blood pressure meds though.

So yes, a good start to the week here. Now to try and carry that momentum through the rest of it. Hope you are all well!

Starting weight: 161.0kg

Goal weight: 72.0kg

Total Loss: 5.6kg (12.3lbs or 0.8 stones)
Still too lose: 83.4kg (13.1 stones)

16/09/24: 158.6kg Loss: 2.5kg (5.5lbs)
23/09/24: 157.1kg Loss: 1.5kg (3.3lbs)
30/09/24: 155.5kg Loss: 1.6kg (3.5lbs)

Well done @NoDishiForRishi !
Every tiny bit counts

I could not face weighing this morning
I didn't properly diet this last week I sprint a lot of it in the car but I have been out walking
Back to working from home now.

Hi
Can I join you all please? I am 5’5” and 17 stone, the heaviest I’ve ever been.
I have fibromyalgia and various breathing issues, so find exercise a struggle.
I just don’t seem to have an off switch when it comes to eating, once I start I just keep going.
It blows my mind sometimes when I think of how much I need to lose, so need to start thinking of it as a little bit at a time.
I like the idea of coming on here and making myself accountable to others who understand

Can I join too please? I'm 5ft5ins and 15st 4.5lbs this morning. I'm on the old side I guess at 68, with an under active thyroid which is medicated. I have been trying all year to lose weight without success - I just keep falling off the wagon, making excuses, not exercising at all as I hate it and on top of that eating life's problems and giving myself a food based reward system for every perceived achievement. I'm sure all of this will resonate.with most of you here.
I started a couple of weeks ago at 15st 8lbs which is the heaviest I've ever been in my life and I feel really ashamed that I've let myself go in this way. Anyway, I'm a carb addict currently sporting a large bread baby so my current regime revolves around trying to stick to a low carb diet with absolutely NO bread since that is carb crack to me.
On the plus side I have a great DH and 5 wonderful adult DD's so it's not all bad.
I too, like you @rottweilersrock feel the need to come on here to stay accountable. Hopefully we can all support each other on our respective journeys.

Lost 1lb

Welcome @rottweilersrock and @recklessgran

Well done @121Diet it's all headed in the right direction!

(It's me NoDishiForRishi, fancied a name change)

Well that didn't work! 😂😂😂

🤣

well done @121Diet

Still trying to be good.
Last night DH and I went out to the Toby carvery. I had turkey, no Yorkshire and felt I was being quite restrained with only two roast potatoes and just normal veg on my plate otherwise. No dessert. We do this every Thursday so I think I will need to cut out the roast potatoes altogether. I shall aim for one next week and none thereafter.
I'm out with a g/f for lunch today so that may be dangerous as we generally head for the pub. Hmm.
Hope everybody is doing O.K.

Hi there, I'm similar, I understand the breathing issues. I got referred to respiratory last week, due to the GP and they said basically to lose weight.

Some crackles in the lungs. Anyway, not sure if they took it seriously because of my weight :-( I also have chronic pain from shingles, and depression.

Welcome @Orangesandlemons77 and @rottweilersrock

Well done to @121Diet !

@NoDishiForRishi I have no idea of metric weights, but have just converted my stats into kg in the vague hope that they would look better so they are:

CW: 94.3kg
TW: 66.2kg
To lose: 28.1kg

Not sure it cheered me up really

@recklessgran, we are the same height but you have a tiny bit more to lose (I'm 14st 12lb) - it's the heaviest I've ever been except when pregnant - with twins hats off to you with FIVE DC by the way - DTS2 has just had an absolute meltdown about going to an activity that he usually loves - I wouldn't mind so much but (a) I had checked and double checked with him that he wants to go, and (b) it's his birthday on Tuesday and I really need him out of the house so I can wrap his presents! DP has finally taken him, I'm just having a bit of calm down time with a coffee before I start the wrapping...

Still here and still fat.

My willpower is non expensive at the moment.

@EvangelineFox I hope you've got your wrapping done and thank you - your "tiny bit" comment really, genuinely, made me laugh out loud so thanks for brightening up my day!
My DD2 has boy/girl twins now 18 but goodness me it was like having a liquidiser without a lid when they were small so kudos to you!
[I actually miss being outnumbered so make the most of it.]
I don't do metric cos I live in a 1970's bubble but in order to keep up with the times;
CW 97.2 kgs
TW 76.2Kgs
To lose; 21Kgs.
I'll be happy at 12 stone as don't want to look haggard - for now people say I don't look my age so I'm hoping to stay that way.
BTW I wasn't good yesterday.
Sausage sandwich and a JD and coke with g/f in the pub and a chippy tea saw me eating plaice and chips BUT I only ate the actual fish and no batter and only allowed myself 12 chips. Yesterday's win was I ate NO snacks at all. That on it's own is a result. Baby steps right?
DD1 is staying this weekend and I can hear her pottering around so need to get the bacon rolls on. I will be good and just have bacon and egg - no carb crack for me!
Hope everyone has a great weekend.

I only use kg's as that's what the doctor uses 😂 I much prefer lbs, it looks much more impressive numbers wise.

I was baaaaaad yesterday. Chips and cheese and pizza, which I of course regretted this morning. I've managed a pretty good deficit this week though so it shouldn't do too much damage. That's what I'm telling myself anyway!

Off to the seaside today! So lots of walking. Taking advantage of the last of the nice ish weather.

I've handed my blood pressure results in, fully expecting to be put on medication as it is quite high. Haven't heard anything about my PTSD referral.

Hope you are all well! Have a good weekend!

Please can I join. I'm 5'4" and 13:8.
Really need to control my eating badly/ sugar/carb addiction. I am so ashamed of how I look and feel and at 60 feel old and frumpy 😔

Please can I join? I’m 55 and 100.6kg down from 117.1kg start of November last year.

Lost over 100lbs about 6 years ago and got really fit so thought I had cracked it but then had an injection to induce menopause pre hysterectomy and put on 33lbs in less than 3 months which the gynae nurse said was the injection and that it would come off once I started running again once recovery, Had surgery and just as I was recovering got Covid which took ages to recover from and ended up on an inhaler. Then in desperation due to joint pain I took HRT, piled on even more weight and to add insult to injury I triggered a huge flare of psoriatic arthritis which in hindsight I had for years.

Struggled to walk due to the psoriatic arthritis and then my hip started going. It turns out I had hip dysplasia and it was always going to go at some point but timing was spectacularly bad with psoriatic arthritis flare and I became immobile until surgery this summer which has been great and am now regaining my mobility.

I’ve been prescribed meds for the arthritis and annoyingly gain weight on them. First time wasn’t too bad as I was actively trying to lose so only went up a pound or so but it stopped me losing about 6lbs as was in deficit at the time. Had to stop and restart recently and this time was trying to maintain as recovering from surgery so found at the start of last week I was up by over half a stone which I feel really cross about.

At the same time blood tests came just back and my cholesterol has gone from and is now high so it is time to get really serious again. I found last time the weight loss from the meds did start again after a few weeks and have been back on full dose for over 3 weeks so think I should start losing again and being very strict since last Tuesday has seen a shift on the scales though my calorie intake has been too low to sustain for any length of time.

I feel so frustrated by it all but refuse to give up as my health is really suffering with high blood pressure, high cholesterol, asthma and fatty liver disease. However I am loving being able to walk again so not all bad. Apologies for the length of this and look forward to getting to know you all.

Hello! Joining please.

I am 19st 11lbs, 5 foot 6.
Started last week calorie counting with nutra check app, weighing in tomorrow. Trying to fast too so not eating until around 1pm. Easier on busy week days.

Just heading out on a walk then back for lunch. Will post food later and read up on the thread x

Evening all, it's good to see more new joiners - welcome everyone and good luck! I've not had a bad weekend and feel that I'm making progress with curbing the constant snacking. I'm trying to stick to lowish carb and two meals a day so yesterday was bacon and egg for brunch and sausages, runner beans and peas for dinner. We were out at the theatre last night so I took a small bag of sweet and salty popcorn with me to chomp on whilst DH indulged in his usual grab bag of chocolates [skinny devil he is too!]. Today, bacon and egg again, a piece of cheese mid afternoon and currently roasting a chicken which I shall have without Yorkshire pudding or roasties. I'll have a fairly large portion of meat with cauliflower cheese, broccoli and carrots and that will be it for today. I've distracted myself by doing quite a lot of online Christmas shopping.

Morning all! And hello to all newcomers!

Ugh. I've gained this morning. I won't lie, I'm disappointed in myself. I made some very bad decisions over the weekend. I let my emotions get the better of me and fell back on bad habits. No excuses. I ate food I know isn't good for me because it was easier than feeling what I'm feeling. But it's done now. Onwards and upwards. Today is a new day and the start of a new week.

Starting weight: 161.0kg (25.3 stones)

Goal weight: 72.0kg (11.3 stones)

Total Loss: 5.0kg (11lbs or 0.7 stones)
Still too lose: 84kg (13.2 stones)

16/09/24: 158.6kg Loss: 2.5kg (5.5lbs)
23/09/24: 157.1kg Loss: 1.5kg (3.3lbs)
30/09/24: 155.5kg Loss: 1.6kg (3.5lbs)
07/10/24: 156.1kg Gain: 0.6kg (1.3lbs)

Hope you are all doing well!

Welcome to @Zazu44 and @brbg2g!

@recklessgran, twins are indeed a whole new sort of carnage mine are at the stage now of not wanting to do some activities together, but there's only so much we can take them to separately given time constraints! I mean I get why they don't and we facilitate it as much as possible, but still... well done on resisting too much carb crack there's a low carb bootcamp on MN which I'd like to do, but can't see myself ever being organised enough to go completely low carb!

@Seaitoverthere my DM had a bad hip and knee problem, probably due to her being overweight (and having arthritis) for many years - she refused to do anything about it because "what can doctors do anyway" and now is pretty much crippled - I absolutely dread ending up like that. My cholesterol is on the high side too but I'm trying hard to reduce it.

@NoDishiForRishi I'm with you on the food side letting me down! I do plenty of walking but it isn't enough to shift any weight...

As for me, I've stayed the same this week - well, lost a few ounces but not enough to make the scales move in any noticeable way! - which was a bit disappointing as I'd done a long and arduous walk Thursday and been on the move constantly over the weekend too, but we had birthday celebrations here so there was a meal out and some cake

I've been to an exercise class tonight for the first time in years, really enjoyed it! I've noticed though that if I do anything for myself such as this, DP is in an awful mood when I get home - bitchy, moany, generally trying to bring me down - despite it not impacting on his evening one bit. Whenever he wants to go out - for a drink/ meal/ weekend away/ holiday with his mate - he just goes, whereas it feels I have to negotiate for an hour every now and then. Tonight he spent his time saying "well if only I had the time to go back to the gym, I'd lose weight" (er you could go any night DP, we would cope without you), "it's your fault I'm fat, you make all the meals (well, then do something about it, cook for yourself once in a while!) and the worst "there's no point in exercise, look at you, you keep busy and you're still fat." When he is in a mood like this I just have to walk away and ignore him

@NoDishiForRishi that’s the key to it I think, just keeping on going. I feel it is unrealistic to think we won’t eat things that aren’t good for us at some point and actually I think learning to do so and keeping going is an important thing to be able to do for maintenance. The habits of a lifetime don’t disappear over night unfortunately.

@EvangelineFox that must be hard seeing your Mum like that. What a shame she won’t get help as orthopaedic surgery is hard work to get through but like some kind of miracle. My Mum had her hip replaced and didn’t do the physio so never got back to walking so I have been determined to do as told and physio is pleased with my progress though having been so immobile for about 2.5 years my body has a lot of relearning to do.

Well done for going to an exercise class and that is great that you enjoyed it. Sorry to hear of your DH’s reaction though. I guess you losing weight has shifted the dynamic in your relationship and he is responding in a way that must be very difficult to be on the receiving end of. I know I would find that very hard.

I think weight loss in general can shift the dynamics in all kinds of our relationships. When I lost a large amount of weight before a couple of friendships got a bit weird.

The scales are definitely moving again thank goodness and I am gently trying to move my calorie intake back up a little as don’t want it too low with a long way ti go. I work on attaining a deficit on a weekly basis depending on how much I want to lose and generally include a day or two of higher calories so will do this at the weekend as am away for a night.

Hi all! Thank you for the kind words @EvangelineFox and @Seaitoverthere like my dad would say its a marathon not a sprint. I've stumbled and now I need to right myself again.

Monday wasn't a good day, I had a panic attack on Sunday night, big PTSD flashback that felt like it came from nowhere but in hindsight I know has been triggered by what felt like a flood of posts about pregnancy loss awareness week, which also feels like its fucking everywhere at the moment, I usually cope ok but it has snuck up on me this year. So when I saw the scales on Monday morning I got lost in a pit of 'what's the point' and ended up ordering from the chippy. Not great.

Tuesday and today have been better though, I got a call from the mental health people and they are referring me to a specialist NHS trauma service that deals with birth trauma and child loss. And on the back of pregnancy loss awareness week, I ordered a baby loss certificate this morning, I know its not official in any way but to have the government issue these certificates as recognition of what we've lost means a lot. I can't put it properly into words but its helped.

Hope you are all doing well.

I'd love to join in!
57 years old, weighed pushing 21 stones at my heaviest and I too had to use a Ryanair seat extender last year. I have thought it was likely for years but it finally happened in 2023.
When Michael Mosely died, all the talk of his 5:2 diet piqued my interest and my dh and I decided on a whim to give it a go.
I started using Nutracheck to calorie count and do 800 calories twice a week and 2000 for the other five days.
At the same time. I started doing Walk at Home videos on YouTube three times a week and generally walking more.
Since June 17 I have lost just under two stones and have dropped two sizes in jeans.
I still weigh over 15st so have a long way to go but for the first time probably ever, I feel I might just do it!